I think this may or may not be a relevant male issue. Guess I'll find out. Do men ever nag their girlfriends or wives? I'm wondering about this because often times I've heard my male friends complain of their women being nagging little shrews. You know what? It's totally true! I've dated women that nagged me to death over stupid shit. Can men do this as well? I know that not all women do this or all men do it, so I'm not generalizing. I just know from first-hand accounts that women can be as bad as an over-bearing mother. It's been over 10 years since I've dated a man and I don't recall any of them ever being fussy or nagging with me. Are there any women that may read this that can recall a male partner nagging you? I know this is silly and all - who the fuck cares, really. But I'm just wondering. My ex-girlfriend was terrible and there was one before her who was the same way. I just hate nagging and I guess I'm wondering if there are any men here who can relate and/or have done it as well?
yes! my second ex was a bitch and a half! it all comes down to the personality. i think guys do a different kind of nagging because of pressure, like if someone is nagging on them though. and a lot of fem gays nag. ive seen a ton of that goin on.
It just depends on the people and their personalities... I seee friends tlaking about how this persons girlfriend is a bitch blah blah blah and nagging.. ive also had an x bf that used to nag more than a woman!
Nagging how? If it's shit like 'clean up after yourself,' then yes, I do when necessary, though that's not too often. If it's personal stuff about the person's habits, fuck no I don't. I might tease them about it, but not nag them. It's their business, not mine.
Yep - habits, how to wear clothing, how I took care of my cats, how my roommate and I have our apartment set up, how I should go through school, where I should move to, using candles and/or incense, how I drove my car, getting or having tattoos....the list goes on and on. I can understand if, for example, one's partner doesn't have a job and you live together. That's not nagging, that's get a fucking job. I guess I mean personal stuff and being very intrusive in my life. Stuff like that.
Woman nag men just get all stubborn, well at least I do anyways... One of my buddies though bitches all the time, it's like he's pmsing all the time.
Absolutely! I know stereotypes come from somewhere and there are certainly fundamental differences between the sexes but really it depends on the person, above all.
I am gay and work for a womens retail chain, my direct superior and one of the store managers under me are both straight males, married with kids, and both nag like whiney little bitches, drives me nuts, and is probably the biggest negitive with my job at the moment. Guys can nag just as bad as girls can, especially professionally. In the workplace, nagging, stressing out, throwing tantrums is always simply a sign that they are out of their depth, cant handle the job, project their bullshit onto others to try take focus of the fact they dont know what they are doing. The little boy act is simply the male version of nagging
With men its topical & immediate... example.. I am a Married, Bisexual male. I am OCD & a neat freak about the house & the family vehicles. They are just my "thing".. I have (2) boys under the age of 7. I work from home 90% of the time. I go bezzerk every Sat/Sunday because neither my wife or either of the boys picks up anything.. I do all the cleaning, all the laundry, 85%+ of the cooking. I can have a 8hr work day, with 1 kid home all day & the oldest home for 4 hours before my wife gets home from work & I still have dinner done, kitchen cleaned up & laundry ready to fold... My lovely wife wasn't raised that way... she is the worlds best-home-chef & the world's shittiest house keeper... AND she let's things stew. I won't hear about the comment I made or the "incorrect washing procedure" for her Period Panties... for a week or 2... totally different style... I snap @ the moment.. she lets it brew & stew. Its all relative.. she hates my cars, the late nights in the shop, & the occasional Guys after work trip to the titty bar. R.
i was in a relationship with a guy for four years, who, if i did ANYTHING he didn't like at the moment, would turn into the world's biggest bitch. most controlling, nagging little bitch i know. all the time it was: who are you texting? why do you have to go out with your friends? well, you didn't tell me you had spoken with so-and-so today. are you really gonna wear that? i personally will be very upset if you start going bra-less. don't smoke weed or we're over. why are you drinking caffeinated beverages? do you really have to go on vacation with your family? why is it taking so long for you to text back? are you high/with another guy/ mad at me? stop being such a bitch. the list goes on and on. by the way, he had no job, no money, no car for a long time and none of the creativity that it takes to get along without those things. very hard to tolerate.
