is age difference a problem for you?

Do you prefer the man or women to be the older one? What is the biggest age difference you would be comfortable with in a dating situation, and do you think that it's "sick" if there is a fairly big difference in ages? Discuss.

Personally I have no problem with age differences as long as both are of age (17 in some states, 18 in others) and both are able to have proper judgement. Such as if one is "senile" or one is underage to the point where they cannot know what is right for them, that would be a problem in my opinion. I saw an episode of Maury today (damned daytime TV) where a 14 year old somehow married a 47 year old woman. I don't know HOW his mother consented to this because I do not know how the law would allow it otherwise. Anyway, this triggered an idea to bring it up in this sub forum.

 

try 16, This is Pennsylvania.. where a 60 yr old can fuck a teen and adult can go to jail for smoking a joint.. nufsaid.

 

In my mind, my limits are 18 - 35. Really depends, though.

 

As long as both parties involved are adults and the relationship is consentual, I don't see any problems with age gaps.. in theory, anyway. I can't imagine myself having a huge amount of common with someone a lot older than me, or with an 18 year old for that matter.. but that doesn't mean it can't work for others.

I was 21 when I met my fiance, he was 27. Our age gap has never been as issue.

 

thanks for the answers guys!

 

I prefer dating older guys. My ex is 21 years older than me.

 

so do i. and he had no problem with the age gap? did you two get along well and have things in common? so often people say that age gaps prevent couples from being able to relate to one another.

 

No way

 

Im 22 and my girlfriend is 26, i actually like dating someone older than me.

 

ideally the man should be older for a few reasons. it`s been said women are more mature in many ways, so the maturity should be caught up by by this & made relatively equal. also, women seem somewhat to live longer. also there`s the fertility factor. & actually i`m kinda somewhat tryin 2 reunite w/ an old gf who is somewhat nearing her menopause. & maybe we would start a family, tho we`re a bit old & poor. she`s 6 yrs younger & i`ve found that to be somewhat ideal age difference. but unfortunately she has a few younger guys she`s tryin for. so i gotta wait til she gets dsick of that. we never got "together' as i were, so hasn`t been ruined as it were. "it`s'" still somewhat of mystery we only kissed. i`m 49 & she`s 43. & our birthdays are exactly a month apart. hers b4 mine. we broke-up several times already, but they were really stupid things. we tried to live together when we first met cuz we couldn`t stay away from each other. & i was living on the street, & she thot i would get too cold, so she gave me a place to stay, not realizing how self-sufficient i am. & this just @ the beginning of the bad economy, & i wasn`t gettin foodstamps @ the time. she gets ssi & works a few hrs/ wk. but she got the job thru social services. & can only make so much b4 they cut her ssi off. so she`s encouraged to not work much, & that`s kinda sad. but she`s locked into the system, & i can`t help her w/ that. she`s kinda independent & headstrong. i have another potential mate, but she`s same age as me, smokes cigs & pot & has ruined her lungs. so, she`s quite a handful. but she has a car & some land. she has almost exposed a couple of parts of her body to me. but she doesn`t wanna kiss or backrub. so that`s quite frustrating, though somewhat exicting cuz her "shows" are kinda nice. but i figure we`re kinda too old to play those games so i kinda get away from her sometimes. & she has a couple of other guys she does these things to. aparrantly she`s been teasing guys like this for a long time. so, i`d rather have the pg touching than peepshows. it`s a kinda cruel thing to do to a guy, but of course i keep coming back for more. & they spend money on me & cook for me. & i do similar for them. i guess we`re all kinda afraid to commit. they haven`t met eachother, & i`m not entirely sure how that would work out. they "compare" notes, or fall for each other(that`s happened to me before). this is why i kinda stay away from lesbians, i`ve been burned by them. although i`m sure there are some nice ones out there.

 

I've only dated men at least six years older than me. My current boyfriend is eight years older. While he generally has accomplished a lot more in his life than I have thus far, I also have had much more experience in long-term relationships than he has. For this reason, we both feel like we're bringing some level of maturity to our relationship.
We have taught each other a lot, and discovered at the same time that we have more in common than a lot of couples do that are both the same age. We also have the same goals and interests of starting a family eventually.
Growing up I always felt out of place because I felt "older" than my fellow classmates. I was slightly shy and introverted and couldn't relate to anybody my age. When I began dating, I realized I carry conversations better with people older than me. We can discuss music (I dig music not of my generation), as well as religion and politics with no problem. I didn't have that with people my age. Now that I know people I can relate to, I've become an extrovert and a conversationalist.
I truly believe age should not matter. As long as a person can relate to one another, and they communicate well and share the same goals, I say screw the numbers.

 

I'm 22 and my girlfriend is 16, which is legal here in canada. I don't really have a preference though, I have been in good relationships with people older than me as well as younger

 

i like guys older than me. not much older, but older. i cannot see myself being with somebody that is younger than me.

 

I think if the younger woman is mature enough mentally and can find an older guy she thinks is attractive, if they have mutual respect for each other and enough in common then it is a beautiful thing.

I've dated a few woman quite a bit younger than me and it was good in some ways and frustrating in others, so like with any relationship you have to find the right person for you and work at it.

I've learned as much about love and relationships from a 20 year old girl as I have from a 30 year old. I don't judge someone's compatibility by their age but by their Kindness. - Dale

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Peace, Love and Family is what my soul searches for,
it is my body that keeps getting me lost.

 

Well said,Dale.

 

Always have been the one to be around, talk with, Women Older then me. Mainly due to most younger women are to immature or just not ones to actually get into anything indepth conversation wise. Have dated women older then me as well, with no problems.

However, Since have found a special case though. It more leans towards the person and not the physically age. Who I am seeing now is much younger then me, but yet is challengeing on the intellectual level, And maturity is very much there. Its one of those things where, if your looking to find who actually runs the household, you look to the youngest lol.

 

age is just a number in my opinion, I think if it works... it works just as long as its legal (one of the few good laws in my opinion)

 

I've dated up to 6 years older than me and 2 years younger.
I'm currently dating a guy who's 5 years older than me,
and we get along great. We have a lot in common,
and a lot to talk about. So.. I don't think it's that big of a deal. [=

 

Not a problem for me, and I agree with DR Corncob.

Although, I have learned over the years that one's not having a problem with it may very well be a problem to some(or many?). I just wish people would stop assuming and making all kinds of FALSE accusations.

 

^ I second that. More often than not, if people (most of them anyway) see a younger woman with an older man, the first thing they think is "daddy issues". ugh