Hey you older gentle people ... I'm curious as to how you deal with your sexuality at our age. I haven't had sex since my husband died in 2005, and I miss it a lot. I miss male companionship. I have plenty of friends, so I'm not lonely, but I have that desire for a physical relationship with a man. I'm having to learn to flirt all over again. I don't think it's all that different from when we were in our 20's, but I'm as rusty as an old gate with it. What's it like for you guys?
I've slowed down a little. The lust is still there but not worth expending a whole lot of effort for. I have been exclusively doing men for a decade or more. My wife was the last woman I had sex with. So, don't know what to tell you about women our age. As I was typing this one of my 'buddies called to say he'll be at the beach tomorrow. I'll go there and we'll probably end up back here playing around. I like the casualness and after my wife I really haven't considered any more relationships. Guess this hasn't been much help.
Well, I'm a few years shy of 60, but I've gotta say my sex life is the best it has ever been. Small doses of Viagra have completely erased my performance anxiety and that makes a huge difference. I'm hoping that if I keep in shape and keep my blood pressure under control, I'll enjoy great sex into my 60's and maybe beyond.
So you find that same-sex encounters are more casual? That's interesting. I'd say the few times in my life I've had sex with women were more relaxed. Not as much was riding on it ... umm .. so to speak. (oh, what an awful pun!) But I'd also say that my interactions with men in recent years, although they haven't been sexual, have been more relaxed, in general. There have been a few who figure that widows are an easy piece of ass, but other than that they're platonic. I think I'm going to have to make the first move, if I want them to be anything more than platonic.
That's wonderful I've heard similar comments from my women friends, in regards to their husbands. To them, viagra is the greatest thing ever invented
Actually, we guys have a thing called fuck buddies, where we get together whenever it's convenient and have sex. No dating, no relationship, just sweat together for a while, get messy, wipe up and go home. Actually, I have been seeing this one young man for a decade now and tho it is infrequent, it surprises me how long we've known each other. It just occured to me that he is now exactly half my age. I think we are growing a little closer or at least becoming quite familiar.
But you're friends with each other, right? Or is it totally casual and anonymous? I wouldn't mind having a fuck buddy. We'd have to be friends. Maybe we'd go to the museum on Saturday mornings. Or go to a concert. Not dating, exactly, just hanging out together. Then we'd come home and fuck just for the sheer enjoyment of it. We kinda did this back in the early days of the so-called sexual revolution, but there wasn't the "friendship" part as much back then. But I think being good friends is a really important part of it.
I'm not in my 60s yet but I'm knocking on the door (3 yrs). Fuck Buddy isn't just a gay term. It's been around for years. I'm sure there are plenty of men that would be interested. They probably just don't have any desire for the "games" traditionally involved in dating. They also may not want to be thought of as "dirty old men". A little obvious flirt on your part might alleviate that fear. Without the prospect of activity many men may not have the now necessary equipment (little blue pill) which would inhibit spontaneity. A little consistent hinting might prompt a prospective partner to visit the Doc for a script, especially if they wern't led to believe they would be expected to perform like a young stud.
Hmmm, well I'm not 60 yet either, however tell that to my knee, anyway i've never been married, I'm not much for commitment, I have lived with three different women (not all at one time dammit) .. the relationship I'm in now is a bit odd, so I won't go into it, she's just 37 and well kinda kinky, so what she comes up with is always a surprise, I don't need a little blue pill yet, I like to attribute that to a totally misspent youth, guess I'm well preserved.. Ooh i'm prolly not being much help here at all... Peace
