a question to the wise

This is a long story, I'll make it as short as I can.

Me and my best friend stopped talking after five close years today. It's ok, I am doing ok (its hard, letting someone go is not a part of who I am). She used me for years, since she knew I did have a crush on her for a WHILE. She should have told me that she wasn't interested in me, but she went the other route and used me for all she could get. I did a lot for her, a lot more then most say I should have. I took care of her when neither her boyfriend or parents would when she was kicked out of her house. I hate talking about the bad in a person, but I need to vent, and say that she needs to add the words "thank you" to her vocabulary. I forgive her and do not hold anything she did to me against her, but I feel for myself it's time to move on. She kinda stopped talking to me since we were supposed to go see some bands play, and the belts on my car need to be replaced and sadly, I wasn't going to take the risk driving to another state. I told her this and she didn't believe me and freaked out.

Which brings me to my question, well in a second. Now, we both have tickets to see her fav band in the world (glassjaw) on nov 28th. She is not going now since I have the other ticket. I know there is no way we will talk again in a civil manor, but I had an idea. I was thinking of going by her house and dropping that ticket (not even asking her for the 50bux i payed for it, nor the 150 I can sell it for on stubhub now) off in her mailbox and texting her to tell her to go outside and get the ticket. I feel that ok, we are not friends, but an random act of kindness like that can leave a lasting impact on a person.

I don't know if I sound like an idiot, but I kinda like that idea.

 

you sound like a major whiner. sell the tix, buy some weed, smoke a blunt. you'll be good in the morning.

 

lol, or i could buy a bong =]

 

to me it sounds like your more pissed deep down that she put you in the 'friend' category and not the 'fuck' category

take a hard stand,turn your back,sell that ticket....blow her out of your life

 

I was a bit, I'm not going to lie. We almost did at first, things didn't work out kinda.

 

well you can't win em all, BRAH

 

I think it is a wonderful idea and I sense that you are yourself inspired by it.
Our relationships never end they advance and recede. Many times in your life will you entertain the thought of your friend. Sometimes in passing, sometimes they appear in a story that you tell. Sometimes we hold them with regret and some times we hold them with fondness, and this is true if you are with them, or if you are not. The measure of your love is the love you give to your friend. It is the only love you can ever count on. Your friends love for you was and is real, and yours is also.

 

he just finished saying he knows her love was not real...what fuckin post did you read....
he is not talkin about a good friend here..he is describing a one sided friendship where she used him and took advantage of an obvious crush.....she's a hurtful friend,the kind he can do without...and guarenteed when he starts bangin a girl of his own she will show up ready to put out...its an old story

 

Doing something nice for someone who did something not-so-nice to you is the ultimate act of kindness. It demonstrates your choice to live life in a positive manner rather than a negative manner and it sets an example for a person who may have chosen to live in a negative manner.

However, if you harbor even the slightest idea that giving her the ticket will somehow change her mind about you, then you absolutely should not give it to her. If you want to give it to her because you want to do something nice for her, then go ahead and do it - but, DO NOT expect anything (and I mean ANYTHING) in return.

Random acts of kindness are their own reward. You get nothing else from the act, other than the knowledge that you did something nice for someone.

 

Well, you're certainly trying to take the high road, which is rare and wonderful in a world fulla of hate and vengence.

yeah but what kind of love
-it comes in flavors. She may have loved him as a friend but not a lover. It's still love. Or was anyway.

give it time, animalsASleaders, the road in Life is long and ya just never can tell how stuff is gonna shake out in the end.
Good Luck!

 

All I have to say is she flipped shit on you for something that wasn't your fault after everything you did for her. She used you as well dude. Anyone in this world would be bummed as fuck if their big concert plans got messed up, but anyone with a little decency would understand that nothing can be done about the situation and it's out of their hands. She shouldn't flip out on you about nearly anything, especially a concert. But now you want to give her your ticket when you could sell it for $150? I don't think that giving her your ticket would leave any more of an impression on her than letting her stay with you when times were hard and the countless other things you did for her you know? It takes two to have a good friendship bro, and you can't play both roles. I know it's easier said then done but you just have to make up your mind that enough is enough. Good luck with that man

 

I was speaking to the party. Are you answering for them then?

 

i expect her never to talk to me again, which I am content with.

 

your name says it all...this is a forum...people reply to the replies...thats how it works....you say something and then I[we]tell you why we agree or disagree...you gave the dude bad advice....your tellin him to be a chump and give that bitch the ticket which is wrong.....

if i was him i would give the ticket to the stinkiest fuckin homeless dude he can find...let her sit with him for the show

 

Well im sure that dude could answer for himself, and you don't gotta be so rude about it. Calm down a little give advice to the person who posts the thread and that's all. If you state your view once you don't need to do it again when someone posts different advice as you because he's gonna do what he wants in the end, no matter what anyone says.

 

read carefully....this is an open discussion....i will also do what I want to [in the end]..

 

Actually i was suggesting that we follow our inspirations because they always seem to turn out well for ourselves.

 

I completely agree. If there's even the most remote chance you think she might change her mind if you give her the tickets like you're suggesting, it's probably not a good idea. If that's the case, sell them and buy a bong. Glassjaw sucks anyway!

 

This. Random acts of kindness have a way of returning to you. If you have truly let go of this relationship and have moved on with life, why not give something that will give another joy. Do so with an open hand not expecting to receive. The benefits you reap later might surprise you when you least expect it. JMTC. FN

 

I never said it wasn't all I was trying to say is that your not his mom. If he wanted to say exactly what you just had to say for him, he would/will say it, cool?