people think im stuck up. but really i am just shy and have a bit of social anxiety. when i dont talk at a gathering or something, people think im not interested or that i feel like im too good for them, but really i am just trying to think of something myself to say, that won't make me look like a fool, and that i am comfortable with saying. i dont know how to change it, i have tried so hard, but i just get nervous shakes, sweaty, and stutter my words, even around my good friends it happens for no reason. i try to look at like no one really cares what i say, and that they want my input just as much, that's why im invited to their place or whatever, but i just still fell awkward and cant get out what i want. and i mean, people always think im really nice once i finally do open up.
aw thats ok =) i wouldnt worry about it. im usually pretty reserved too unless im drunk or in a really good mood. i feel sort of detached from people sometimes and only when they say something im interested in will i tune in.
I was like that not too long ago. All you have to do is realize the truth, which is that everyone is out for themselves and they only care how they are projected to other people. They don't give a shit if you act/talk like a fool. Just be yourself around everyone and be proud of who you are. If you have something you wanna tell people just say it and get it out. It's totally fucking worth it! Say what you mean and mean what you say...
right on. i definitely am trying to just say fuck it, i think i lost that attitude somewhere along the way recently, hopefully it will hitch back up with me soon.
I have had problems with this all my life. It got to the point where I did just say "fuck it" and now I do my best to participate, say what I mean and not be ashamed of myself. And it has gotten so much better as I grow older. But I will always feel slightly uncomfortable around others (unless I'm drunk). Alcohol helps a lot! I've found this is something you can only get through on your own. No amount of "just be yourself" or "don't worry about it" crap from others will help (no matter how well-meaning they may be). You just have to come to the realization that others will have to accept you as you are. And most of the time they do. I hope it gets better for you.
What sucks is I used to be this way, overcame it, and then ended up being this way again lmao. It sucks. But I think it has more to do with being in your head too much than anything else. I find when I am open and social-able things just come out, I'm not searching for that "something to say" or that "right" place to "add in". I kinda feel "in the moment" and actually "interested" for myself in what's going on. It's definitely a toughie, good luck lol. But yeah, being drunk helps, but if you can break that without forming a habit.. More the power to you. Good luck
I have these same problems. I think I'll be trying to get a benzo script in the near future. (Not that I'd take it on the regular, usually probably pass it on, but for specific social environments, I would) For now, weed helps loads with the sweating, I've had this problem since I made the switch from homeschool to high school for freshmen year, where I sweat and get horrible sweat stains around people, and then I'm self conscious because it's cold out and I'm walking around with my armpits drenched all day long, and this just makes me more nervous and sweat more. So basically, smoke weed, and fuck what people think. But all through high school, I hardly ever made new friends, just stuck with the ones i slowly accumulated and their friends, because most people thought I was a stuckup jerk for being quiet. (probably also because for the second half of my high school career I had extreme contempt for the school I went to and most of it's staff, which most people probably thought was for everyone in general)
i used to be like that it (all changed when i went to college though). Not talking at a gathering dosnt mean you're not interested or conceited its alright to be quite or silent, actually makes people come up and talk to you . Anyways try as hard not to be your old shy self, try to do something you wouldnt normally do trust me you'll like it(nothing too crazy though ). Once you break the ice with the people around you you'll feel freer to discuss whatever. Oh and being drunk helps. Thats some good advice
lol i don't have this problem. i have the opposite, where i am too freely myself and some people think im weird. clearly it doesnt bother me
im super glad theres other people like me! i have a big problem of caring about what people think about me. but im slowly growing out of it
The people that raised me always told me to "be quiet--children are to be seen -not heard". Screwed me up and made me think my opinions didn't matter under any circumstances. Shouldn't have been that way because I had most of the attributes that many people would find favorable. Took me a long time to get over being shy,but some years down the road I began to come out of my shell and now I can and will talk to anyone about anything and favor looking people right in their eyes to see who they are. Believe me --they are no more important than you are--just takes a while to realize it.
There are many times I feel this way. But I have come to realize its only when Im around people I have lack of interest in. Which is sadly most people, as the ego controls so many people.
I'm right there with you it's not the extent where I'm anxious with my own good friends. But what I have realized is that the less you're afraid to look dumb the less dumb you will look. And really fuck what everyone else thinks because if you aren't good enough for them there really isn't any point in trying to be friends with them. I know applying this to you're life is a lot easier said than done but I have realized the more you socialize and the more you put yourself out there and make yourself look dumb, you slowly can become more socially confortable. Hang in there I know it's tough.
ya, i know. there are lots of people i have lack of interest in. i can only sit down and chat with my parents when there is beer ...
