Okay so I'm not saying I will try this or whatever but I just want feedback. Girls: How much does it hurt? Please be 100% honest, and once you get used to is it better than the other hole?!
Never done it, never will. Doesn't appeal to me in the slightest. Nothing could be better than the other hole, I'm totally content with the sex that I have.
I was never hurt from it. We took it slowly and used loads of lube, and I was relaxed, so it went fine. No of course it's not better than vaginal sex, hehe. Well, maybe some people think it is? But really it's just that it's DIFFERENT, while retaining some of the key pleasures of vaginal sex. The sensation of fullness, and being thrust into, and pleasuring a cock with your body... It's all good fun.
I personally like anal more than vaginal sex...but hey who has to choose, right? lol. I don't care what anyone says if a guy has a big one it's gonna hurt the first few times and YES it does get much much better with time. The key is to learn your own body first. Use your fingers. Learn how to relax. Use lots of lube (astroglide is the BEST). Usually I "warm myself up" before my hubby gets anywhere near me.. And to the lady who says she's never tried it but it's not for her and nothing could be better than "the other hole"...Don't knock it till you try it!!
Ok, so i used to be the girl who said NO NO NO never will I take it in the butt but then I let my bf and OMG it hurt like a mother fucker...but here is the trick...SPIT...let him ease it in...once he is in sit still Neither of you move...for about 30 secs to a min...then pull it out...have him spit inside your ass...put it back in...baby stroke it for a min or so...pull out again...spit...put it back in...by now you should have no prob putting it in and it shouldnt hurt...then long stroke baby...but to hit your G spot he has to go all the way in and pulsate back and forth...not coming out at all ... it helps me ... no pain lol try it
For some women it can be better than vaginal sex. It's very intense experience both physically and mentally. It may prove too much. Don't do it as a contraceptive method. Semen will leak out and travel to the vagina. Don't do it if you feel you aren't ready for vaginal penetration. Anal penetration needs more experience and self control than vaginal penetration. Also going from 0 to penile penetration on the first night you try anal is too fast. Always try something on your own before exploring with your partner. Get comfortable on the level you are in before stepping any further. As for painlessness - if done well it won't hurt. But it still may sting/burn at the beginning. For further reading: Tristan Taormino's The Ultimate Guide to Anal sex for Women (there's a video too). Anal Massage for Relaxation and Pleasure - DVD, great for relaxing. All the materials are easily available. PM me if you can't find them.
It sure does get better with time. My wife almost prefers it up the ass now. First few times she was all worried about cleanliness and how it would "work" or if it would hurt. After about the 3rd or 4th time it was great for her and me and is now perfect. Her asshole is "broken in" so to speak. I think she likes anal better and I know I sure do.
i read that it tears the lining of your whatever. idk, but yeah. i just heard its not healthy in the long run but who knows!
Hmm... not sure about the healthy thing. Me and the wife have been having anal for a good 5 years now, at least 4-5 times a week so thats quite a bit of anal sex. She hasnt had any issues at all. Her asshole is still "fully functional", shall we say.
If not done right it can be very painful for the reciever. You need to start small, start with the tongue. Eart her pussy, get it nice an engorged, and then go to the butt. Rim that ass, I have never met a woman who could not take a tongue to the butt. After that, move to one finger, then two. If you have a small beginner butt plug, use it after fingering. If not, move to full on penetration. It may take a few sessions of rimming and fingering before you can move to full on penetration. Remember, use LOTS of lube. Many women prefer silicone based lubes over water based, because water based tends to dry up. Go slow, and LISTEN TO HER! If it hurts, stop! A good idea is to let her get on top and control the speed and depth of penetration. And no, and done right does not tear the anal lining nor the sphincter. The butt needs to be relaxed, not stretched. If there were micro tears in anus, it would cause pain and soarness. My girl does not have pain during or after anal even after a rough session.
OHHHH lordy, I hate Astroglide. It kept drying up. Id suggest a silicone based like Wet Platinum ..if and only if you plan to go without a condom..because latex and silicone dont work together..dont use it for vaginal though, because its freaking impossible to wash out of there, and can lead to infection
oh and to the OP- it hurt like a bitch the first time, I even ended up bleeding due to tearing..that applies to mainly larger girthed males...and I find that after lubing him and my butt a little, and possibly allowing him to rim a little..then instead of him coming into me, I would be on fours or standing bent over..that way i could control the speed of entry..and allow myself a pain free one. He says pussy is much better though to be honest, anal is only tighter and warmer...he also says that if you tried both without a condom..that vag has more texture..or feeling to it.
I guess I don't have that problem, I do not have a bigger than average girth. I agree, silicone works best for anal. I like the feel of oil based lubes, but silicone is the preferred by most women.
Plus the oil based is sooo much easier to clean off after, but yes having tried both the silicone type really does its job.
Hmmm, guess everyone is different. My wifes asshole has some "texture" or at least has more "grip" lets say. I wouldnt even say tighter although it is at first. Warmer? Yeah, maybe so. Interesting comments though... I like hearing about others experiences. :cheers2:
Lube is not really that much of an issue anymore. I don't even use lube with any anymore really. I eat my gir's pussy and ass before every session so she is wet with vaginal juices and my spit, plus after a good rim job her ass is pretty relaxed. But when we did use to use lube, it was either silicone or oil. My girl did not like the silicone because of the messyness, so we usually stuck to the oil. Pain was never a huge problem with anal, my girl must be naturally very relaxed, her ass is really tight, and I use to be like, "are you sure it doesn't hurt?" and she would always say that it feels wonderful, but every woman is different. She is the only girl I have been with that can do anal comfortably and orgasm from it without lube.
