My first sexual experience

Last night, I went out with a friend of mine, we were drinking and dancing, having fun. Until we met this 4 guys, cute guys, they were in a band, they started talking about The Beatles.. I was thrill, so we continue the drinking, we continue the dancing.. so I started making out with one of the guys. Cute, Fun, laid-back kinda guy. Until we decided it was time to change the scene, we went to their hotel room... 4 guys, 2 girls ( plz do not think an orgy took place, it didn't).

So we talked, dranked, walked around, until by "coincidence" we ended alone in the room. So I've been alone for a long time since my last relationship, and I've been feeling really sexual lately, to not say horny . So the making out got really intense, like I was not thinking, just enjoying the moment. Getting carried away. I've never had sex with anyone, so that tought came into my mind a couple of times, but before I could grasp on it, it fade away. No love, No nothing involved, it was all just physical, two persons that liked each other, doing what they wanted. It didn't felt wrong.

But well I can't say it was the worst sexual experience of my life, because it was my first.. but I ended up no wanting to have sex again, I mean, there was no pleasure, just pain, and like the whole time it kept slipping out, and ahh sex hurts. I just felt stupid like I didn't know what I was doing, and today Im still in pain.

 

It hurts the first time, but once that is out of the way, the other times are pleasure.

 

It doesn't have to hurt the first time. Mine didn't. I waited until I was out of my teens though. But did you tell the guy that you were a virgin? I know of a guy that was so inlove with his virgin girlfriend that he took a whole day (I think it was about 7 hours) getting her ready. He bathed her and massaged her.... She didn't get hurt at all and she was a tiny girl (under 5') Not that that means anything.

Every girl is different though. Some don't have a full hymen some lose it through masturbation/tampons or a bike accident in Junior High.

I'm sure the next time will be better. Hopefully, you'll be with a guy that understands what you need and is patient. Don't worry about feeling akward. That's to be expected.

If you're still in pain today try having a hot bath with some salts (epsom or scented). That should help relax you and ease the pain.

Congratulations though. That's a big thing to go through.

Saje

 

Thanx for your words Saje... really

 

I don't think there's anything to say other than what Saje already has. I just wanted you to know that there's someone else to reiterate those sentiments. Some day the fact that you didn't enjoy your first time will probably be a funny story you tell with your friends.

And if it kept slipping out ... the guy probably didn't know what he was doing, either. No worries, mate.

I like the bath idea ... go relax. And smile.

 

my first time didn't hurt for me. Mind you, it was my idea... my boy was a little reluctant, wanted to make sure we'd waited long enough and everything. We were in love. But anyways...

if it hurts, tell him what he's doing is hurting. Did you guys have enough foreplay? So crucial for sex to be good. I can't cum without it, and I rarely enjoy myself without it. Like chrisn said, he probably didn't know what he was doing if he kept slipping out. or else he was ridiculously short (I mean, like two inches or less, which is pretty rare). For your next experience, I would recommend going really slowly, exploring each others bodies, making sure you tell each other what moves feel really good and which ones are less than spectacular. Good luck next time!

 

Jesus, that guy must be a knock-out.

 

Well, he was really in love with her and wanted it to be a good experience. I guess she really enjoyed it too.

Saje

 

yah not sure if getting real drunk (if you were) was the best idea and it being your first time and with someone you probably didnt really care didnt help either...but idk how girls really think, but he probably didnt care much (was just looking for a piece of ass and he might of been too drunk to even focus hence the slipping out and also maybe why it hurt (having sex too hard)), he was probably just thinking about getting himself off and not pleasuring you first

 

Yeah.. i know that wasn't the best way.. like in a drunk state or with a guy I just met a couple of hours ago. I wasn't that drunk.. just drunk enough, and it felt right at the moment. I'm that kinda person, like If it feels right.. just go ahead..

It was meaningless sex.. nothing more.

