Looking to go flatting....advice?

Well, Ive just about had enough of living with my parents, there great and everything and theve supported me my whole life,but I really want to be independent.

I dont have any friends so id be looking to flat with randoms, but thats cool because I want to meet new people.

Heres where it gets tricky. So I smoke pot every few days or so, but im just a bit anxious about living with people Ive never met before.
I feel I should be honest and tell them before hand that im a smoker, but I dont want them to get the wrong impression (im very sensible, hardworking, dont drink alcohol etc)

I dont mind smoking outside or away from the house, but I dont want to be in a situation where I find myself with people who are anti-drugs.

Any stoners here had any success living wiht people theyve never met before?, any advice about searching for flats?

 

Just ask if they are open to you occasionally toking. That's the only way you're going to find out if they're anti-drugs.

Don't be such a prude and ask. They're random people, so you won't be hurting anyone's feelings. And if they're anti-drugs and snobby - thank god you won't be living with them.

 

True, perhaps I am being a little paranoid.
I guess, its not just the weed though. I like to take mushrooms and lsd from time to time, but I guess if they are ok with weed, they will be ok with psychs.

It would be nice to be with like minded people though.
I have heard of Codenames like 'Dak friendly' or '420 friendly', But I have not yet come across such hint in my searches.

 

living with random people would be fucked up unless your on drugs all the time.

 

go around A COLLEGE--theres always students who rent houses and looking for roommates--heh heh when i was your age rented a room in a bad ass house with maybe 6 rooms and smoked pot constantly when i was home---fuckers gave me the nickname Zone--at that age nobody gives a fuck at least not then---dont know how uptight and anti drug kids are now----and yeah tell em up front---i smoke pot is that gonna be a problem?

 

So true. They don't give a fuck about anything. Thats why it is important not to sign a lease with anyone.

Get in on a month to month rental till you can find your own place.

 

living alone is the best by far.

even living with best friends gets stressful and difficult.

living with randoms is fun and a good experience as long as you don't have a long lease agreement and you can leave when stuff gets bad.

 

that's probably the best advice yet - don't sign a lease with strangers

but yea, you'll just have to ask if they care if you smoke a little weed. tell em that you can keep it in your room and be respectful if they don't smoke.

 

Signing a lease with anyone, friends and girlfriends included, is not a smart idea.

 

i think my gf was just added onto my lease. so technically i'm the only one on it. probably the smart thing to do, but i don't have any doubt that she'll continue living here with me.

 

if i were you id post something online and mention your age and shit and say what area you were looking to rent from. add that you would want a roommate or two and meet up with them and go house renting. this way you can talk about what you are looking for while getting to them closer.

 

heres a tip, before you leave your parents' house, go through everything you own. a little planning now will save your butt and your sanity later. your parents dont want to go through your old boxes of toys (only half of them are worth keeping for future kids/grandkids) your schoolwork isnt ALL precious, it has to be sorted and maybe to really good drawings/ work saved. then theres all the knick knacks you outgrew as a kid, and things you might reincorporate into your decor when living on your own. the point is you should never begin a journey bogged down with stuff. especially stuff that doesnt make you feel good. and you really dont want to dump all that clutter on your parents, them being cool and all. also, i dont know how you were raised, but in case you were not taught how to take care of yourself (cook, clean, do laundry, improvise) see FLYlady.net. ask your mom to let you help in the kitchen, and get some practice in. my hubby has worked in restaurants, and has a hard time being comfortable in the kitchen. he only knows how to follow a recipe to the letter, theres no freedom and he wasnt taught methods (recently we tackled making a roux) he doesnt understand "top rack dishwasher only" and i had to tape instructions on the dryer. a lot of parents fail to cover these things, and they are so vital. my little brother still lives at home and he is such a slob. i don't know how he turned out that way.

sorry. i just got to babbling. but FLYlady helps a lot with cleaning, setting up routines, sorting through the crap we cart around with us and letting go. especially if youi never thought about it before. we have 2 cluttered childhoods and added a brand new child to that, and i am in the middle of going through all of it now. and then theres the stuff i still have at my parents house...