I'm so confused...

I recently found out that my boyfriend is turned on (yes, ON) by Anorexia.
I'm a very skinny girl, and yes, my ribs are visible,but he has yet to see me completely shirtless, so he doesn't know this yet. Out of automatic response, I said "WHAT THE HELL?!" And he retorted by saying that I was perfect. But I just feel so hurt, because I feel like I'm not enough for him now. I don't know if he's messing with me or not, but I really wish he hadn't said it with me around.

I don't know what I'm getting at here, I just had to say something.

 

I can understand how that would be confusing.


Just don't become anorexic for him.

 

get a confidence boost

get some curves

get a real man

 

best advice in this situation.

 

I would never go anorexic for anyone.

I do have curves, but they're plain, just not freakin' soda-bottle curves.
And he is a very real man, and he's loving, sensual, very very sweet.... but I'd have never expected this from him.

 

most anorexic loving freaks have a ''gentle'' side

 

But I love him so much... I don't want to break that because of a "turn-on" that he has... It's just so odd.

 

do you find a lot of this kind of stuff in his website history

 

You love him so much, and he doesn't know what your ribs look like?..

Are you mormon or something?

 

Just cause he likes anorexic chicks doesn't mean you need to start starving yourself, lol.
But if your bones already show that clearly means your thin so why would you need to get any skinnier?

 

That sounds twisted. I wouldn't want to be with someone like that. Theres a difference between being thin and being anorexic. Anorexia is a grave mental disorder that completly fucks over your life. I would dump him.

 

It could be possible that he likes the Waif look. You know the tall, extremely thin look because it makes you seem fragile and delicate. A lot of guys get turned on by that. It might not be the eating disorder that he finds attractive, just the way the women who have it look. To have an attraction to an eating disorder is ridiculous, but if he's as kind and loving as you say he is, then he prolly just likes the delicate looking women which he seems to think you resemble. I wouldn't worry too much about that.

 

"because I love him!!!!!!"

 

Did I not already make it clear that I am NOT going to get any skinnier for him?

No, I'm not mormon. We just don't have the chance to be alone very often.

 

And why would it be a problem if he finds anorexia attractive?

 

You need to calm down.


I would neg rep you, if I could.

Hopefully I'll remember later.

 

dude..lol what ever, she says it once, she'll say it again.

 

that doesnt mean you have to re-act like an idiot..

 

How petty..

To neg rep someone for neg repping you.

Can't say I'm surprised..

You get real.

 

As much as it may hurt, dump him. He is attempting control with that approach - you don't need to be controlled by someone who can hirt your feelings at will. He can't love you, and I suspect that you know it! Be honest with yourself. Is this any way to build a foundation under a relationship? You know the answer. What you were trying to say was, "help me build the confidence to take charge of my own life. For one reason or another, I am not good or confident that I can." You have had many, many gentle comments of support here and one or two very direct (including mine!) OK, we all sorta agree, rid yourself of this unnecessary hardship in your life. 'Curve up' or not is your decision, but at least find youself a guy who loves you for what is inside that skinny body!