ok so yeah me and my ex just had a convo on aim.the main reason we arent together is because she is at college..but idk im confused.lately i've been trying to forget about everything with her and just move on.she lost her phone so we havent talk in like a week.so yeah im gonna copy and paste the convo we just had.i hope some of you can help me and maybe even her with this situation.as of right now idk what im gonna do.should i just keep movin on or what?
Well all I can say is remember she was high, and I don't know her but sometimes we feel things that we really don't when we're high. You know?
she is full of shit because, she has been smoking "a ton of weed." anyone who is shitfaced, is full of shit... it is just that simple! i have seen that over and over again with others when their shitfaced; and, i to have been full of shit, when i was shitfaced too. mate, never, ever, try to have a meanfull conversation with anyone when their stoned. it just don't work! one last thing. write in standred english when on the internet or web. text is not proper for the internet or web.
i have no advice...but being high and shitfaced are very different i usually care less when im high, perhaps it is a good thing...so that's all i am going to say simply to counter the above posters statements in regards to weed
what the fuck are you guys talking about.where did it say she was shitfaced?yeah she smokes pot and so do i...where fuckin hippies we do alot of drugs lol.this doesnt have anything to do with pot.this is somethign that has been goin on for a while.she is confused about what she should do and im confused cause idk if is should hold on to her or what.
she, herself, said she was shitfaced in her text. shitfaced means to be under the influence of a drug; most offen drunk and/or stoned. i'm some kind of goth/hippie myself. goths smoke just as much mj as hippies do. almost all subcultures do a lot of drugs. i have been drunk/high/shitfaced/stoned one damn hell of a lot in my life too. to move on from this drugs shitfaced stuff. now, on your relationship with her. i said she can't perform sound reasoning while high, no one can. without sound reasoning, you can't make sound decissions either. it is useless to try and make sense, out of the decussion you two had at that time. she is confused and, your confused too... human relationships have one hell of a lot of confusion to them. life is not a bowl of cherries and, it is not the pits either... it is messy. confusion is messy. a lot of decissions are messy. human relationships are always messy. should you stay or, should you go? i have no bloody ideal. i'm not you. we are individal human beings with different psychologies. the only "advice" i can give you is this. the vast majority of the advice given on the web is shit; and, that goes for here at hip fourms too. i will give you this saying from acoa concering advice from others. "take what you need and leave the rest." beyond what i have said here, the decission of what you should or should not do is yours alone to bear. whatever decision you come to and, whatever decision she comes to i wish you both the best.
umm shitfaced rarely means high....unless its laced perhaps...but even then im just saying that to make blackcats argument legitimate... dude sound reasoning while high...sure you may have slower reaction, but i judge my relationships and things normally. when i am high i do tend to re-evaluate the people i am around...not for better or worse but i get a better feeling of my relationship with them. the fact that she seemed to take that much interest in you while stoned seems like a good thing to me...im sorry im stuck on this high shit but its becuase it was brought up. is she being loyal to you? have you asked her that...i mean i know you aren't together but is she messing around? i myself was with someone long distance, we had agreed to allow each other to fuck other people as long as no strings were attached...i was the only one to utilize that and it destroyed my relationship...if she is loyal its a good sign. if she is not it may mean she does love you, but fuck man being in college is tempting, it might be better for your relationship to let her explore and come back, seems like thats what may have been implied when she put the relationship on hold. it sounds like she loves you, i'd be patient, but i'd say do not lay all your eggs in one basket. you know her well do you think she is going to be promiscuous (sp?)? give her space, i almost guarantee (not postive though) that the more space you give her the more she will miss you...and its not a bad thing, dont stop talking to her, but let her come to you some of the time ya know...dont tell her you love her all the time, maybe wait for her to bring it up...idk im not one to giive advice and i dont know you or her...but i know how being in love can be...communication is key. how far away is she? also i remember when me and my high school boyfriend went to college, which was at the same time but two different colleges our convos got shorter (we'd gone to different high schools as well) in college because you are much busier and by living in the dorms have much less alone time...you are always doing something...so i am sure that is hard for you cuz if you are anything like me you might be all in your head worrying about what is going on...but you just cant worry...also im saying this so you dont get too offended if your conversations are shorter...maybe weekly or twice a week have times you arrange to have longer discussions...but again idk if that is what she wants idk if i helped or not, but i thought i'd give it a try
she hasnt done anything with other guys but we both said its ok to do stuff with other people.i believe that she hasnt done anything with other guys cause i asked her one time straight up if she did and that its ok to tell me and she said she didnt.i saw her a couple weeks ago and we kissed and she said that she was a little rusty cause i was the last person she kissed(the last time we kissed before that time was like a month and a half before).i dont go to her and i dont tell her i love her, even though i want to go to her and tell her i love her.im just gonna let happen what happens you know.im not gonna try to force anything.i just miss her and i want her back...and i hope she feels the same way towards me.last time we talked i told her that i was just gonna do my own thing.her voice changed and got all quiet and she asked me if i still wanted to talk to her.i told her of course, why wouldnt i.im just planning on talkin to her when she contacts me....maybe even ignore her sometimes when she trys to contact me.that whole convo that i posted was like the first time me and her talked in like a week and a half and she said all those things.so im just gonna see what happens.
How far away is she from you? How long were you together for? Could you not make it a long distance thing? She sounds genuine to me.
she's 3 hours away from me.we where together for 4 months but have been best friends for a long time.she said she doesnt want to do a long distance thing cause they never work out and because she cant give me everything she could if she was here.i dont think i could do a long distance thing either though.i would wanna talk to her alot and it would be hard cause she is always busy.
