how do you deal with anger? I don't mean daily annoyances, I mean real anger fueled from raw desperation and observation of the fucked up nature of human society. personally, I get fucked up.
Spending any amount of time mourning over what the rest of humanity chooses to do is a supremely useless and harmful exercise and one would be best to learn to start looking within for the answers.
denial, drugs, sex, isolation journaling, meditating, and brainstorming.. when i feel like being healthy about it
this is a good idealistic answer. however, the reality is that many of us depend on other humans and human institutions for mere survival. and because of this fucked up fact, I am rapidly approaching studying survival skills, and wandering into the wilderness and living off grid
Try to understand the other person and why they would do something like what they did...and then I'm not as angry.
That's awesome. I really hope that you do it. At the same time, why is anger an inevitable product of your relationship between humans and human institutions? Have you ever actually considered dealing with the emotion itself? Too much anger isn't that good for thinking rationally. I think you'll find you'll be pleasantly surprized about the way you see the world when you learn to calm down. Anyway, I think I'm becoming a little too preachy now. Just think about it.
You should talk to thedope. He lived off grid for almost 2 years. I'm just trying to get down with DEEP breathing. If I'm angry, it's hard to turn back until I've exploded. I'm gettin' on top of that though. Weed helps. Lots and lots of weed.
We're usually angry because we're afraid. People don't consider it fear because you feel all bad ass when you're angry.
Anger is the most difficult emotion to conceal. It's also one of the most important emotions to express, since it's the rawest and most revealing emotion. Nobody ever knows what kind of person you truly are unless you are completely honest about what makes you angry, but many people are afraid to express their anger, since it is also the most dangerous emotion to express.
When I was very young I was taught that people were dangerous and not to be trusted. I got a little bit older when I realized the person teaching me that was that untrustworthy. My point is that while people are animals doing about anything they they think will help them survive... beyond that they're really not that bad. With no offense intended, your distrust of others says as much about you.
it's not so much distrust in this case, though I do admit I have trust issues. in this case the bulk of my anger is a result of putting too much trust in people, and being let down. and I have always strived to help people and keep my word. so your post makes sense conceptually, bit doesn't apply here. your subjective experiences don't define every situation. life would be a lot easier if it did
I would like to talk to him sometime. seems like a very interesting person. and I believe in the therapeutic power of weed too. without a doubt.
Here is a case where recognizing the truth could alleviate much discomfort. No one will be as concerned for your individual interests as you are. You say you strive to help people and keep your word, do you always succeed? And do you strive to do this because you care for their particular interests, or do you do so as a matter of personal principle. It is not a matter of putting too much trust in people in the respect that people just don't measure up, but not recognizing the way people are programed. It is helpful to remember that we are all subject to the same fundamental conditions. If it is true for you then it is probably true for them as well.
very insightful post. really. and for me it is definitely both, but in most situations the personal principle probably outweighs the individuals interest. but before I get much deeper into that framework I will give a few details. I made the choice at a young age to forego any type of formal education, and fix cars. I hated societal establishments even back then. and I am damn good at building and fixing cars. soon after getting locked into that industry.. I started taking night classes and eventually completed undergrad in 07. after working my ass off. I'd be doing calculus on my toolbox while waiting for a job to sell. this went on for years. during this time, by coincidence I met am attorney. her and her attorney friend were aaparently shocked by my legal accuity, and I have had a major part in drafting documents which have blown away circuit court judges. and have even written emails about my 'brilliance' these people are trying to get me into that community, but apparently not hard enough. because after working on cars all the time and helping them, I find myself unemployed in automotive, and uncompensated in law. and now facing a life on the street. then I look around and see all these people who are self serving, don't give a flying fuck about the greater good.. but live very comfortable lives. and all I want is to survive, have a place for my dogs and I to sleep, and actually contribute to the greater good. so it becomes very hard not to be angry
Those issues which I feel strongly and passionately about I have stopped sharing with others as it never seems to end well. I'm usually very relaxed and chill so when I get angry it's a big deal.
I have an 8th grade formal education. I have owned several businesses and have been a recognized authority in many circles. All this came about not because I was particularly bright but because I followed my interests and opportunity. In your situation right now, if you find yourself frustrated in finding a profitable situation, volunteer, this will get the energy exchange going. If some one wins the lottery that does not make you poorer, in the same turn your fortune needn't be at the price of some others fortune.
