Butter's Girl Issues...Again...The Sequel!!!

Hey everyone! Did y'all miss my thread? Well, fear not, because my girl issues never end! And now, I present to you, tah dah! Butter's third girl issues thread! Whoopie!

Okay okay, so here's the poop. The last thread I had, the really long one, well...yea. Nothing ever happened, and I don't think she ever liked me from the start. Go figure, eh? BUT, I've met a new girl, who I think may actually like me. I first met her around a month ago. She came to my hall with one of her friends, and she just randomly walked in my room to say hi. She started commenting on my room, and the stuff in it and such. Then we got to talking, and then watched a movie, with her friend too. Well, I then started hagning out with the "group" that she is in, too. She was busy for a long while, so she wasn't able to be around us until just recently. Last night we were all at a party, and I was manning the bar. She stood at the bar the majority of the time to talk to me (neither of us drink, though). Then tonight we just went to dinner, and once again her attention seemed to be on me. She would voluntarily strike up conversations and such, and joke with me, and would lightly slap my shoulder, or push up against me or something. I also paid for dinner, and she kept saying to me how nice I was to do that. Well okay, long story short, my questions are....do you think she likes me, and if so, how do I NOT turn this into another "friendship"? Cut me some slack, I'm VERY bad at flirting, and dating, and such. I've never once been on a date, or anything like it. Just give me some adivce, I could really use it. Thanks all!

 

it sounds like she's into you.

new people in a circle of friends are always provocative (not necessarily in a sexual way) because you know -- to a certain extent -- that this new person is awesome, cause they're hanging out with you and your awesome friends... haha... but there's also all this newness and mystery.

anyway, you should try and hang out with her alone, without the group of mutual friends. i guess that's kind of obvious. or when you know everyone's getting together, ask her to chill beforehand and arrive together or something. or when you're all parting ways for the night, ask her if she wants to get some food. time outside of the group of friends is crucial. that's step one, at least.

other than that, don't wait too long. i'm not saying you should rush in... but, if you wait too long, you could fall into the friend catagory.

 

THE SAGA CONTINUES!
*I love it*

Inquiring minds want to know - did Butters ever ask the last girl what her feelings were or share his feelings about her with her??

Butters I say if you're into her. Tell her your into her.
If your nervous. Tell her your nervous.
If you've never been on a date. Tell her you've never been on a date.
If you want to kiss her. Tell her you want to kiss her.

Butters your gonna be such a pimp some day. Just talk to the ladies in an honest way, and if they can't dig it then, then you don't wanna have a serious relationship with them anyways. (you don't seem like the type thats just trying to get a piece of ass)

It sounds like you've been a perfect gentlemen, you two have lots in common and she has been dropping hints. Your just not experienced enough to have confidence in the meaning behind the 'hints', so just talk to her!!!!!!!!

 

it sounds as if she likes you, the part where you said she would randomly touch you is a dead give away. i think i agree with whats already been said, you need some one on one time with her. don't want it to just be a friendship? start returning her signals with some of your own! if she thinks you're not interested she'll move on. if you see her looking at you, look back at her and smile. stuff like that. good luck

 

do what lawngirl says; good advice there. the longer you wait, the further into that "friends" category you go... imo, so log off, and go get her

 

You lie

 

You seem like a nice guy and you are good looking... follow everyone elses advice and you will be wonderful. And just out of curiosity where do you go to school in the Midwest?

 

She's into you. Just kiss her. Really.

 

Well, I'm going to assume that you are being sarcastic, but just in case...No. I have never once been on a date, and I am 18 and in college. Sad, yes. But, I hope to change that now. I've decided that I'm going to hang out with her in teh group once or twice more, THEN if I still get good vibes, I'll move in and ask her to dinner or something. Thats where I need more advice from y'all. How do I go about asking her, and what's the best to do? Thanks again for all the advice so far with me, and I'll actually ask her out for real this time, no joke. I promise. But, I can't exactly log of and go get her now...I'm home on break. But I will when I get back. And Hipkatmeow, thanks for the "good looking" comment. Guess I'm not as bad as I thought! :&

 

Some Advice. 1. Go www.askmen.com and start reading Doc Loves articles.I've been reading his articles for the last 3-4 years. At first glance his advice seems illogical but if you apply the tactics he teaches you will find that they work. Doc Love's theory is that women like men that are a challange. That theory explains why women like jerks(a negative challenge) over "nice" guys. His advice will teach you how to be a positive challange. He also teaches certain behaviour traits and patterns that will help women to see you as boyfriend material instead of "just friend" material. Read some of his back issue articles and you will get the gist of his theories and how to apply them in real life situations.


