Yep, another relationship question

Ok, here is a thought. You are in a relationship, things are going very well and you are "happy". Now, along comes another guy, he is cute, funny and is interested in you. He asks you out. You say, "No, I have a boyfriend." He says that he does not care and that if he has to share you with someone it would not matter because he would still get to spend time and get to know you. Again you reject him. Time goes by and he tries one more time. He is witty, and has that sparkle in his eye that makes you think.

Now, even though you are happy with your current boyfriend you are not yet in a commited relationship, IE no ring. You would still say no?

Ok, now let's say a month later you and your current boyfriend break up. You see this guy who was hounding you and he says well, he has a girlfriend. Now what would you do? What could you have done?

Life is a series of options. It's all about taking them when the present themselves. I am not saying people should not be commited to their current relationship, it just all depends on how commited you are. Don't just use the excuse that you have a boyfriend to keep you from meeting the man or woman of your dreams. I guess it all depends on the situation but who knows...

 

cant wait till your Idea dicks you nice and dirty....

 

Haha I've begun to realize that most guys think this way and it sucks haha.

 

I agree with you but at the same time she's probably doing it because she's secretly not as happy with her bf. If you're completely into someone, you will ignore all the other good looking people because your heart is set on just that one person and you want no one else but them.She just needs to make up her name mind.It does suck for her bf though who most likely have no clue.

 

It's threads like this that make guys like me (the ones with a girlfriend) really fucking paranoid... WILL YOU ALL QUIT IT!!! lol

 

lmao, rape her

 

You can respect other peoples relationships and still be open. Like, if I was with a guy, and things were going fine and all that, but then someone else came along that really sparked my interest and made me curious, and i really thought about it and couldn't pass it up, I would tell my current BF what the deal was and not deny my feelings, and hopefully whoever I was with would respect that. I think commitment is much more about being honest and open about feelings, rather than repressing them

 

i wasn't trying to say that a person in a relationship should have a blind closed mind,
i just don't think it's respectful to continuously pursue someone who is already in a relationship.

there's a big difference.... they are not mutually exclusive.. i was talking about the behavior of the person outside of the relationship.

 

it's rude for me to be doing what i'm doing? she started it. last semester i knew that she was in a relationship and i could tell that she was trying to talk to me and i talked to her a little bit but kept my distance knowing she had a bf.

this semester she had dumped him and i started talking to her a little bit and she came back to me STRONG. how is it rude that i'm pursuing a girl that gave me strong signals

i didn't talk to her last semester the way i do now because she had a boyfriend and i could tell right away she was one of those girls that would leave a guy for another guy and i hate that. so all that you've been saying i already know but it kind of puts my mind at ease so thanks

 

no my comment was more of a response to what other people were saying

buddha i still have the same advice i gave on the first page, maybe there should be honest dialogue with her and have her make a decision since you guys are already somewhat involved, i think you got it figured out

 

I agree with him that you're out of line. You're flirting with a girl that has a boyfriend and then blaming her for leading you on; when you are clearly confused about what's going down.
She may be leading you on, but she may also see you as more of a friend than a potential lover, or there could be another option neither of us has thought up.

A few questions:
Who flirts more, you or her?
Does she start the flirting or do you?
Is her flirting overtly sexual/romantic?

Well then why are you talking to her that way now that she has a boyfriend again?

It seems to me that you want you're cake and you want to eat it too. You want to keep flirting with her, but you want to blame it on her.
You want to keep yourself open to her even though she has a boyfriend, but you want her to be open to you too - even though you know she has a boyfriend.
You are involved in a relationship that you feel is wrong, yet you want it to be totally her fault.

 

i'm not blaming her for anything. i'm just confused about what she wants and what i should do is all and i'm telling you what happened...

 

women are like birds.. sometimes they like to taste different worms.
a women is free to do what she wants.. BF or no BF . She is her own person... if she flies aways.. dont go crying about it.. Its a bird..

 

that was kinda beautiful

 

they even wrote a song about it...


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OYA16z2-xFg"]YouTube- Grateful Dead - Birdsong

 

Trust your instincts...

Don't sweat the petty things, pet the sweaty things.

 

umm.. eww?

 

^ hahahaha

 

Stink my man you might have to explain that last line more

 

A full explanation would rob it of what little wit it has.

Sounds like he's been getting serious signals so IMO he's not crossing the type of ethical boundaries that some believe... so not to be concerned with the morals of some (sweating petty things) and to go for it (pet sweaty things).