Me... My Wife and another man?

My wife and I have been discussing a male female male threesome for a few months now. We usually discuss this as we are having sex and it gets her very excited as it does for me as well! I think we are now at a point where we both agree that we are ready for this. We have been talking about the details... should this person be someone we are familiar with or should we just do this spontaneously with a complete stranger? What positions and acts are we comfortable with and I think my wife is open to almost anything she says it just depends on the moment. I also think that I could handle most anything. I have no interest to be physical with another guy at all nor does my wife want to see me with another man... but she is not against much else. Just the other night we were discussing this and the details of what would be expectable and I brought up DP she seemed intrigued. Again she said it would just depend on the moment and how things were going. At the very least I know gets very hot thinking about having someone from behind and me in her mouth or visa-versa. In the beginning of our MFM talks she seemed to only be interested in limited "acts" and now as we discuss this more and more she is becoming more open to try anything. In the beginning she said she liked the idea of the pleasure in theory but did not know if she could actually do it... and would do it but did not like the idea of the other person being there. Now she is to the point of talking about me and another man taking turns on her.... one in her mouth and the from behind switching.... me in her mouth and then him while we take turns on her from behind. She is now even throwing out scenarios that she thinks would be good ways to move forward with this fantasy. While she was in the shower the other night I was in the bathroom talking to her and out of nowhere she said.... "This would be a good way to start our threesome... wouldn’t it?" Then she continued to say... "You like watching me... right?" "I think this would be a good way to start it off." she says... "You and the other person could watch me for a while in the shower and then join me." I would say that she has overcome any concerns or sexual inhibitions.

I guess the only concerns that I have is that this is all very new to me and my wife. We have been together for 14 years now but in the past our sexual relationship has been good but not very adventurous. It has only been in the last four or five months that we have started to open up to each other sexually. We have only just started experimenting watching porn with each other. As a matter of fact we have only just got to the point that talking about it feels OK. Just last week she told me that while I was at work she had sometime to herself... so she put in a porn with a MFM seen so she could watch it and touch herself with a vibrator. This was the first time she has ever done anything like that... at least as far as I know. This was sooo exciting for me just to hear her tell me the details. I am so excited that she is finally comfortable with me enough to open up like this and even more so.... I am happy for her that she is finally able to be comfortable with herself enough to begin to open up and enjoy herself. This all is amazing! But should I slow things down? I am not sure if I want to... no I know I don’t! We are at a point that I have been asking for/wanting for years... but I do not want to do anything to risk our relationship. At the same time I say.... strike while the iron is hot! Any input at all would be great... should I slow things downs... should I move forward and fulfill my wife’s new found fantasy? If we move forward with this.... should be find a friend or someone we know of should we plan a trip out of town and find someone we will never see again? I am interest in your responses....

 

Why are people always asking "how should i do this" and "is it ok to do this"? Wouldn't you discuss that with your wife? lol

 

People are always asking because they want advice from folks that have experienced this first hand.... and have real world input... not just fantasy talk and opinions. If you read you will see that I have discussed this with my wife. And I am not asking if it is OK. I know it is OK if it makes me and my wife happy. I do not need anyone’s consent or approval to do this. I am just seeking some guidance....

 

I think threesomes are much easier, emotionally, if your wife is not going to become emotionally involved with the new guy. In that way, a stranger could be easier. A MFM threesome in which both men are in ongoing sexual relationships with the same woman can lead to more feelings of jealousy, feeling left out, comparisons, etc. On the other hand, being present with a lover and her other lover can be really rewarding. You get to connect with the energy that they've built together. Just make sure you have a safer sex discussion, and be clear on what each of your boundaries are, and I'm sure you'll all have a wonderful time.

 

Goo on a sexsearch thingy. someone's bound to be wanting some on there, and'll probably be a lovely young man that you'll never see again.

 

Honestly I never met anybody with a mindset like yours first of all if you do it with someone you know, him and your wife or even you and him might end up doing it again alone. There's a possibility that yall might cheat on each other for that person. Also your going down a really tricky road because a situation like this can scar your relationship with your wife forever. She wants to fuck another man now just think how many more men she would want to fuck if yall do go down that road.

 

I think that is a crock of shit, some people are just curious for new experiences and genuinely want to try everything once. Yeah they might wanna do it again, but how does anyone know what will happen afterward...... You can not just assume she will want to fuck a million other guys afterwards. In my exp. situations like this have only added a little extra flame to the fire in my relationship, the key to everything is communication.

 

we have done it twice. found both strangers on our local Craiglist.We talked to them for while before we actually planned it. we met in a motel both times. we started drinking before he got there. It's hard on the nerves at first but once the clothes are off and a few mins have went by you forget about it (for the most part). I think the stranger thing adds to it. the whole "unknown" is kinda exciting. We actually made a friend from the first time and are just waiting for a house of his to open up next month so we can go see him again.
You have to have LOTS of trust in your relationship or i wouldn't recommend it. Some people think doing this makes her a slut but like i said before we have done it twice and before we got together she could count all her partners on one hand. We do it just to add alittle something more to our already exciting sex life.

 

If you do decide to do this, a stranger and safe sex is better than a friend. First reason you are basically handing your "friend" the key to think it is alright to do this w/o u and the wife might not think its a big deal either if she enjoyed the sex. Plus its an awkward feeling of seeing someone you know all the time and that experience pop up. As previously stated some jealousy could arise if she pays more attention to this other person so you def. don't want it to be someone you know. Remember this isn't the same as being in highschool and u and your buddy taking turns with a hot cheerleader, this is your WIFE, two different experiences.

 

curious, did the stranger use protection?

 

Of course not silly, whats the point of bringing a stranger then?

 

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funny shit the sarcasm is

 

To be honest, the best thing to do is to post an ad on a dating site, or a swingers dating site, and find a stranger to become friends with first. Don't do this with someone that is close already, unless he fits the bill perfectly, and you are very sure that it will all go smooth.

Other than that, stick to the personal ads, or find a guy in a club. Yet, don't do it the first night, or the second, maybe. Spend some time with him, one or two dates, and see if he is someone that is friend material. Otherwise, unless he is super hot, it just feels degrading to have sex with someone you would not otherwise spend time with. Call me crazy, but I've done a bit of swinging.

In 7 years, I've been with 8 couples. I'm dating one married woman right now, that is in an open relationship, and just started kinda courting another married woman that is in the same situation. Both of them are highly educated.

 

i think from a womans point of view i would probably want it to be a stranger but then again if my SO was into this and wanted me to do it with one of his friends i would . just do what makes the both of you most comfortable and let us know how it goes

 

it should b a stranger. 1 i cant get past ceing my woman plowed by another buy and 2 if u kno him u have to look at him and remember how ur wife was moning on His cock. its just so theres no strings attached.

 

We also have had experiences with friends so far. The third one became a mess though, in such situations you learn that playing with friends or coworkers can become a major head ache!

 

I feel that co-workers are out of the picture. It happened with us with a friend. It wasn't planned. Everything just kind of fell into place and it happened. Your wife or girlfriend is in charge She calls the shots as to what is acceptable and what is not. And both guys need to respect that.

 

I've read where so many men want to see their wife with a bigger man. But have any men ever feared, that she might like it too much? I know you base things on trust, but how can one be sure? At first I wasn't sure, but I can't explain how it changed.

 

Good point. Seeing her take a big cock would be hot but what if she doesn’t want me anymore.