first i want to point out, that you are a catch! let her know i said so! so many young women (and men too) simply were not taught how to do things! i was lucky, the only thing i still have trouble with, to quote so many of my teachers is "using time wisely." and gosh, but i dont even let my hubby see those particular panties, let alone attempt to wash them. as far as the nagging, i definately thing guys have the potential to be as obnoxious, but what makes women more so in general, is that without a response, we dont know if you heard us. my hubby was not gifted with a sense of urgency, and was not taught ANY basic life skills until he moved in with a friend in highschool (whose mom told me he didn't know how to wash dishes, or that you have to wash the pot bottoms too, or use hot water, or, or,) he cant fold laundry, he thinks everything gets folded square. sheets are folded into 2x2 squares, towels too, not that we have any shelves that size. because hes learning i have to be exceptionally careful not to nag. i tell him the same things over and over, explain why the potatoes and onions cant be stored together, teach and reteach roux making 101, we had a deglazing incident the other day, plus he had the oil too hot on something else, so the whole apartment was full of oily smoke. it happens though, especially when you are learning. i was raised in a house where if you wanted something done your way then you do it. i fold the laundry, i put away the dishes, i keep shit under control, because the alternative is being grumpy at him for not doing it my way, or to my standards. i like to see handtowels folded and stacked by size. theres no sense in folding them twice, which is always what happens if he does it first. not that i dont appreciate it, but it is in fact, a waste of his time. my mom and dad have different standards of clean, even in the kitchen. when my mom has to be away (most recently it was to help an out of state family member) my dad gets bored and cleans house. NCO- neat clean and orderly. white glove standard. my mom? its clean enough. "clean enough to be healthy, dirty enough to be happy" but i dont even nag hubby about missing the toilet (although if hes that uncoordinated he should just sit down IMO) i just clean it up and get fresh socks. i remind him of things hes forgetting (if you gamble at the bar you will come home regretting the money wasted, like every other time you gamble) and he doesnt really nag me either, except for things i have no control over which isn't really nagging because it only pisses him off that i cant do anything about it. like change the seasons, or get my birth certificate faster, or why are people so stupid? sorry dear, no answer for you. nagging is a waste of energy, and all it does is make the nagee less inclined to do whatever it is. i think ive rambled on enough now
I think this is where it is at, individual personality whether male or female. However, culturally, like a lot of other gender specific personality traits, nagging has been engrained in the female persona. (Similar to pursing lips and batting eyelashes in seduction) And, fem gay guys imitate such.
Good solution and one that I intuitively employed in relationships. Brenda didn't really cook and before we moved in together I took over her kitchen. Really, rearranged it and cooked and did the dishes myself rather than rewash them after someone else. Since all my things are blue cotton, I did most of my laundry separate, washing her jeans with mine. I didn't wash her frilly things as I used hot water and high heat on my cottons. (I did laundry for me and jim when we lived together) I hate housework but so did both my partners so we got along fine. I usually broke first and cleaned the house when tripping on a dust bunny. So, that cuts out a lot of nagging potential. BTW, Mother's Love, you fold things too complicated. If I had to fold towels and flat things it would be just squared, not that three-fold stuff. So, I guess you would fold them if we lived together 'cause nagging me wouldn't work. Oh, and my toilet paper rolls over the top.
i do tp overhand too! i fold my tshirts the navy way (i like how they line up so neat, and i can stand them up in a drawer) and we have giant beach towels, so they have to be folded, and rolled up to fit on the meager linen closet shelf. the whole closet is maybe 1x1.5 feet. not much room for anything in there. ive always been a fan of tri fold too. on a side note, i went through a bunch of my moms quilting fabrics, and refolded them so they would stack neatly on her shelves. something about nice, neat, balanced stacks just makes me feel good
Why you do think us men moan? It's so unfair and I don't appreciate it. Say your sorry, do itttt... Heh, sorry bit of a rubbish little joke there.
