After the first few times do you pay less attention to being squeaky clean?

We see anal in professional porn where everyone has enemas and there's never any muss or fuss (we'll almost never...) but reality is far from what we see in porn right?

Some people seem to be less worried by this - none of the women I've had anal with wanted (or needed) an enema and its hardly ever been anything like an issue. If it is we just shelved the activity for another time.

My experience is once you get used to the idea of anal as part of sex play it usually happens after some spectacularly good sex and orgasms, and it is seldom anything we plan for so its never like "oh lets have anal tonight, I'll go any have an enema", or "I'm so horny from that orgasm I want you to fill my ass with your cock - hold that thought and I'll be back in 10 minutes!".

Because of that I'm wondering if those who find they like anal and initially start out paranoid about cleanliness with enemas before hand end up getting used to the idea and well, letting things slide...

 

Funny you should ask this. For the past few months my girlfriend and I have been working our way towards full anal sex. While eating her out I can easily fit all three fingers. Index, Middle and Ring fingers which at the base of my three fingers together is just a little smaller than the girth of penis. She loves when I finger her but when come to cock she just cant seem to tollerate it. Btw: Your questions ties in quickly. Only once or twice out of the 100 times i've fingered her ass have I touched something but I just kept the fingers shallow and went and washed my hands good right after. Its just not the type of thing to do is pull out and yell gross I thouched poo, and end up grossing her out when your trying to work your way up to full anal sex. She can handle the first half of anal beads now and fingers but not cock yet. I did however buy some "Anal Easy" lube from adamandeve.com which has benzocaine (numbing agent) in it to help ease the pain but have not tried it yet. When we try dildos she says they make her feel like she has to have a BM but that is normal right? I mean you have a full size toy up there and your body naturally wants to push it out? She doesn't need to use an enema at all however I do whenever she fucks me. I must use one EVERY time. This is the only clean way she can play with me. For some reason I have a very productive digestive system and messes happen easily if I don't. I believe the reason is because she uses very large dildos (2"+ widths) on me, so I simply clean up every time I take a shower so that I don't have to ruin the moment by going to clean up in the heat of the moment.

 

Well it sounds like she must be aware of the potential issues with cleanliness of the digestive system and is pretty easy going about it, even when she is receiving. Coincidentally I have the same experience that my ass seems to be "not ready for action" much more often than that of any other partner's ass I've had the pleasure of enjoying. But since my current and previous partners have not been terribly interested in pegging me it hasn't been an issue. If they were more interested I'm pretty sure I'd have some embarrassment about cleanliness initially and then get over it - so long as they did.

To your question about feeling like having a BM - yes that's normal and actually as a way to ease your cock in without pain its often recommended that the recipient pretend she is having a BM as it relaxes the sphincter. Of course to do that it would help that she doesn't actually need to have one! And she'll be much more relaxed in general if she knows that.

For a guy stimulation of the prostrate and penetration can give strong sensations of wanting a BM, I know that from experience - I can imagine those feelings also continue for a woman but I'm not qualified to speak about that, and I guess it all depends. Have you tried stimulating her with a dildo at the same time as fingering her ass or trying to penetrate her with your cock - it might introduce some new sensations and enhance her pleasure?

My personal theory is that as we go through childhood we are taught to be disgusted by poo and develop squeaky clean habits. Later in life if you become a parent you have to get "aquainted" with it all over again - by the daiper load - somehow people learn to deal with it. Then much later in life most people get to the point where they have to deal with someone else dealing with their poo. If we could all be more in tune with our asses and what comes out of them throughout life it would just be easier all around - I mean how many of us have had the experience of starting dating a new partner and trying not to fart near them? Then if you stick together you'll eventually get past the point of the first fart and to the point where its just not an issue any more. As the kids book says "everybody farts!", somewhere along the way grownups seem to forget that in personal relationships...

 

I agree. I am not one of those guys turned on by shit, but I can tolerate some if it gets on me or if I feel some in the anus with my cock. As long as the ass isn't filled to the hilt with shit, which would be disgusting, it's fine. Usually for the first 3 inches there is no shit, unless she has to go soon. But anything after 3 inches without checking first can get a little messy, but nothing too serious.

It becomes kind of a hassle for my wife to clean her ass every single time we want to do a little anal. A lot of time if she doesn't clean herself first, we will do vaginal, and I will finish in her ass and keep it kinda shallow. I only pile drive her ass after she cleans herself.

Honestly if any guy is squeamish about a little shit, they should avoid the butt hole, seriously. If you get grossed out by even the smallest amount of shit, anal is not for you. We all take a risk dealing with shit to enjoy anal, but most of us know it's worth it, and 90+% of the time it's a clean mess free process.

 

I've never gotten an enema before buttsex. I can't even imagine that being like... a reasonable approach. "Honey, I just ass-gargled, you can put it in now!" I just know when I probably shouldn't be sticking things up my butt - if I have to poop or if I've just laid brick. Otherwise, yr ass kinda cleans itself up. It's not continually loaded up with shit.

On a side note, Anal-Eze freaks me out. If you numb the area, she won't know if you're actually hurting her. That's not good. It's all about relaxing. If she for whatever reason can't do it on her own, Pjur makes this stuff called Back Door and Analyze Me, both in spray and lube form. It has jojoba in it, and no anesthetics.

 

I can honestly say if youre that shy about it, screw the enema and just pop some laxatives the day before.

I mean youre obviously planning on doing it if you have one on hand.

