I have the opportunity to have sex with a very convinving TV. For many years now I have fantasised about having sex with shemales/TS/TV's etc. I have only had one gay experience which was with a normal guy and involved everything apart from sex which I enjoyed thoroughly at the time though on my way home felt dirty (best way to describe it). That feeling didn't last very long but I had all the usual concerns (being my first time with a guy) about catching HIV etc (though without any substance as he was HIV negative as far as im aware and we didn't have intercourse) I have often masturbated over that event since but have been hesistant to act upon these thoughts with any guy since. Back to the point; I am attracted to this TV and he is up for no strings fun etc and as mentioned previously it has, for a long time, been a fantasy of mine. I'm still not sure whether to go for it or not, the worry I have is mainly of HIV, though again I have no reason to think he has it and has said that he always practices safe sex. What I need to decide is whether or not the fulfilling a fantasy of mine with TV I am very attracted to, is worth all the worrying that I know I will put myself through for a substantial period after the event of whether I may have caught HIV (although I would obviously be practicing safe sex) I do also have a long term girlfriend who I love very much but this need of mine to take the opportunity to fulfill a fantasy is very strong. I know I am probably just worrying way too much and should just go with the flow, be safe and enjoy myself, but I could do with hearing some thoughts from you guys.
I say don't. You have a long-term girlfriend. Put yourself at risk, sure, but think of her safety. You get the choice here to risk catching HIV. She doesn't. That's neither fair nor right. Either invite her into some 3-way thinger, letting her know the risks, or let her go, or don't cheat.
Cheating is lame. If you're going to bugger this TV then break up with your girlfriend, if you love her you wouldn't cheat.
I agree that cheating is lame. So make sure it's ok with the girlfriend before going ahead. Other than that, have a safe sex discussion re: testing and sexual practices. If he's recently tested negative for HIV, doesn't engage in risky practices, and your GF is comfortable with it, go for it. Use condoms.
Thinking about sex with a transvestite is one thing (normal curiousity I'd think), but going out and doing it while you have a girlfriend is just plain wrong. This might not be what you want to hear, but this would be cheating. If you really want to do it then break up with her, because if you loved her you wouldn't consider cheating on her. L_S
In the long run, I've found regretting what I passed up is less pleasant than regretting what I did. "Darn, I should have tried that when I had a chance" is more painful than "Darn, that was a mistake".
If your gf is understanding enough, why not tell her your fantasies and see what she says? Its your life. You have this chance. It may or may not happen again in the future. There are plenty of things I can't wait to try with my bf but I know those things will come eventually. Keep in contact with this tv. You never know what might happen in the future
Does your girlfriend know about your past experiences and your fantasies or is she completely in the dark about it? If she knows, and you think she'd be ok with it then talk to her about. She what she says and if she's down with it maybe talk to the guy about getting tested together? If she's not okay with it then you guys probably need to talk about some stuff anyway. Don't cheat, forget that option. It's possibly dangerous to her emotional and physical well being. But you probably should talk about it, even if you're scared she'll leave you. The relationship will never last anyway if you're keeping painful secrets and longings from her.
Cheating is not cool at all. Dump your gf and bang the TV or invite your gf for a 3some... Don't cheat.. It will doom your relationship...
just do it dont live witht the i should have done it wen i had the chance live with the yeah i done that before lol
After three wives, a number of girlfriends, a couple of gay partners of the moment, and some kinky stuff...and experiencing the fear of HIV...from a girlfriend who played a lot, rather than from a guy...I'd say this... Handle your risks...but never is sex risk free, even with your wife of many years if you had one. Do whatever you want that you can live with, and that won't get you locked away or killed or hurt people. You might consider that if you have to ask others about this, you "might" not be ready to launch out so freely, might not like the emotional stuff you mentioned coming back to haunt you. If you choose to go ahead anyway...great, enjoy, and take whatever goes with it. Nobody's answer can change that. It is important for you to be free, whether you opt to make this transvestite adventure part of your version of freedom or not. Sounds like you're way hung up about it. Get over being so hung up if you can. Perhaps the actual experience will help you get over that crap, even if it does bring it up for you. We all have conditioning of some kind. Note to those who rapped cheating. Cheating is just an idea for controlling people that goes along with the commitments idea...not a bad thing, but also not a necessary thing. If it takes that kind of head tripping to keep a partner, perhaps one should consider another path. What makes it "cheating" is being sly and dishonest about it, especially when risking your partner's well-being. But he said nothing about cheating...just mentioned he had a girlfriend. For myself, I've decided over the years that honesty is best with my current partner(s), and those who would be my partner(s) before the fact. (That does not necessarily mean my partners need or want a moment-by-moment update and report card.) That works for me, because even if the passionate moments are not forthcoming, I feel better about myself. If they think my way in the world is shit, better they should have the opportunity to think that before they get all involved than after.
