Ok...just to clear this up...I have no problem with porn. My boyfriend (we've been dating for 2 months now) seems to watch porn every day we aren't together. Should I be concerned with this? I only looked into it because I went to type something in for a website and the second I typed a letter, all these porn videos and websites popped up. So, out of curiosity, I looked at his history...that's when I realized he watched it every day that we weren't together. I probably wouldn't be too concerned if he didn't tell me all the time that he didn't like porn that much. Should I be concerned about this? I'm usually not, but I don't want something like this effecting our sex life in the future.
Don't be concerned at all, all that proves is he's a normal dude in that respect. Guys just like porn. Your "weird" if your one of those that dont, if that makes any sense. But my girlfriend asked me before and I said I didnt watch it either and that was cuz of fear of her reaction. That's probably his reason too!
that makes me feel better...he knows I don't care...hell I watch porn...I just didn't know if maybe he's watching too much. Thanks!
Haha no problems. Just as long as he doesn't end up on TrueLife: I'm addicted to porn! They actually had a real episode of that... that's just bad.
I saw that one, the one guy who was addicted, he seemed really creepy, no wonder no girls were talking to him But yeah guys like to see women naked, simple as that, nothing wrong with your bf.
i got porn running right now. i've got a small tv hooked up with a dvd player. i play porn even at work (of course, i work at home so, i can get away with that.) quite offen i watch porn when i can't sleep. it helps put me to sleep. if your boyfriend is a young guy i would not worry about. when he gets to my age, you have seen so much porn that, it gets borning and repeitive far, far more quickly then when you were young and, it is great to use to be put to sleep by! i would only be worried about him and porn if, it becomes all consuming to him that, it interferes with his relationships with you and/or others or, if it interferes with him having a job.
I wouldn't worry about it. I watch "porn" everyday as well. Mind you, I'm single at the moment. There are a couple of porn forums(both of which appear to be fairly well-managed and have strict rules in terms of which file host sites can be used and such) that I visit usually on the daily basis, and I download all of my porn from there for free since I'm a cheap bastard, lol. But I actually don't like the typical mainstream stuff. I used to when I was a teen, but then when you're a teen you'd like anything sexual, lol. Over the years, my taste in "porn" became more particular, and these days I almost always get solo stuff or girl/girl. And I also prefer amateur material as well. Would I tell my partner I like watching this stuff? I think I would..if/when I have a partner, that is, lol. That to me is part of being open and honest in a relationship. I'd like for her to understand what kind of stuff turns me on, and for her to tell me and show me what she likes, too. Perhaps you should have a talk with your boyfriend. He might have gotten a bit defensive about it when he said he didn't like porn. Maybe you can reassure him that there is no need to get defensive about it. Watching porn in itself isn't bad. It's bad if he prefers porn over you, but that's not the case here now is it? Hell, why don't you guys watch some TOGETHER? I know some of my friends do this from time to time to make things more interesting. Just a thought...
Thanks for the input everyone! I really didn't think it was too big of a deal, especially since I watch porn once or twice a week myself...I just didn't know if watching it everyday was strange when you're in a serious relationship. I honestly don't care if he does...hell, I'd prefer it if he did so that maybe we can spice things up a bit from time to time based on something he sees that he likes and would want me to do. I haven't suggested watching it together...I've done it in previous relationships but not this one...yet
I'm ambivalent about porn. I think that like other media, it can build unrealistic expectations of looks and behaviors. I think males who use it constantly can wind up with timing problems...shall I say? Everyday for 20 minutes is different that daily for 2+ hours, of course. Plus most of it is silly and wayyyy too into male size and humiliation/anal. We need some awesome erotica....
He's more than welcome to watch porn...my question was, if people think he's watching too much. And yes I agree with everyone that we need some better erotica out there...porn these days is ridiculously cheesy!
Maybe it was the fact that my wife and I hooked up later in life, like in our 30s, so we were already established as individuals. She knew of my sexual interests ... prolly a plus in us hooking up. All thru our marriage I subscribed to Playboy magazine, something some traditional married women would freak out over. Oh, and I also subscribed to Playgirl magazine - she knew I liked doing guys. Some of our videos we would watch together, almost like having another couple in the room as we did much what was going on screen. Not only that, I wrote porn (go read it on Literotica http://www.literotica.com/stories/memberpage.php?uid=15432&page=submissions) and often would try out some interesting stuff on my wife just to see if it worked as well as written. So, she enjoyed the R&D of my pornografic mind.
I go through phases with porn. And honestly, it can be detrimental to a healthy sex life. We are happily married for 20 years, but I also know that when i tend towards porn, my sexual interests with her wane. I don't think it is necessarily as benign as people indicate. If you are concerned, express that now; don't wait till you have implicitly condoned the behavior and change is unlikely. If you're cool with it, be honest with yourself and him.
