Would you say that coldheartedness is related to a feelings of misery burried deep down inside the soul? My father has recently told my that I am coldhearted and selfish. I think he's right for the most part. I tend to value my objects more than people. And I find it to be a weakness to give hungry men food or your last dollar. What I usually tell them is get a job you filthy parasite. I tend to think that sympathy is something that people prey on and use it against you. However, I will say that there is nothing that I wouldn't do for my family, but when it comes to others I'm unmoved by their suffering. Sometimes in my lonely place in the universe I get depressed, but I just usually pick up a book and read. I was just wondering if anyone knew the psychology of coldheartedness. If you have any insights please share because I'm very interested.
"Would you say that coldheartedness is related to a feelings of misery burried deep down inside the soul" yes. "My father has recently told my that I am coldhearted and selfish." well sometimes people can give you a good perspective on a situation cause they're seein u from another point of view, you know? "What I usually tell them is get a job you filthy parasite. I tend to think that sympathy is something that people prey on and use it against you." kinda harsh but you're right in one way i believe, there are people like that i've met em and i say fuck em, nobody is helpless, and there are people in far off worse situations than we are and they get by fine, so theres no excuse for laziness, so if you're talkin about people who are really like that, i agree with you 100 percent. "I will say that there is nothing that I wouldn't do for my family, but when it comes to others I'm unmoved by their suffering. " so people you are close to and involved with, you care, but people you are not personally involved with you dont care? well maybe you got a problem with relating to others(as you said) maybe try to think what if that was me? kinda put yourself in their shoes you know? because with your family you are closer to being in their shoes, but with random strangers theres less of that bond. "I was just wondering if anyone knew the psychology of coldheartedness. If you have any insights please share because I'm very interested." not me, haha... uhh these are mine, and you're welcome.
I would be willing to bet you are no more without moral compass than any other individual in this world. No one does anything that is not first self serving, based on their model of what constitutes goodness. Those who seem inclined to be more generous than you perceive yourself to be, simply see their neighbors interests as equal to or complementary to their own. It is natural to protect one's own. The thing that allows a man to be inhumane to another is that he tells himself it is not me nor mine.
Freedom man, you make some interesting points. I'll also add that what my father meant was that I need to be attentive to other peoples feelings and things of that nature. I'm not the kind of man who steals, cheats, or hurts others for no reason I will say that. I just tend to see myself disconnected from everyone else. I don't have any friends because I see people as untrustworthy. The moral that I live by these days is you leave me alone, I'll leave you alone. I find that the world is an uncaring place for some reason. Maybe it has to do with some of my experiences? I do believe that most families care about their children. I can tell my father cares for me because he's just trying to get me to change some of my views because he wants to see me have friends and maybe a girlfriend. I also have been told by a psychiatrist that I have a schizoid personality disorder. Which I believe because when I don't have to work I like to spend time in my room by myself reading and writing. I think what my dad would like most is for me to show more emotion instead of just having a blank expression most of the time. Which I can respect, but unfortunately I don't do.
cold-hearted people just have different cares. if you have a part of you that doesnt want to be cold-hearted, that's vital. i would question what would come of what you do if it was perpetual. seems like you might have an existentialist crisis on your hands maybe You are absolutely not the only person that thinks like you. Cuz you're probably like a lot of us are on these forums: thinkers. you've apparantly started thinking instrospectively already which is very good. just invite change, patience, and understanding
honestly i think you're fine. from my point of view. nobody is fuckin "sane" there is no such thing, what human authority can tell you that you're not right man? fuck that... its all ab out what you wanna do, if your happy with writing and reading do it, it's your life... you're the one whos gonna die man, so just fuckin live it while you can, however you want... shit you sound like me honestly... haha.
