I have been trying to focus my anger into a black piece of cloth to get rid of it. This works exceedingly well to calm me and it created a peaceful environment for me. I did this because the other methods (walk it off, just don't be angry, take a few deep breaths, draw stuff) never worked for me. Now I have a black piece of cloth which I don't know what to do with, and now someone is angry at me for dealing with my anger this way and doesn't understand that I can't just make my anger dissappear like she can. What do I do? Do I just keep channeling my anger into the cloth?
Meditating a bit each day will help you in the long run, but in the heat of the moment, release your energy and then ground yourself. If cloth doesn't work, find another object, pick up a stone then transfer the anger, and throw it really hard...pop a balloon....punch a pillow, just get it out somehow and replenish yourself with calmer earth energy.
Someone who gets angry at someone trying to rid them self of anger just doesn't get it... If it works don't worry someone is mad at you for handling it that way, they'll get over it.
Haha sorry, I was sleepy last night when I replied and didn't read the last bit as well as I should have. Anyway it's none of their buisness how you get rid of your anger as long as you're not hurting anyone. So poo on them. Use the cloth if it works. If it carries a lot of negative energy, and you want to do something with it, bury it. Make sure it's somewhere where someone else won't mess with it or pick it up. Do you carry the cloth with you, or do you keep it somewhere?
What is anger? If you ask me i'd say anger is the non-acceptance of what is. So try and accept that things are the way they are and being angry about it isn't the best way to deal with things, which kinda brngs me to my second point; anger is a tool people use to try and control others. One may think " If i show them i'm angry they'll stop doing what it is i don't want them to do". - well that might work in ones imagination but very rarely in practice. So what use is anger? One needs to question why one is angry in the first place and most often it is because things aren't going as we would like them to go ... which is kinda selfish in an 'innocently selfish' kinda way. Anger as a response to losing control. Anger is born of thought so meditating is not a bad idea ... so we learn to become more aware of our thinking and question our thinking (just because we think or believe something doesn't make it true). Thinking also consumes our awareness and we spend all our time in our heads ... so focus your awareness in your body (away from thinking) for a few moments; by doing this simple thing you can at least curb somewhat the despotic grip of the mind and it's incessant, judging, comparing, referencing ect and learn to be 'ok' with what is.
What makes you angry? Picture it. Now put a frame around that picture. Then remove yourself from the picture, if you happen to be in it. Drain the picture of all colour. Now envision this framed picture moving into the distance. Note how you feel. Do this when you feel angry. Don't save it up and do it later. Do it when you feel it. It takes practice. It took myself sometime just to be able to remove colour from an image. Don't give up because it might not work the first few times. Repetition is the key. And always remember that emotions are transient.
the cloth is really just a tool that enables you to focus your angry energy and release it in a safe manner. I think its a great idea and I also think one day you won't need the cloth anymore. If I did something like this, when the day comes when I can handle my anger without the cloth, I would do some kind of ritual with the cloth-bury it, burn it, whatever works best for you.
