I really love sex, and i've been approached to have it often enough. I'm just really shy about it for some reason and i'm not sure why I build up this barrier. I'd like to let loose and have fun and have sex with whoever I want whenever I want. I think it might be because I worry to much about society and their opinion of someone who sleeps with whoever they want. I don't concern myself with their opinons on other things though and that's why it's so confusing. Like i'm a vegan buddhist who lives in canada and loves natural fibers and nature and reading and writing and learning. I'm surrounded by people who aren't like me so I don't go out of my way that way so why am I not liberating myself sexually. I feel like I can't be free unless i'm free in every aspect...so how do I become sexually free?
You start by making sure you know all the medical facts that you need to know about safe sex. Then you work on building up trust relationships with guys that you like. There's nothing wrong with being apprehensive about sleeping with guys you don't fully trust. That is nothing more than your common sense warning you of potential problems. If you do these things in the right order, then you should be able to relax and have a great time in bed.
NotDeadYet has got it right. Health, and trust. If you feel relaxed Plus, to help with the social opinion side... Sex is a private thing. It's got nothing to do with society. I consider myself sexually free (though - perhaps unfortunately - I don't fancy or trust enough guys to be promiscuous). I don't need to be in a relationship to enjoy sex (saying that, it does bring in a more intense emotional experience) and not have any regrets or hangups about it. Other people need that committed relationship to feel safe and comfortable. I don't see myself as having a better attitude to sex than people like that - "prudes" - even people who don't believe in sex before marriage. It's what you feel comfortable about doing with your body with another person. The only way someone should be "judged" is if they're compromising about how they feel about sex. Whatever your level of sexual "freedom" is, sex is not something you should treat flippantly (emphasis on what NotDeadYet wrote). Perhaps you should try taking this attitude.
Be safe. Use condoms, and know about sex. Also sex is private, nobody needs to know about your sex life so I don't think you should be worrying about "societys" view on you being sexually free
