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He treats you worse than some guys treat their Fleshlights. It's hurting you. If he cares more about breaking the rule than causing you harm he's not a boyfriend material. If religion is so important why won't he abstain? It would be healthier than this situation. But he won't abstain because his drive, his needs are more important. Therefore his needs are more important than your wellbeing. The sooner you realize it the sooner you'll be able to move on. Find somebody who respects you. you deserve it.

 

I couldn't put it better. Typical case of hypocrisy. In fact, I wouldn't be surprised if in his hearts of hearts he's already thinking of dumping you in the future, and the religion thing works as an out.

Who knows? He might think you're used goods. Who knows what a guy like that ACTUALLY thinks? HE might not even know.

At least I think you're becoming conscious of the situation you're choosing to put yourself through.

 

would sumone mind explainin to me wats the diffeence....lol

 

You are so right.

 

wow. i was really worried that i was in the wrong, that i was trying to take advantage of him.....now that im getting these replies (seriously, thanks guys), im beginning to see that my emotions and opinion in the matter aren't invalid. and yes i constantly try to communicate my feelings about it to him......i've taken to keeping a diary, because i feel like my diary listens to me about better than he does........

 

A diary is *such* a fantastic idea.

 

I would honestly leave. To me if a guy can't make me feel important during sex then he;s not the guy for me.

 

Sex is a very important part of a relationship. If you're not happy then you need to find someone that can. Good luck to you and whatever you decide to do

 

I think religion is an article of convenience to him. But I also think you may be re-enacting something that would throw the responsibility for your feeling of worthlessness onto him. Like he makes you feel this way (which is false).

It's tough because we all go through something similar. We're all trying to fill this infinite void. And things that temporarily clog our vertigo keep slippin' away.

The only way I can live is if I partition my time, so that some of the time I fill my void with diversions, fantasies, pleasures, pursuits, acquisitions. And some of the time I take to stare straight at my own emptiness. And those are the moments when I find actual relationship...at the extreme end of the trip. And so those diversions (love, for instance; or lust) have an actual use.

And that's when love and lust are the same. Especially now that I am past 30, and my body has sent the signal to my brain that I am mortal...that relationship with vertigo becomes all the more important. For that's where I'm headed.

 

Honey, you don't HAVE to have sex with him. You say he just lays on top of you and "mushes into you"...well tell him to stop. Try to kiss him before he "mushes into you", try to touch him, tell him that you want more intimacy...I mean like right in the middle of it all...not outside of the bedroom when you're not doing anything, but right when you start taking your clothes off..tell him! And if he doesn't listen, then don't let him put it in you!

You have a right to be pleased sexually...if you're not being satisfied, stop letting him "mush into" you! If he can't show more affection, then it's time to reconsider who you're dating...if sex is this important to you, and feeling a connection during sex is important to you (which, it IS imortant!), you need to break it off with him if he doesn't want the same connection. Sorry that's kind of harsh but life is too short for such nonsense. There are plenty of men out there who value a real connection with their woman during sex.

 

Why don't you try going on top and then you can somewhat control the situation. Why instead of wanting him to kiss you then why don't you kiss him? Don't just wait for him to do what you want take what you want if he isn't giving you what you want.

 

He needs to sort out his issues. Dont let him near you in that way again until hes dealt with them. Well I wouldnt anyway. It sounds like he has real problems

 

im not allowed on top. when i try to kiss him, he pushes me away

 

Wow, this guy has really pulled the wool over your eyes, if you really feel you are in the wrong.

He can't kiss you due to guilt, but sure as hell will fuck you, when, magically, the guilt washes away for the few minutes it takes him to pound away. Isn't that a little odd to you?

You would not be breaking up with him just over sex, because this behavior of his transcends sex. It is simply disrespectful and he is emotionally hurting you beyond just the bed. Plus this behavior will eventually cascade to other parts of your relationship.

You aren't allowed on top? Do you want to be on top? He pushed you away when you want to kiss? It is all about his pleasure, you said it yourself in your last post because he restricts your needs and desires. As long as he can pump away, he could give two shits about you. Your pleasure is not important to him! And it never will be. These behaviors will only spread to other parts of the relationship. He wants to control your sex life and dictate it and eventually other aspects of your relationship beyond sex. As the cliched line goes, it takes two to tango.

PS: Typical hypocritical christian who can't follow their own book. I guess if he says he feels guilty, it excuses everything and alleviates all wrong doings. A man with shoddy words and no actions to boot.

Hope you make the right choice for yourself in the end.

 

lololol

 

sexual chemistry.

iv been dating a few differnt girls at the moment, and the ones that i have sexual chemistry with are soooo much more amazing than the other dull ones that we just dont really connect sexually.

so do urself a faiver when u find a new man that u have this sexual chemistry im talkin about u will be sooooo in love.

 

Yeah, myself I can't stand women who are passive in bed. Can't STAND them...

 

Yes, but I think in her case, it is just chemistry in general. She is with a manipulative guy.

 

yeah jump ship. find somone who u share an incredible amount of chemistry with. u will be soo happy.

i mean like there are girls that really like me and are really nice girls not bad looking, and but the chemistry isnt their sooooo....