Yup, I sound pathetic bitching about it and you're all going to laugh at me, but the net is anonymous so I don't give a crap. Objectively, I'm not trying to brag, I'm good looking, sociable, I have a job, everything's going for me, but I never find girls. I'm realizing more and more that I need to be more aggressive and fake, and to make a concerted effort rather than passively waiting for them to come to me, which never really works in my case. I'm talking about an all-out raid of coffeeshops, bars and wherever else attractive girls are likely to hang out. Suggestions appreciated.
After being back-stabbed a few times, i didn't date for 4 years. Then recently (8 monthsish) ago i decided I was going to look high and low for a girlfriend. ..I pray you heed my words, that i dated several women within the last 8 months and I realize now that none of them were who I'd really want to be with, I just wanted to be with someone so badly I thought they would do.
I am exactly where you are right now, looking high and low for a woman. It is no so difficult to find a woman per say, but like another fellow poster has pointed out, finding the right woman can take time. Focus your time and energies on meeting women that are in places you have an interest in, that is if you are interested in spirituality, go to spiritual gatherings to meet them. At least that's what I should do...used craiglist and have already found a friend with benefits. Don't know what to do about that one though, but hey this is your thread! Good luck with life man, adios, Sloan
stop realising this mate, cause its simply not true and thinking it causes you to become some beefcake brainless moron that you truly aren't. [/QUOTE]and to make a concerted effort rather than passively waiting for them to come to me[/QUOTE] go halfway somewhere. active chasing looks desperate.
Don't do this unless all you're looking for is a one night stand. Intelligient and genuine girls will be able to see through your act. You'll end up with an equally fake girl.
