Women only - It's not turning me on so lets end it quickly as possilbe.

Do you find your partner is rough on your vulva or he's doing something that either you find repulsive or just not effective in turning you on ?

 

Well this is great !!! You visit other sites and they talk about some horrendus stuff.

I'm curious to know why women won't post ?

 

2 things: timing is def an issue with gals, sometimes we need our heads clear before we can focus on 'playtime'. There's only so many hours in a day and it's hard to get swept up in passionate abandon when the laundry still needs to be done, the trash taken out, so on and so forth...it's kinda nagging in the back of your mind while Himself is whaling away at it.
And I'm gonna open a major can o' worms here and say there's a right way and a wrong way to cunnilingus. If done badly it can be almost downright annoying, so it's "cut to the chase.."
-fair 'nuff?

 

I agree with the timing thing. And when he just expects you to be as turned on as he is at any given second, without thinking you need to be turned on too.
I'm just glad my man doesn't like the idea of anal sex cos I hate it.

 

OK two good points, feeling tired, not in the mood, period etc are all good things for us men to know about before we decide when to make love to our partners.

Poor technique: again like I have said if your not doing it correctly its not affective in getting her aroused.

I have never really engaged in cunnilingus as a method of foreplay, so yes I'm very ignorant myself.

OK so picking the right time is important.

As is effective stimulation, knowing something is working can be somewhat difficult to access sometimes.

Its difficult to know what is turning her on and what is not.

Too much pressure, not enough pressure, too fast, too slow, Its a skill that takes time to master.

OK thanks for your honest response.

 

Its hard sometimes to stop and think about the other persons needs, sex can be a very selfish act, where you only really think about your own needs.

For what ever reason.

Thats the difference between fucking and making love, the former is a completely selfish act.

I know its a lose/lose to have that aproach to sex, ejaculation is not the pinnacle of male sexual arousal despite what most men would naturally think.

That is probably why some men have risked their lives or even died trying to find the ultimate high through things like for example autoerotic asphyxiation.

Which is very dangerous, and should never be attempted.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erotic_asphyxiation

There is a higher plateu that most men never experience simply because they are too lazy, ignorant, or just plain selfish.

 

depending on my mood talking dirty can turn me off, but usually nothing turns me off

 

I'd like to see more response to these questions so everybody will know what or where they're going wrong.

I guess its an area that even I would have to say is out of bounds in general conversation with my partner because i just don't want to hurt her feelings.

Still sometimes things need to be said, I'm sure many of us would also like to know.

 

Well, I was in a long relationship that just recently ended, and I found that my lack of being turned on had little or NOTHING to do with his technique or his timing. He was an ass, plain and simple, and I didn't trust him emotionally. Because I didn't trust him emotionally, getting turned on by him was virtually IMPOSSIBLE no matter how much foreplay he tried or how good his technique. There's a sort of vulnerability that one opens oneself up to during sex, and I couldn't open up. I went for 6 years without being turned on not once. Every time we had sex, I was just wanting him to get his so that he'd roll over and go to sleep, then I'd go in the other room quietly and get mine. Fortunately, I completely trust my current partner, and I get turned on just hearing his voice or seeing his face...get turned on just bein in the same room with him. So turned on that I can't even handle foreplay because the need is so urgent I have to just get down to business. Not get it over with, no. We'll go for an hour, two of lovemaking. And it's awesome, every second of it...and I'll be spent and exhausted, unable to move or barely even see straight, but still sad that it's over. Sometimes technique has nothing to do with it in long term relationships. The ability to let oneself go and entrust their body to their partner is key.

 

Well thats very interesting, so basically the mental thing has to be right also.

Mentally not switched on.

So despite what one does nothing works.

Hmmm.

G.B.

 

Thats a good post this is the kind of response I'm looking for, men will never know if they dont read these posts.

Thanks,

GB.

 

This thread is hilarious: User forms an identity around 'not being too rough' and is miffed that no one respects his talent or need. We need more entertainments like this here. I especially liked the 'fucking is a selfish act; lovemaking isn't'. LOL :2thumbsup: