Having babies

Oh, I didn't mean parties. I really hate parties. But I love going to operas and ballets and listening tu classical music and playing it and sometimes I even love to play with toys.
That was what a I was talking about.
Please don't get it wrong, but tell me, why are you called UNDERAGE untill you are 18?

 

i have nothing against people who are 17 having kids as long as they can be a good parent.. i dont like it though when i see girls in town who are probably 15 pushing they're newborn down the street in a stroller when its 30 degrees out.. or having their kid out late at night with no hat on or socks... but then again i've been to amusment parks and seen parents who were 30 and have their kids out in the sun all day with no bonnets on and their kid has no hair...i think if you're going to have a kid you should be able to meet your childs needs.

 

because that's what the law tells us. if you ignore that, then people are who they are, they're people, not ages and when they become "legal"

 

So do a lot of adults and parents

 

It's easier to pretend that everyone suddenly comes into maturity at one age than to actually pay attention to the people theirselves and decide when they are mature.

 

its very ideal to say those things and you make great points but it's jsut not going to happen ever I believe. Back when people died younger women were having babies as soon as they could...women have been raising children for ages as teenagers. I think we idealize how kids should be..not having sex and having babies young but we don't really implement strategies for them to turn out a different way...strong enough.

No I don't think anyone under 17 should have a baby...but when it happens I think people should not knock them at all...they should give them tools to deal and move foreword and mature from there. People spend a lot of time knocking kids for getting pregannt instead of helping them grow from it. The more you grow from being a good parent the better a parent you are to your child.

I was with my bf from the time I was 15..I lost my virginity to him at almost 16. I didn't want a baby. 3 years later I had a pregnant belly. I would probably not have kept it (myself) but since it wasn't like a one night stand or a fling..Id been with him for years I decided to keep it..thinking about my future..I thought hay this wont be so bad...when my baby is almost 3 ill be 22 that's not so bad at all...and seriously it's not. Its wonderful to be a young mom.

Ideally I wanted kids around 25. But it happened...it happens tp people all the time..I mean jsut look at all the young moms in the parenting forum...and all of them are doing great! You are civen choices every day. Some people just screw and screw and never get pregnant...others it happens just that one time and oops...

But don't be so quick to judge young parents. Guys and girls. People make it work. You can't fathom parenting until you are there. It's not so hard of a life it's just a different life. Not so idealistic as childless think. Life does not end with children..life begins with children. And that is real.

 

Thing is you have to give your kids a good foundation and tehn if they get pregannt they can have something to go on twards maturing. I got pregnant at a time I would have never found myself pregnant in my wildest dreams. The inute you find out your having a baby and you don't expect it you have to plan from that moment on...and work very hard to prepair for the baby comming. So you need to have tools to say ok look I need to really get my shit together...My life has now changed and I need to grow up...be less self destructive and less selfish with a few of my habbits and really make a life so I can be a good parent. Get a job, Earn and save money, get healthcare, and a place to live...it is not impossible but if you have never had a good example of that care tehn you may be lost. I also agree that age does not make you a ready parent. Older folks can make horrible parents without the same tools

 

I was 18 1/2 when my first baby was born. By the time I was 25 ( normal age according to you) I had 4 kids. With a houseful of kids...boring is the last word I would use to describe life. Nothing like a home-grown volleyball team.

 

no boring at all. actualy its totaly fun stuff.

 

what a beautiful way to put it! I agree with all of the posts above mine

 

My oldest daughter had a baby girl at 9:36pm last night!!

My daughter will be 22 tomorrow.

 

congrats, squawkers!

 

I think being a teen mother must be so much more difficult than having a baby at an older age. But some of them do a wonderful job at it (and some don't, I know).

I had my daughter when I was 21 and although I think I do a great job as a mother to her, I wish I had been a little older.

There was another girl having her baby the day I had Julia. She was 14!

 

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

You know, that's a pretty broad generalization to say that '...children need to be raised in a two parent home.'

Yes, of course, in a perfect world, all parents would be responsible and respectful of eachother, all families would thrive and prosper and stay together, and everyone would be sane.That would be fantastic. I don't think, though, that in every situation the family should stay intact so that the kids can be in a two-parent home. Kids who grow up watching their mothers (or fathers, for that matter) be abused grow up in a pretty miserable situation, too.

There's nothing anyone could say that would make me believe that every two-parent home is superior to every single parent home. Perhaps that's not what you meant.

 

"You'll probably say that you're not a child after 12." I don't know where this idea came from... but nevermind.

Well, there isn't a right age to have babies, there are many right ages, it depends on the mother and on the father (on their psycholochical and emotional maturity, on their economical/social situation... I guess you already mentioned all the main factors)... But, of course, the majority of teens isn't ready to have a child and to assume the responsability of raising her. And that's a fact.
I don't know what would I do if I was pregnant, but I don't want to have a baby right now. My friend Tania is my age and she has a beautiful little girl She was very brave and, despite of all the problems she had/has, she is happy! It happened and, yes, it was not the end of the world (but, omg, it was close, lolololol)!

 

It depends on the person, not age, yes the probability is higher, but there are still grown ass adults who fuck up a child everyday, as where some younger mothers do very well.

I have three children, and I think I've don't pretty good.

 

It's not against the law. No, it isn't always a good situation, but there's nothing you can do about it.

They AREN'T a child at 18 or 19.

I was 19 when I had my daughter and I'm doing a fantastic job. She doesn't need for anything, and most of the time doesn't want for anything. She's fed, clean, and healthy. She doesn't ever have to worry that mommy WON'T do something she needs me to do.
Just because I was 19 doesn't mean any given 40 year old has had any better or more life experience than I have.
It isn't boring to look after my child. She's hilarious and makes the days go by so fast because it's just so awesome to be around her.

Who died and made you queen to say what's normal? Do you have children? Do you have any responsibilities?

I think my little family is quite normal. :cheers2:

 

I agree.
Although I think a teenager is quite young to have children, this doesn't automatically make them an unfit parent. It really does depend on the maturity of the mother, and whether she's willing to make major sacrifices for her child.

 

If a teenaged woman (before becoming a parent) thinks "Most teen mothers are not ready, but I'm one of the exceptional ones. Therefore, I'll have a baby."

A teenaged woman who thinks that way is less likely to be an exception (i.e. is more likely to be a "lousy" teenaged mom) than one who becomes unintentionaly pregnant.