i'm not "in love" with my boyfriend. he is a good person, but we've outgrown each other (we have been together since we were in highschool, now we're both 20something) basically, we are just roommates. no sex, no love, no connection. we fight all the time about stupid things, and when we do get along, my mind is elsewhere. there are many reasons why i would like to end the relationship- he hasn't had a job in long while, hence i pay for everything, he is a recovering opiate abuser, but is still very depressed about his situation and life in general. he, my friend and i all live together in an apartment. all of our names are on the lease (every month he calls his mom to beg for rent money). i have told him that i think it would be a good idea for him to move out several times (obviously my friend and i are staying) - and he hasn't taken it well. basically, he has said that he isn't going anywhere, that he loves this appartment, he's going to change blahblahblah okay. wtf do i do to get him out? (i really don't want to cheat on him or anything like that cuz that's just low.)
First of all, why do you still call him your boyfriend? Why haven't you broken up with him yet? I don't know how to get him to leave the apartment, but breaking up sounds like a good first step to me.
How long is the lease? How long is left? Typically I see 6 and 12 months. For your sanity, you need to end the relationship part. Since you'll still be roommates (I hope you have different rooms) you will have to work out how each of you will have privacy/ time with other people.
