I am trying to figure out my sexuality. First of all, I'm a virgin. In fact, I never really even dated. I turned down all guys that asked me out. I am attracted mostly to guys, but yet, I enjoy spending a lot of time with girls. I am turned off by a guys that are cocky and find girls more understanding. When I think about sex, I have a desire with guys, but also want the soft smooth touch of a woman. I also consider myself a kind of tom boy. I like puttering with mechanical things. I prefer wearing baggy clothes and jeans. I have even had the desire to wear guy’s briefs. Which I finally had the nerve to buy before Christmas, believing the cashiers would assume they would be for a gift. Any thoughts? Could I be gay or bi, or are these just normal feelings.
You do not sound the least bit abnormal to me. I believe that we are all a little bi. It is easier for girls to express this than it is for guys. (It's a macho thing) If you meet the right guy you will know for sure. I married a tom boy. 40 years later she is still a tom boy and I love her.
(I'm sorry! if this post are going to offend some lesbians out there. But this is my truth and way I think of it...) This is a very common thing and I feel with you. I can tell you, there are many guys who can be very sensitive, soft and understanding, just as they can be touch and strong. And I think that is why I like guys the most, I have learned to know that there actually are "perfect" men out there. Men who are very intelligent, sensitive (both overall and during sex) and at the same time *manly* enough making you melt in their arms and by their touch. Just as I find many other bi girls that are saying, *the best of two worlds*. I do finding myself more comfortable with guys, eventhough they arent always growing on trees. But I promise you there are just the most sweetest guys out there, you just have to flip the stones to find them, and look beyond all those disturbed a$$holes. Why I like girls is that I think some look real hot and I can relate so much from myself, share the sisterhood, if you know what I mean. And too being honest, the sex, I can insure you that girl-on-girl sex can many times be a fantastic experience. Ive had two relationships with girls, and they've been much more like a little step further from that sisterhood/best friends. A sexually relation between us, mutually no serious love feelings, but we had deep feelings for each other. Though we both knew that the love feelings that we had for each other, couldnt be compared with the love feelings we could have for guys. By answer your question: I think it would be very strange considering you gay, since you emotionally fall in love with guys, and you know what kinda things that turns you on with them. Eventhought, you also seem to have some curiosity for other girls (wheter sexually or emotionally), maybe you just want to liking girls?? (that is also a pretty common thing, especially with girls in their teens and mature women that are having a inrythmic sex life) But all that nonsense your saying about, tomboy, mechanical and baggy clothes are just bullcrap! Girls can be dressing and behaving just as they want, without being putted into a sexual-oriented folder. I mean, why cannot you be heterosexual and wearing baggy jeans, sacky clothes and etc? why would that be strange? :s
I am a total tomboy, and consider myself completely straight. Being a tomboy isn't connected with lesbianism in the slightest. I agree with ninabi, I dont think you are gay at all. Bi, perhaps. But definitely not gay.
