Ok...here I am....I'm 32 as of August. I have a 3 1/2 yr old daughter and an 8 month old daughter. I'm married to my second wife for 6 years now.... I feel like I am just trapped. I have some personal time where I go out and spend time in the outdoors etc....but I still feel this way. Is this normal?
I'm sure there are many others in your situation who feel the same way Perhaps you could see somebody who has experience with these matters and has seen many people in similar walks of life.
you're kinda screwed dude, you have alot of commitments to take care of, be fair to your family and do the right thing. In 15-20 years youll have some more free time.
Welcome to responsibility. If you're feeling too tied down, it's time to let go of some of those commitments. Now I don't mean your family -- you can't just up and leave them, that's the coward's way out. Let go of the things that don't really matter -- extracurricular stuff, extra workload, if your job is too heavy, then get another one. The list goes on.
I kinda know how you feel. I am 19 and have a lot of responsibilities toward my family. sometimes i feel trapped i wish i could just go out and do things that i want to do, the trick around it is to find ways to get you family to do some of the things that you like. like i remember when i was a little kid my father always made sunday after church the day when we would have a family outing, and guess what it was always thing that he like to do, and since my mother married him for the things that they had in common(as your wife probably did) she was happy to do things that he liked(but remember to compromise) and since my sister and i were little, we had no say in the matter we did that every week.
It sounds to me like you're having your mid-life crisis a couple years early. Cabin Fever is a bitch. Maybe you need to try some new things. Don't let it get out of control though. Maybe you could even talk to someone about it. An objective 3rd party.
Everybody needs some time to relax. U didn't say if you went for a walk outdoors or what you did. Maybe you just need to join a group with similar interest of your own. A group that might meet once a month so as not to interfere with your family life. My cousin does this. He joined some Harley club to relieve the stress. His wife is OK with it cause he does alot around the house & they have 2 kids. Try google groups http://groups.google.com/
