She lives across the street from me. I think she is very attractive, although some people might consider her a little too "plain Jane." But, not only is she attractive, she is very sweet and nice, or at least that's how she seems. As that last sentence may indicate, I don't know her all that well. But, I have to face the fact that I am crushing on her like teenage boy. I like her for whatever reason. I have no reason to believe that the feeling is mutual. I have wished many times that this wasn't true. But, I am mature enough to know that a crush is not the same thing as love, or a similar emotion. I just would like to have the chance to get to know her better. Unfortunately, I am not being allowed that opportunity. I am always working or in school and very busy, and she also works, so there is that issue, but it's not just that that is keeping me from spending time with her. I keep asking her if she would like to get together for a beer or something, and I just think she is blowing me off in subtle ways. Recently, I spoke with her from my front yard while she stood in hers. I didn't want to get too close, because I was looking like crap, unshaven and such. And I was NERVOUS. She actually makes me nervous. I can't even remember the last time a girl made me feel that way. But, I casually commented that we should get together for a beer, and she replied, "well, I'll be very busy with work (holidays)." But the funny thing was that we had just talked about how things were slowing down for her at work. So, that sounds like a blow off to me. Now, the thing is I think she probably figures I am trying to scam on her, or get her into bed, and of course, I would love to go to bed with her, but I am just interested in being friends first and if anything happens, it happens. I really just want to know her better because I think she is very nice. The other strange thing is that I can not decipher whether she is involved with someone or not, since she never talks about it whenever we have our "yard conversations." BUt, I have seen cars over there from FLorida, on occasion, so maybe she is involved in a long distance romance, or something. But it just seems to me that she is alone quite a bit, and maybe that's the she wants it. It really hurts my feelings that she is so disinterested in me by all appearances, so a part of me wishes she did have BF. I am left to ponder that she probably thinks I am complete loser who doesn't have his degree yet and is struggling in life, and can't seem to keep his house looking good and maintained. I don't think I am a model, but I am not terrible to look at, but maybe she is into a different physical type. If she doesn't find me attractive, that's just the nature of things. I sort of thought she might find me somewhat attractive the first time we met. She seemed to like looking at me, although that could have been my imagination. We were talking and at some point sports came up, and I told her I was an (particular school) fan, and her peculiar reaction was, "Oh, NO!" her being a (rival school) alum. So, maybe that killed me right there, although that seems rather silly. Maybe she will give me chance one day. I hope so. Laura(not her real name), I think you are beautiful. I would love to just hang out with you some, and get to know you a little more. I am NOT just trying to get you into bed, though I am quite sure that would be an amazing experience. If you gave me the chance you would find out that I am actually a very interesting person who is very honest and loyal and kind. I am a beautiful guy, and you're a beautiful girl. And, you're single,and I am single. Let's just see what happens. If nothing else we could at least be good friends.
well i think that you should ask her over for a movie or dinner or something... then throw the beer thing at her when she is over, if she ever comes over... just be confident in yourself.. confidence is key. if she turns you down, try not to think so much about it or take it personal. Just be neighborly .. let things happen on their own... but dont waste your time on people who dont matter.. remember that.
The beer thing does sound to much like some guy trying to get her into bed. Ask her to take a walk with you, and just talk with her a little bit. Pick her brain...
thanks for the responses. I am fairly convinced that she is in a long distance romance. Which is good news for me, in a way. For one thing, it explains her disinterest, and gives me an excuse for myself. Also, those things never work out! (; Yeah, I am throwing out the beer angle. I was going for the casual angle, but it might sound like the I-am-going-to-get-you-drunk angle.
