Finding My Sexual Orientation?

So i'm 17 male, I haven't really had any close relationships with a male or female. I'm attracted to men (somewhat) and not really women, but it seems like I would rather spend my life with a women since most of the people I have loved in the past are women. I couldn't see myself going all the way with a man or a women, but for the most part I act straight and seem straight. Is it possible to bring myself to be more attracted to women if I would rather spend my life with one? Is it abnormal to feel this way? Could it be linked to other psycheological problems?


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Firstly, I don't think what you have described, in itself, is "abonormal", and on this information alone I can't say if you have any psychological problems. A lot of young people go through this "finding" stage when it comes to sexual orientation. I didn't myself, but I've seen it in friends. It happens

You asked if it would be posible to "bring yourself" to be attracted to women. You are still young, so it's early days, but I have to say if it really would be an effort to have sexual attraction for women then I'd say you are most likely to be gay. Most straight boys have started to just naturally feel it by your age-but you feel it for men. That says a lot. I don't think you should try and be attracted to women sexually just because of those you have loved in the past- you would be living a lie based on very little experience. It never works. You are young and I doubt you've given men a fair chance

I'd say go with the flow and keep an open mind, but don't do any forcing or telling yourself you should be with a certain gender because of anything. You say you can't see yourself "going all the way" with either gender. This is probably just because you aren't ready, or haven't met the right person. That's fine and nothing to worry about. On the other hand you could just have a very low sex drive which again, can be normal. But it should all become clearer with more time

 

thanks for the help, I guess if I did try to find a partner, male or female, than as a human being I would instinctively be attracted.