If you are with a person for a long time and you're both committed to each other, what would you do in the following situation? During a rough patch, you cheat on your partner. They find out and you agree to reconcile. They say they trust you again (after a reasonable amount of time, of course) and all is well, until you find yourself attracted to someone else. Its more than physical attraction, too. If you love your partner but are having feelings for someone else, would you stay with your partner and try to stop those feelings, or would you break up with your partner under the assumption that there must be something unfulfilling in your relationship that's causing you to have romantic feelings for someone else? Or would you do something else entirely? Please share your opinions, they will be greatly appreciated.
I'd probably break up with a current partner. It's a long-term relationship and people tend to grow tired of those eventually, unless the both parties are truly compatible with each other. I see recurring problems within a relationship to be signs that my partner and I are not compatible. Hence, in the scenario you presented, I see that as a reason for me to end that relationship.
I don't think it is fair to stay with that person if you have feelings for another person. There are different types of love, you love that partner as a person. I don't think you are "in love" with them though.
Stay with your partner because you love them and want to make it work, not because you're afraid that it won't work out with this other person.
I agree with sophieclair, you don't "love" your partner as you think. You may like him or something else. My personal advide would be to have the relationship a break to think about your feelings =)
Love is not what you feel for the current partner. Love is not what you feel for the new person. Love is what you DO. Being attracted to someone else doen't indicate insufficant love. Acting on that attraction is insufficant love for a long term relationship with your partner. I wouldn't judge my love by the fact that I was attracted to someone else. I would measure my love for the current partner by what I do with that attraction. Do I resist that temptation? Do I flirt with that temptation? Or do I stay away from that temptation and do nothing to give my current partner to worry about. Thinking "what a sexy lady" does not mean that my love lacking. Deciding "I'll go talk with her" does show a lack of love.
