Sometimes doing the right thing is really painful

There is a certain person that Ive been hanging around with... I met him in AA. He's one of the sweetest, most caring people I have ever met. I care about him and worry about him.

It's a long story on why... but I realized that I can't talk to him anymore. I just can't. It would be wrong to keep talking to him.... for me and for him.

I really like hanging out with him but I'm gonna start going to meetings at a new place and not answer my phone when he calls.

I'm really scared and I dont like cutting people off but sometimes what is right, isn't easy.

 

You are right! Yer boring.

 

I know I am. I can't help it.

 

good luck on that trish. sometimes you just have to cut people out if its a unhealthy situation.i've done my share of cutting folks out, that includes my mother.

 

Perhaps if you told him why you feel this way.
If you stop excepting his calls and dont show up the same AA meetings.....then he might be worried about you, or think he has done something wrong.

 

yeah, i should let him know. i dont know how to say it though...it's nothing personal against him.

crystal, im sure you remember that guy i made that other thread about... im talking about him. weve been hanging out and some things have occured that just make me KNOW he is not good for me. not right now anyways.

 

I hate it when that happens...... sucks to be a nice person and have to do something mean.

 

yep... it sucks.

 

aww, trish, it seems like there is always something horrible going on with you!! I'm glad you're going to AA, but it sounds like it's creating a whole new set of problems for you.


I hope you can manage to get things straightened out soon! You deserve to be happy once in a while!

 

heh... thanks. i guess.

this isnt anything really horrible... it's just that i really like this guy as a person but with the set of circumstances right now, i think we would just drag each other down. that's all. i dont like hurting anyone...

 

yeah in AA and NA they say stick with the winners. if someones recovery isnt what you want or you see some sick behaviors in them its best to stay clear. gotta save your own ass first not anyone eles's

 

Yeah I understand that you have to stop associating with certain people sometimes but it really sucks to be sneaky about it, for you and for him I think you should let him know, maybe go back one day and give him a letter stating your reason, or just saying that you think it's best that you stop associating with him, you don't have to give a reason, although that would be ideal in my eyes, but at least let him know what's going on...think about how you'd feel if you were in his shoes...good luck with that.

 

I hope you didn't take it the wrong way! I didn't mean anything bad by that, I'm just saying (basically) if it ain't one thing it's another. (not YOU, but just the situation). I hate it when that happens to me

 

also i would just let him know and he should understand considering where you met and all that you need to work on you and get yourself together and that if you hang around him alot the focus will be taken off you and put on him and thats not what you need right now..

at least that is what i would say. i dont completly know the situation, but im just guessing here

 

Read this again!! This is good advice!!

 

Sorry to here that trish. whats aa?