 

That sounds like just about the worst idea.

 

to me, legitimate is when "shit happens" and illegitimate is when a girl just has some stank ass doo doo hole because she is dirty. You can tell by the smell of stale shit, it has a different smell to it because it's been hiding in the crack of the ass for hours or even days. "Legit shit" doesn't bother me, if you want the cookie, sometimes you just gotta take the crumbs too and smile ...

 

lmao

Post of the day.

 

Right on Gumby. How do you clean freaks manage desire lasting, not to mention a hardon, while you wash you balls and cock, wash your hands, prepare and squirt the enema, wipe dry, douche the vagina, brush your teeth, clean your finger nails, wash your hands a second time - some throw a shower in there somewhere - put on deoderant, clean between your toes, tke a piss to clean out the urethra, trim your pubes, read the diections, put on a condom, etc. The fun is in the down and dirty part. Funny thing is that no part of the reproductive system is at all dangerous - we make babies there. The colon is self cleaning, unless the owner is right up against a BM moment. Sweat adds to the thrill, hair helps with a nestling, and swapping spit is the most dangerous thing any two people can do. So, if you are a freek - don't forget to gargle; really adds to the romantic nature of the event. Especially the spitting part! Jeesh!

 

The anus is not part of the reproductive system lol. And the colon is not as self-cleansing as you make it sound. Why do you think girls can get an infection if you go ass-to-vagina without cleaning? Tons of bacteria are still there. Even the vagina can be dirty if it isn't kept clean, obviously. I mean you can be "down and dirty" and don't need to clean clean clean clean until the point of paranoia, but you still need to be smart.

 

The best way to keep your ass clean is with a good high fiber diet, which most people don't get. Eating lots of fruits, veggies, legumes, nuts, seeds, and whole grains are GREAT to keep your butt clean.

Me and my wife are vegetarian, so we eat LOTS of the above stuff, so her ass is pretty clean most of the time. She will usually go check before we have anal to see if she's clean, and if she is, she usually washes her ass anyway so I can eat her butt.

Everybody needs a clean butt even those who don't do anal. They say death begins in the colon, so eating lots of high fiber foods is not just good for anal, it's good for the body period.

If you eat lots of fiber when you take a shit it will come out in solid logs that are easy to push out, and leave little residue on your butt hole. That's how you know you have a healthy diet. If have to push hard or when you wipe it's really mushy and messy you need more fiber. The fiber will keep it in a nice compact solid log that will empty out the rectum and sweep away any debris.

There should not be shit just hanging around in your rectum unless it's time to take a shit. If you do not empty your rectum completely after a bowel movement, you need more fiber. Also people should be taking at least 1-2 dumps per day. With a healthy diet, morning and even bowel movements are normal. I usually #2 twice a day. Also drinking plenty of water helps to eliminate waste, that's another thing people don't do. Drinking water is a must!

I also fast once a week to clear toxins out my body. Usually one day of juice fasting. On my fasting days I do internal salt water bathing to cleanse my colon even more. I don't like enemas.

http://www.viruz.com/internal-salt-water-bathing-salt-water-wash/

Salt water flushing is a process that works with your natural body, it works from the top down, instead of an enema that works from the bottom up. I have to admit drinking this is quite disgusting, but it works. Within 45 min to 1hr of drinking this solution, you will have to take a shit just like an enema, it's nuts. Try it, and you'll see.

 

You're one healthy mofo.

 

Yes healthy, vegetarian AND enjoys anal with his partner.

Believe me I've seen some videos on the internet (PM me if you really must know where) and you would not believe the nasty looking **it that comes out of some people's bodies (and I'm not talking grit either). So it is no wonder some people freak out about their digestive tracts if they have to strain, grunt and groan only to produce the nastiest stinkiest BMs you ever did see. Maybe I've just been lucky having heathy partners even without making sweet butt-luv to a vegetarian before.

 

Hey LA Dip; about the only thing you mention that sounds like common sense is the part about ass to pussy. And of course, you are correct. I apologize for feeling common sense stuff to be unnecessary to mention. As for the rest - blow it out your enema clean ass! I speak only from experience. I've never seen an enema. I've diddled in asses and vaginas, with fingers and cock. I've eaten at the mouth of all orifices. Never felt any shit, never come out covered with any brown at all. Been not too particular about my women, but never whored; ok to pay, but never have. Love to shower with my partner, finger covered with soapsuds feels great going up the yingyang, but never in the pussy. These few common sense efforts come naturally. I ate my first unwashed pussy at age 15, almost 20 yrs ago. Still living. I shy away from washed ones, they smell clean - not sexy. Never been with a shaved woman; did run out on one once. Yaaa, looked like she had a long open wound that needed attention. So go ahead and enjoy your Left Coast purrell sex - I'll take mine with what you consider, "chances!" Happy slipping and sliding on the squeeky clean, shaved skin. Hope you are circumcised - most squeeky clean gals (so I've been told) think us natural guys are loaded with rotting smegma or worse. I'll leave them to you and yours....

 

haha lmao

 

Im with you. My wife never does an enema and we havent really had any problems and we do anal a lot. There have been times where there might have been a little residue so to speak on my cock after a long session but I dont care at all. I agree that being afraid of shit doesnt bode well for doing anal. Its my wife, we have a monogamous relationship and a little shit here and there from her doesnt bother me one bit. We just avoid doing it right before she has to poop. Right afterwards is usually a good time!