I need some advice. Please read

This is what has happened to me...and its shit!! Thats why I recommend you play it cool, keep busy with other stuff and dont make him a priority.

 

if he won't cvommit, then try to forget about him. he's just not worth your time if he's not willing to commit to you.

 

true.. just been keeping busy today and yesterday.. and I havent text him in ages. hows it going

 

I think he would commit, but its the fact of trusting him completely. hopeall is well

 

Is he out? Do people know he's gay? And are you comfortable with people knowing you are? Like would you have a relationship with him and be open about it or would it have to be hush hush?

I'm ok...haven't heard from him since last weekend. Its like i really dont know where i stand with him. I dont know if he doesnt really give a rats ass about me and just uses me for sex. Or if he does like me and gets pissed off and doesnt want to speak to me when i put facebook status' up about going on dates and stuff..i only do this because a-i want to give off the impression that he doesnt mean as much to me as he really does and b-i am going on dates, but only because im trying to forget about him...because i dont think he cares about me, but he might!!! do you get what i mean lol

man i thought it was only women who played games lol

 

True I think both can sometimes play games lol

I know wat you mean.. hope it been okay for you this week.. I just been busy with uni (as always lol)

I dont think he is out as when I last saw his profile on facebook, it looked like if he was straight acting or even straight.. He did use to tell me that some freinds know that he is bi or gay.. I havent spoken to him in ages (inabout over a week) he aint been on msn as much.. and he aint repying to my texts.. and for somreason he seem angry that I said to him that i may love him (as you say to freinds lol).. then i asked him that he said the same thing to me.. and then he says i know. I reckon he got feed up with me.. unless he really is busy.. who knows lol

I am not comfortable with anyone knowing apart from the guy that I want to be with.,. wbu?

 

I never used to be comfortable, but now i think if im not comfortable i'll never get what i truely want. so now im quite open. i dont go declaring it, but if someone asks if im gay, ill tell them the truth. and if i'm ever out with mates and i see a hot guy i'll say look at that, just how a straight bloke would with a girl.

mines gone all quiet aswell. last thing he said was oh whats happened to your new mate then? because i told him i went out with a guy the other night. id like to think he's jealous but i dont think he cares.

even if you did mean it in a friendly way you should never tell a man you love them lol it scares them! i doubt he's angry at all...just a tad weirded out maybe?

 

Its true wat you say about being comfortable about sexulaity.. I think I should just be comfortable with it. Im the same though I mean if I like sumone I will tell them.. but if not, then theres no point in them no my sexuality.

Pleased to hear yours has got quite well.. Try not too worry about that other guy too much.
You are right though I should of never of said love to a guy (let alone a girl lol).. Maybe it came on too strong.. wen i next speak to him, i will say I meant it in a freindship kinda way.. hopefully he does get weirded out by it.

its odd though how he is not replying to any of my texts. he ususally replies to them, even if it abit late. I hope he still likes me

 

Honestly, lose contact with him. It will be hard, but you'll be free, and find someone else who gives you this feeling. Trust me.

 

thanks.. you are probabaly right.. may I ask why you think I should completely get rid of all contact with him?

 

Its the right thing to do to make a clean break from someone. If you are really into them and you decide to just stay friends or whatever, you will always have a part of you that will be secretly hoping for something more. And you will never truely move on from it. So it is best to just cut off all contact if you cant deal with it no more. But it is way easier said than done. I've told myself to do it a few times, the longest i lasted was about two weeks. Even when you get treated like crap sometimes you just want them to like you and you cant help it.

I finally heard back from mine today...after sending two texts, all it said was that hes been busy. And that was it. It would be fine if I knew that he wasnt interested anymore because I'd move on straight away. It would be difficult but Id make myself. But because I dont know what he's thinking I want to keep him near. He wouldnt even answer if i asked him anyway, he's barely answering normal 'hi how are you' texts so a serious question would go down like a lead balloon.

When was the last time you heard from yours? Was it when you said you loved him or have you spoke since?

 

I spoke to him on msn last nite.. and told him, that I meant i loved him in a freinship kinda way.. he said he was okay with it and he said I was not weird. he also said he was not put off by it.. I spoke to him on msn last nite for about 30 mins.. he said he had been really busy with uni work. he was on there all last nite.. so i thought he must of been too busy to reply or he must of been talking to people at his ends.

Mine is similar to yours, but am not even getting any replies in text lately from him.. you are right though.. its probabaly better that I just move on and forget him, but its like there something about him i like. dont know wat it is.. maybe I feel more comfortable around him than any other guys.

Theresa couple of guys I like at uni.. but they are straight and dating..

 

If you both want nothing serious and just want some fun then it sounds ok to go
ahead and keep talking to this guy.You really dont know what you
want from this guy because you havent seen him in person...

 

True. I think he was just after some fun.. but I reckon he could want a serious relationship. should be seeing him in 2 weeks

 

What makes you think he could want a serious relationship?

 

cause he said he would like to get to know me more.

aint spoken to him since thursday evening for just 10 mins

 

I don't think you should read that as him saying that he might want a serious relationship to be honest.

 

I agree..