 

Oh, don't ever feel bad about it. I don't think it was a bad way to lose your virginity. At least you had a connection and attraction. Some people don't even have that!
Saje

 

Don't worry.. I actually don't. I mean many others time It could had happen with persons that there was love involved, and people that care about me, as I care about them.. but in those times, it never felt right.

On Sat.. I felt that everything was ok.. and good.. there aren't no regrets. Just a new experience of my life.

BTW.. Saje U rock .. whenever I read something u posted, it brings a smile to my face.

 

Oh yeah?! Thanks. That's nice to hear.

My first experience was similar to yours. Well, sort of. I was older (22 or 23 I think- really, its true) And I had waited until I felt ready. I then I felt ready but the guys were right... Anyway, I was living in Japan and I met a guy and we were attracted to eachother. He actually didn't want to do it cuz he was going to be there for only a month and he didn't want me to get too attached blah blah blah. That's the reason I wanted to do it. I was having a lot of fun and didn't want to be in a relationship. Particularly, not with him. He was a good guy and all just not at any point in his life where I would have wanted to be with him.

To make a long story slightly shorter we ended up having sex on my balconey with at least two people watching. We didn't know they were watching when we started but caught them later. I thought it was funny.

The point of my story is to say that my experience was similar because i was physically and mentally ready but the emotion wasn't there between us.

I don't have any regrets. It was several years before I finally had sex with someone of my own nationality! LOL (I went to Chile after Japan)

I'm not sure I remember the point.

Oh well, I hope you aren't so sore.

Saje

 

You are from Chile?? That's one of my favorite countries, I want to visit it.

I love it, because it has its own thing going on, and there's a little bit of everything there.

Yeah im like.. a great new experience, and i like doing things in my own time and on my own way.

Ahh.. im no so sore.. im ok now..

 

I'm not from there, I just lived there for a year. I met a guy there and was engaged to for awhile. He didn't speak any English except "Kiss my penis" LOL and "My beautiful baby."

 

It was meaningless sex, and you don't seem all that happy about having had it. Is that likely to change your flippant attitude about having meaningless casual sex? One would hope you do not turn down a chance to learn a bit from this experience.

It's not rare or anything to be "the kinda person like if it feels right just go ahead." But if you are using your feelings exclusively, and not thinking rationally about a decision you are about to make, you might end up going down a few really bad paths. Be careful. You didn't mention whether you used a condom or not, or even if you exchanged oral sex at all. (If not, this guy really was a loser: the kind of jerk who thinks it's all about putting his dick in a girl.) I sure hope you didn't end up, by random chance, with a guy who had a disease to give you. You do know that not all sexually transmitted diseases are evident for you to see -- and many can hide even from the person infected with them!

-Jeffrey

 

Jeffrey, thanx for your words, I mean those are the kinda things I say to other ppl. Of course we used a condom, if not I wouldn't had sex with him. I didn't mention it, because for me, is an obvious thing. Is not that I don't think about what I was doing, is just that I don't hesitate to do it, If I already know I want to.

I don't think this experience would stop me from other casual sex encounters.. I mean the overall experience was fun and great.. I just think the whole sex thing wasn't that fun

 

don't feel sorry bout anything... take it easy

 

You should have tried IDB. You just wasted your virginity and posted it on a message board. He did the same. And told everyone about your vagina in great detail.

 

IDB.. what's that??

I don't think it was wasted, it was nothing precious to keep. I never tought of myself as a virgin, that's a stupid word for it. I tought of myself as someone that hasn't had sex..and now I did, one more experience in my life. One more thing that I have lived.

I don't see what's wrong with posting it on a message board, I can talk about a movie, I can talk about a song, I can talk about sex.. no taboos.
And in case he did tell everything about my vagina to everyone.. you must be psychic to be so sure.. second, I think he might have done that, he had no commitment to me.
And well message boards are about being no one and sharing the stories with everyone, levaing who you are behind.