Anyone else sick of it all and wishes they could switch it off

Is anyone else out there just sick of the situation (being a bisexual). I mean the urges for both sexes and the problems it causes. And with it comes the general population attitude that somehow you're having more fun than the rest of them. Why don't they ever write in a newspaper how painful the reality of it is...and not always the bullshit about how 'taboo, exciting, daring and mischievous' it is etc FFS!

It's totally confusing, a nightmare for relationships, it's unwanted and unwelcome. Wanting to have a normal family life and feeling it hiding insidiously in the background waiting to ruin everything!

And not being able to actually be honest with people about it, cos of how serious people take it and how it's misrepresented as you being sneaky when you have no say in it being part of you! For instance, saying you would like to have sex with a man (well, you don't want to, more like NEED TO!) to a girlfriend, like she's gonna say "yeah, fine, help yourself to anything on the menu". FFS!

I wish it would just F** OFF and leave me alone.

 

No, being bisexual is awesome.

 

Look, they say, "Love it, change it or leave it" for a reason. This being WHO you really are, you can't really leave it.

Frankly, you can't change it either. Sexual orientation is really NOT a matter of choice and you have been quite explicit about it.

Which leaves us with the only available option: Love it.

First off, recognize that you really have no choice.

Second off, recognize that most fellow humans suffer from the "grass is greener on the other side" syndrome. I know tons of men, who insist that women have it 'easier' and v.v.. I know tons of gay men, who would love to be str8 or bi, and have experienced a huge amount of envy on the part of my str8 friends, coz I am gay. Rest assured that whoever you may be, at one time or the other, you'll see this as a disadvantage.

Third off, view your bisexuality as a gift. You can connect with both sexes, and you can enjoy the benefits of networking on a totally new level. If you were not meant to have an average "house with the white picket fence" life, embrace your wild side and have a ball.

KD

 

OP i'm sorry you have such painful experiences with being bisexual..


i love being bisexual.. i admit though i don't appreciate some people's attitudes about it.. some don't take it seriously, some think it means you can't make up your mind or you are selfish, some think it's just really hot and objectify it... but at the end of the day, i don't give a fuck what people think about my sexuality i am who i am and i love me.

 

Right on, brother! I think you and KD took the words right out of my mouth. There's been too much negativity (and deliberate trolls) on the gay forums. This is a brand new year: Let's try to keep it honest and real. God is good. Gay is Good. Bi is good. I am good. I think you get the general idea.

--QP

P.S. When I speak of God, I mean that I believe there is a higher power guiding each of us -- I really don't place much stock in organized religion. But I remain spiritual as hell.

 

Yea, this is exactly how I feel about it also ToiletRolls. I hate that frustration and the constant fluctuation of feelings. I honestly wish that I was either gay or straight instead of bi. I hate it when I see couples and I find BOTH of them attractive, it's like, who should I go for?

What also sucks is that there are only a select few that seem to except bisexuality. Straight females that I know have NEVER accepted it and only consider me gay. My friends always tell me to say that I'm gay to guys and that I'm straight to women, agh, it's frustrating.

Like the others said, we pretty much have to deal with it and try to appreciate the benefits of being bi and be happy that there are others like us and be there for one another. Hope you are able to accept it.

 

To all my Bisexual or bi-curious brethren... The key is to banish the stupidity of religion/media/public opinion... that is the hardest key you will ever turn, but ti will open doors like you never imagined.

Today, even though we are in 2010, it is still fashionable to be Female & bi. Hell, if you are not at least bi-curious, according to the media & overall hype, a straight female is an outcast.

as I have said in other posts, the paradigm is that women should embrace their feminine sexuality & some how the guys are supposed to be Bulls waiting for the Cows to get bored.....

Own what you feel. Express the depth of your sensuality/sexuality to those that matter & forget everyone else.

 

We think alike.

I understand that a lot of posters are saying 'embrace your feelings' etc,

I think the issue or of relationships is complicated though and accepting it yourself doesn't mean other ppl in your relationship will accept it so readily.

It's good there's ppl here to discuss it tho, thanks to u all.

 

Not a chance, If it ever came to the point where I was that sick of it, I would no longer be bisexual. I don't think it will ever, EVER come to that point.

I love being a bisexual, I don't think it is unwelcome, or a hassle, and frankly, I don't give a flying fuck what anybody else thinks about it. Whether they think it's exotic and exciting, or taboo and kinky, or fucked up and gross. It's not really any of their business what I do, and with whom, in the privacy of my own bedroom (or kitchen, or front yard). Until the day comes when I walk up to that person who says it's fucked up, and yank down my pants and force them to pleasure me in public, it is absolutely NONE of their business who I choose to sleep with.

As for those who think bisexuals are having more fun than anyone of any other sexual orientation, I guess that depends on your point of view. I definitely have more fun as a bisexual woman, than I did before I realized/admitted that I was bisexual: I feel like I'm getting the best of both worlds, and I love it.

I think that if you feel like being bisexual is more of a nuisance than anything, then maybe you are having second thoughts about your sexuality. I don't know if it's possible to "switch it off" as you say, but it would seem, from what I read in this post anyway, that it is switching itself off without you doing anything at all. But, what do I know.

 

I am not bisexual, but I wish I was born 'normal' every single day.

 

I appreciate your help. Unfortunately I have no control over it and never have had, and never will have. I would switch it off immediately if possible, but it's an urge, not a conscious thought. I'm afraid, the more it's ignored the worse it gets, like any sexual urge, it builds slowly.

Anyway, females are in a totally different position to males. As i said before.......

Men like girlfriends being bisexual because it is extremely erotic for them. It's not a fantasy generally for women to want to see men together. I've almost never ever heard any women even discuss it on any level, such is their disinterest. (we are talking general population!!).

So, women have no reason to accept bisexuality from men, they have nothing to gain by accepting it, apart from the risk of losing their lover to another man, diseases, unfaithfulness, etc etc. Why have bisexual man when you can select a straight male?

So, when it comes to dating, bisexual men are f**d (not literally!). They have to either lie or face the reality that very few women are going to tolerate it, and to make matters worse, there is absolutely nothing they can do about it and didn't choose it in the first place.

 

I feel you. I'm engaged to the perfect guy, yet have yet to tap into my bisexual urges with girls. It's really difficult, because he considers experimenting cheating. I've never been able to be with a woman probably because I'm very picky with girls hahaha but it really sucks. The urge is ALWAYS there and it's hard to deal with .

You're not alone.

 

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Thanks magcam I'm definitely planning on it. I'm in college, so I guess now is the best time haha.

 

I personally have never had me being bi affect any of my relationships. Maybe its because im always out front and tell my partner. I also believe in manogamy and my yearning for both sexes does not mean i cant be satisfied with just one.

The only problem with bisexuality i have seen is young teeny bopping bitches that thinks its cool to make out with their girlfriends to give their man a woody and then lable themselves bisexual. That my friends is extrememly irritating and makes me want to punt them off the planet.

 

LoriBaby: I totally agree with you on the "girls making out with girls then calling themselves bi." I knew a girl like that once, but everyone knew she only did it for attention.

But I'm curious to see who you experimented with first: men or women?

 

women.....my first kiss was my bestfriend in 4th grade...
my first crush though was year earlier on gwen stefani and that damn dont speak video...*mouth waters....drools a bit*

 

hahaha mine too My first make out session was in the 4th grade with my two best girl friends. But i've never gone farther than that with another woman, so that urge is always there. It's kinda like being a virgin again, and having that sexual urge that never goes away.

 

well hello there....wait your too young nvm......lol

 

Bahaha never too young when you're legal