My gf has never had an orgasm. Help?

So here's the deal, my girlfriend of about 11 months has never had an orgasm. We have been sexually active for 6 months, and she really enjoys sex but has never had an orgasm. Also, we both lost our virginity together AND she has never masturbated. So she has never gotten herself to orgasm either.

Now, I'm doing all the right things I believe, plenty of foreplay, oral, the whole deal. She has said that she has felt close to climax, or so she thinks.

Do you guys have any advice for me? I was thinking about buying one of those silver egg vibrators for me to try on her, what do you think?

 

She should learn how to give herself an orgasm first. It will be a lot easier for her to have an orgasm if she knows exactly what it takes and then shares that with you. Right now you're both taking shots in the dark and you may be getting closer but if she would start masturbating and explore her own body first it could make things go a lot faster.

 

Yea, that makes sense. But she doesn't want to, she's uncomfortable with it. So idk, I'm just trying my best haha

 

Vibrator for sure, I'm really surprised to see that a sexual active girl doesn't already have one, all the chicks I've ever been with had atleast one.

 

I definitely agree about her masturbating. I think really the best thing about masturbation (beyond the obvious orgasm) is becoming familiar with onself sexually and being able to share that with others.

If she really isn't down with that, I would say you need to where you guys do nothing but focus on her. Fingering her, oral, trying out alot of positions etc. You don't get off unless she does.

My current girlfriend had trouble getting off when we first became sexual. I was her first sexual partner. We finally just set aside hours to just experiment and find what it was that got her going. We finally got it down, she got off, and its been well over a year and with a very fullfilling sexual relationship for us both.

Dedicate time to her and her body, find what works together, and if you can do it once you should always be able to do it.

 

yeah does she take anti-depressnats?


otherwise just communication, dont stress about it. most importantly she shouldnt stress about it.

and u should look up some good videos that show u how to do good oral.

if ur doin good oral for 30 minints i couldnt beleive she wouldnt cumm, unless she is spastic. usually my x woul be 5-10 minits from oral then fuck her in some good gspot positions.

 

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yea were gonna try a vibrator and see how that works, thanks everyone

 

Fuck masturbation, vibrators and all this crap. Just do it, keep it going. Then start again if you have to. It's a question of time, women take longer to climax.

Just stick it in like a blind man looking for a nickel, exploring different means and ways and positions and whatever else.

If she starts to masturbate to get her thrills and it works, and you still don't succeed, then you will start to feel a little less adequate i'm sure.

 

I can only speak from my experience. I'm and old dude and had discovered that I have to take it slow. Foreplay, followed by close contact with the clitoris and staying there. Slowly moveing in a circular motion clockwise - then counterclockwise - and keep it up. After a little while of this, my wifes vigina colapses around me acutually making it difficult to thrust. I really don't even try to thrust until she is close to orgasim. The secret is trying to take it slow - very slow - don't give in to your urge to finish. You'll come - for sure - but wait for her. Preferably she will come first. If you do come then it is pretty much over. The secret is patience. It'll come.

 

If she's uncomfortable with touching herself, how can she be truly comfortable with you touching her? How old are you guys?
Trying your best is all you can do. While you're trying, don't worry too much about the orgasm part. Try to "listen" to her body's reaction, to play the vaginal instrument so to speak. orgasms are a journey, not a destination

 

Were both 19, and she's told me that she likes the idea that only I have been "down there", not even herself. So we'll see, were still young.

 

There ya go

 

If she was close what stopped her?

 

not sure, maybe my rhythm or she just lost it

 

CAT Coital Alignment Technique. Look it up. Try it out....

 

usualy if they cant go all the way its cause there nervous, anxious, or have hangups about sex.

she thinks its a bad thing. she needs counciling to get over her insecuriities.

 

I've found the opposite. Normally if I'm almost there the only thing that stops me is my partner changing what he was doing from something I enjoyed to something else.

 

longer oral--30min--suck that clit finger it and put a finger in her ass and make her tell you what your doing right---ive had girls that were hard to orgasm but extended oral done right fixed it--although my tongue got tired---gotta make the woman-cum---some require extended 4play hours b4 there ready----good luck---and if you can gt her to masterbate herself off you can see wha ut take she might need it a litle rougher than normal---good luck

 

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