2. Go to www.doubleyourdating.com David DeAngelo has an e-book that sells for only $30 download it and read it over and over until his ideas are assimilated.
AS with Doc Love, David's advice seems illogical at first. His advice tells you to be cocky and funny with women. Yes this seems counterintuitive but it works like a charm.

Here's a short summation of the two.

You meet a woman that you are interested in. Get her email while she's writing down her email say"write your phone # down too." DO NOT say something like "can I get your phone # or do you want to go out sometime?
Then wait a few days to email/call her. Set up a date. NO flowers,stuffed animals etc at this point. Gift giving this early makes it seem like you are trying too hard.
The date. You decide what you want to do. Don't ask her "what do you want to do?" Go for coffe and then maybe dinner. While out tease her and bust on her a bit.Remember be cocky and funny. Keep the conversation light, no heavy topics. Don't go to a movie. Not yet. How are you gonna get to know each other while you are staring at a screen for 2 hours?
Let your actions speak for you. If you ask a woman for her #email etc and ask he out she will know that you like her.If you tell her you'll come across as trying too hard. Don't ask a woman if she likes you. That comes across as being insecure.Go easy on the compliments and on the touching. Also pratice relaxed, self confident body language. BTW: First dates are best kept to one on one.

End of the date. The Kiss Test. A good way to gauge a woman's receptiveness to a kiss is this. Reach out and touch or stroke a strand of hair. She goes for this then she is ready to be kissed. Go for the kiss on the first date.BTW: Don't ask to kiss her. Just do it. Don't tell her that you've never been on a date before After the first date wait a few days to call her.

I wish that this advice had been around when I was your age.

BTW: From your description this particular lady sounds like she is really into you. Be assertive, go for it!!!! CARPE DIEM!!!! (seize the day)

 

Butters just be yourself.

The only reason you're having a hard time is b/c your giving yourself a hard time. If you try to be someone your not, then you will get a girl that you do not want. The girls that don't like you for you, aren't worth your time.

 

Okay, thanks to everyone for the advice! I really need it, and I appreciate everyone putting up with me. I don't go back until Monday, but who knows, maybe you all will finally read GOOD results! I have another question though. This has happened to me before, so I want to know...how do I distinguish if she really does like me, or if she is just being nice? I thought one girl really liked me, but it turned out she was only being nice as a friend...so how do I tell? And keep the advice coming, I could use it all!

 

fucking ask her straight up!!!!

 

I know, I know...But I don't want to scare her off, or make her mad, or anything like that! I'm just worried...I've lost quite a few so far, and I don't want to lose another one...

 

Get her alone and whip it out. Works like a charm

 

Okay okay, I get it now....haha. Well, I'll "whip it out" probably tomorrow or wednesday, I'll see her both those days. Hahaha, "whip it out"...oh man...

 

Do you want to be with a girl that gets offended THAT EASILY anyways? It's just a question, a clarification. Any bitch that would get offended so easily isn't worth your time worrying about anyways bro.

would you agree?

 

Its looking good everyone! We all went ice skating this afternoon, and she really seemed to be hanging around me the most. She would skate with me and stuff, and then she held hands with me for a while too....well, she needed support from me because she wanted to skate backwards, but it was still contact! She also talked to me alot, and kept thanking me and complimenting me for being so nice and gentleman-like. Hahaha, I'm all giddy right now! But in all seriousness, I'm not even thinking about her in sexual ways or anything like that at all. All I keep thinking about is how happy I feel being around her, and how great of a person she is. I'm going to try and ask her out soon...but finals start next week, and I don't know if there will be time now...But I think that she likes me. In other words...I had a great day today! Just thought I'd let you all in on an update!

 

ask her.... NOW!!!!!

 

Hey all. Finals have been hectic so far, and everyone is studying hard. But, we all managed to fit in another group dinner, and once again she seemed to be most comfortable around me. She sat next to me voluntarily, and talked to me the most. I'm definetly going to ask her out...but I've decided to wait until after our winter break. I don't want to start something, and then leave just a few days later. But I have a strong hunch that she's into me. My friends, who know her alot better than me, say that I have a really good chance. So....I can't say more than that now, because like I said I'm going to wait. But I'll tell you whenI do! I promise! And hints on what I could do to improve my situation???