ex-boyfriend wants abortion...

i'm pro choice as long as the choice is made by the woman

 

dont get me started on that one. if i had gotten a girl preggers and she wanted an abortion, it would completely wreck me for life. i would probably try to pay her just to carry the child for 9 months, then id raise it.

 

That pretty much sums it up

 

Please please please don't do it.
I've been in a similar situation, and if you have any questions/need anyone to talk to send me a message.
It's not something you can take back.

 

wow... I personally have not met many guys with this attitude! Rastapasta might have just given me a little faith in MANkind...

 

no doubt, I've never met a guy like that they seem pretty rare.

 

Awesome :cheers2:

 

Please don't kill your baby.

 

underthesun... I also hope you don't let anyone convince you what to do. You came to us for advice and support, not manipulation.

 

Firstly Lynn87: That is a very sad situation, and hope you can find a way to move on and get better.

To OP: There is a lot of good information here to consider. If in serious doubt about doing it then it will probably be overall best for you not to. But you are going to want to look into if you can care for the baby or if adoption is best.

As for your boyfriend... he has a right to his decision on his end. However trying to force his decision on you by blackmail unforgivable. The lack of supporting you is defenetly seen here. and chances are grim him still being around with either route you take.

Do not make your decision based on his blackmailing tactic.

Personally if something like this ever happened with me, I'd take the kid in and work from there. Would even seek relatives for help if needed to.

 

I feel your pain! I was in almost the same situation a few months ago. I did end up having an abortion because my boyfriend didn't want the baby and I feel really terrible and have nightmares because of it. Don't let someone force you into something you don't want to do.
Maybe you should get some councelling either way ???

 

Tell him fine, he can go and have an abortion anytime he wants... ;-)

 

you "ex boyfriend" is a goddamn snake in the grass asshole!
he is scared shitless about being tied down by a kid.
this is hard to deal with and, i can't give you advice how to handly this matter.
you have to make a decission. not making a decission IS making a decission.
all i can say is, do what you feel and think is best for you first; and fuck that goddamn piece of shit "ex boyfriend!"

 

maybe if his mommy would have aborted him then he wouldnt be dealing with it.. MAN UP BITCH TAKE CARE THE KID YOU MADE !!

 

yes, i asked him how would he like to have been aborted (his mother was a perfect candidate if there ever was one for an abortion - several kids already that she couldn't take care of / lifelong heroin addict / wasn't even dating the fathers, etc) and he said he wouldn't have known the difference and maybe it would've been better that way. eventually broke down crying saying that he doesn't want to have a child until he can give it a better life than he himself had. we both had rough childhoods but his was... pretty tragic. i've understood all along his reasoning for wanting an abortion. i just figured we could overcome those obstacles. i am pro-choice, like i said, so i guess it wasn't really a moral issue for me, but a personal one. i suppose in a way i just felt like if he wasn't willing to have the child with me it meant he didn't love me (extremely selfish and unrealistic of me). i also have simply always wanted to be a mother. i honestly don't really understand all the reasons why i wanted to have the baby knowing that it's not a good time in my life. well anyway, i did end up having the abortion.. please don't boo and hiss me.. i guess i'll have to wait and see if i regret it in the long run.

 

Well i guess you did what you had to do...

I have a friend that was pregnant and had a abortion not her choice but her mom forced her too and she really wishes she could have had her baby......
I just think its a sad thing and that baby could have been put up for adoption.

 

well, i thought about it a lot since i originally wrote this post. even with adoption, sooner or later i would have had to quit going to work. and yes, they would have had to let me leave and continue working when i could, but the month or whatever that i wouldn't be working (maybe more.. it would be pretty hard to do my job past seven months, i suppose.) i would be losing out on money, and wouldn't be able to pay my bills. i have absolutely NO savings. and am in debt. maybe i'm just making excuses for what i did, but really...

 

If this baby is what you truly want then keep it, I mean I'm sure you'll make a great mum I know tons of people that have had children and have lots of money but are terrible parents. All a baby needs is a home, food, lots of diapers and love. The rest will fall in place. Good luck .