i hate my mom.

i've come to this conclusion after almost two years of deep, careful thought.

i appreciate all she does for me, and am grateful, but as a person i just fucking HATE her.

i can't stand this shit anymore. i don't know what i'm going to do, but i can't put up with it anymore. she just infuriates me so often, and it's not punishment, that's reasonable for a kid to be punished sometimes. it's how she treats my dad, how she always assumes she's right, how she doesn't respect my decisions, how she thinks i'm stupid, how she can't see why people would make a different choice than her, she thinks she's smarter than everyone else, how she always thinks i have a tone with her (its just how i normally talk.. but she always gets pissed).

blah. fuck.

/rant.

 

Happens.

You may change your mind in a few years, you may not.


My mum was involved with my first panic attack a few weeks back. For a week, she wasn't even human for me, and I wouldn't've cared if she were murdered. Now, I love my mommy again.

More similar to your situation, when my brother and his fiance lived here I fucking hated them. They didn't respect the other people in the household, and they acted like they owned the fucker. Now that they live a safe distance away (a few states), I quite like them.

 

You've been living with her probably your whole life, there is a difference between being sick of some one and hating them. Dont be so hard on your mom

 

i feel like a really really terrible person for it though... like... i hope things improve... because right now... bleh.

 

Do you really hate her or just the things she does?

 

allright, hate is a little strong....


BUT.

it's her as a person, not as a parent.

she's sooo uptight all the time, and my dad on the otherhand is really relaxed and collected all the time.

dad can actually convince me to do things better than mom can, because he actually sees it from my point of view. he doesn't just force me to do somethign and punish me if i don't...

i don't talk to my mom unless she comes into my room. or stops me someother place, or makes me call her.

 

Dude, I hate your mom too

 

i felt the same when i was your age...my kid hates the fuck outta his mom..he is 14

Just keep in mind that dynamics between kids and parents changes severely during your life...so keep an open mind....sometimes it becomes easier to take pople after you accept that they are what they are

what are your moms strong or good points?

 

I felt the same way. I actually have a confession that i have never told anyone. I feel worse about it than anything i have ever done. I recall saying "I hope you die" or something like that just typing it out i'm like wtf i couldn't have said that horrible of a thing. She then died that next year of liver disease. RIP
I don't believe i truley meant what i said, as i did cry more than iv'e ever cried before (11 yrs old). But i do believe that i got karma for saying that.
My mom gave me alot of love.

 

Here's a solution to your problem :cheers2:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k1900A_ktEg



Hotwater

 

I used to love my mom. Then I HATEEEEDDD her for about a year. I couldn't stand the thought of her- I though she was the scum of the universe.
And now she is my absolute best friend, and I love her more than anything.


That is why I'm glad I always bit my tongue when she pissed me off, I surely would have said something I would regret now.

 

One day you will see her as a person, imperfect, and you will forgive her and love her for trying to be a good person despite her imperfections.

As i said before there is a difference between being sick of some one and hating them. It does not sound like you hate your mom, but are sick of being around her, as your personalities clash.

One day when you are living on your own, you will see your mom as one of the better people out there, im sure, unless she is truely horrible and by the sounds of it, she is not.

 

Tell me about it man. I hate mi madre, so so much. one month ago i ate a quarter of shrooms and had an intense time. Somehow my mom found out about it and thought i was going crazy. like she kept noticing i was more carefree with my attitude. but i kinda changed my personality on my own to be more spontaneous and impulsive. eventually she twists my words around and decided i was suicidal so she calls the cops on me =>>>>>i got caught like four hours later and went to the hospital for medical evaluation. turns out they think im crazy due to my moms comments!? so i get sent to the looney bin for phsch evalution and it sucks balls. i saw this one kid go in cuz he took 22 vicadin and tried to kill himself. he said he was better and they let him go home the next morning.. WTF i was in there for five days and i didnt do shit! everyone hatted me in there cuz the thought i was an asshole..cuz i was denying my problem! im like wtf i dont have a problem! But they think im bipolar..whatever if anything i think i have add. and it was very obvious while i was in there. but the doctor knew i was educated well on drugs and wouldnt give me a prescription to adderal cuz he thought i was an addict seeking drugs i was like wtf this is bullshit. but to make matters worse theres a horrible end to the story message me if you wanna know the ending. im tired of typing noww

 

moms are fucking Nuts..

 

OK...I'm gunna give you some advice because I've been there before...

I highly doubt she acts the way she acts towards you because she thinks you're stupid or anything like that. You're 15...when I was 15, I was moving out of my dad's house because he couldn't deal with me anymore. I thought I was in the right all the time, but I later realized I wasn't. Now, we're closer than we've ever been before. We are close because we know our boundaries of conversation with each other. Him and I are SOOO completely different that we never got along when I lived with him. That may be the case with your mom.

Another thing, do you do things that worry her like party or do drugs? That's another thing that can cause her to act that way towards you.

Don't use the word "hate" toward your parents. Think about why she might be the way she is and either find a way to fix it or come to terms with it. It's normal for you to feel this way at 15 toward your mother

 

It's the same with me and my mom. I realized that her and I were so much alike that we fought all the time...now, I'm living with her to help her with bills and we get along better than ever!

 

You need to make peace with her then. Sit down and express how you feel and talk it out. The last thing you should want to take to your grave is the fact that you despised your mother. It'll end up being better for you both in the long run if you can try to build a healthier relationship where when you think of your mother you think "I love her so much" rather than "I hate her so much."

 

Yeah i always would say "i seriously hate my mom" and i was serious she did things that pissed me off so much. I wish she was easier to get along with but you know that you love someone if them dying makes you extremely sad. So i guess even though i hated her i still loved her for being my mom. If she was alive and i knew what i knew now, i would try to get along with her better and negotiate or something.

 

Yeah I feel yah on that one dude, I also hate my mom for many good reasons. When I was 15 I used to think it was just a phase but I am 26 and I have not spoken to her in 3 years now. My life is so much more peacefull now. Im not telling u that u should never talk to her again, im just saying dont beat ur self up over it. Soon u will b old enough to live ur own life and u will finally feel free. Hang in there friend.

 

I believe it is simply wrong to hate your mother for any reason, for if not for them we would not be in this world.

I would suggest you learn to see things from her point of view, overlook her shortcomings, along with your own and most importantly, if there is anyone in this world more deserving of your love and forgiveness, it is your Mom.

Trust me on this one...please!