Firstly, I´m not very into partnerships. BUT... After 4 years without serious relationship I´m in one with very good boy...a really good boy! He´s very handsome, skillfull, in love with music and same interests, I like his religious, ecological and political views, he dislike gender stereotypes as me, and it´s nice to be with him alone. He´s very gentle and regardful and I have never met person who love me that much. On the other hand he´s really shy and he don´t know to be the same person (as with me) when we are with our friends or strange people. He´s babbling twaddles, stories without punch line and people look at him like he´s weird and what is he talking about. Also in the situation his voice sounds not that nice as in normal case and his speech is not very enjoyable for listening. Although he´s intelligent I guess he´s not that smart as I am: I mean, he´s not in the same level of thinking, If you understand me. I talked to him few times that he must be careful what is he talking about and which way, cause people don´t understand him. He talks about persons and things which nobody knows and doesn´t related to communication situation. We are dating for 8 months but it´s almost the same. Week before I started to thinking about break up. I love to be with him alone or with his family, but I feel bad in the bigger community with him. I´m still nervous what he will start to talk about. Any advice?
Yeah, i would dump him and tell him its because he's not impressing your friends enough. Obviously he is just socially retarded and just needs more paractice, and the only way of learning is for him to do it more.
Tell him exactly what you think, but that you value him being in your life. I wouldn't dump him for being "socially retarded" though. It's about you and him, not about what friends think. If he's really making an ass of himself, though (and you're for sure it's not just YOU projecting your own issues on him), do tell him about it. There's no easy way to do that, but you have to be honest and have open communication for the relationship to work out anyway. Good luck!
Does he drink in these situations? My ex was introverted in groups but the alcohol would socially lubricate him, and everything he wanted to say would come out weird. So I can relate to feeling awkward in friend situations with him. But again, it's about him and you, not about impressing friends. If you're ever with your friends separate from him, just be open with them. Say how great a guy he is when it's just you two, say that he's probably just trying too hard to impress the friends and ending up being awkward instead. Maybe if they have a little background on why he's like that, they won't shoot him weird looks (that can't be helping him).
Thank you so much for your answers. Well, my firends (except my family) have never said he´s weird, but they behave at the situation with those manners. No he don´t drink, not too much he might be a fool. I guess his problem also is he wanted to be jokeful and appeal self-confidently what he isn´t in the society. He´s something like galvanic. I will talk to him honestly like you said, Sea of grass. I´m just affraid if he dig it. Neone, also thanks for an answer. But I agree with Sea, I don´t want to dump him only because of friends. It´s hard to explain but he´s good guy only without sensation for communication in bigger group.
