liking it rough

ok so i really LOVE to have rough sex (i like bein the submisive one)
i like having my hair grabbed and pulled, gettin spanked them pushin me down on there cock till i gag...that sorta thing


so yesterday was my first time with my new lover
he would pull my hair whle doin it doggy style (but not hard enough)
and hell grab me by the hair while i was givin him a bj (but he did it lightly)

how do i tell him to do it more roughly
without freakin him out??

(i had a lover before that i told him to do all those things to me n he freaked out n got scared n wouldnt do it....like a lil bitch lol)

 

every dude is going to react different.. i had a guy kinda freak on me, too.
just ask for it, some really go for it. i only had that one act weird.

 

Some guys just aren't into that sort of thing. They're missing out.

 

ive asked only 3 of my lovers to do it
2 freaked out
n one actually go for it
i dont wanna freak this one out lol

 

you just tell him hon
if you're comfortable enough with this guy to let him put his cock in you then you should feel comfortable enough to tell him what you want

 

isnt a 9inch dick rough enough?

 

some days it is.....some days it isn't lol

 

i dont have a problem with that lol holla

 

heh i feel you.. maybe just "bad luck," don't worry about it
be your freaky self lady

 

When I was around 17, a girlfriend of mine went over to visit my best friend, and gave him a blowjob. She said she didn't but described his dick in detail, the color, etc. She was just being a bitch, but I was naive, and gullible, and young.

So, then she tells me to get mad at her, treat her like "a cave man". I had no idea what she was getting at. She told me to hit her, slap her around, get angry, you know.

I wussed out.

I'll always regret that. I shoulda slapped her good and fucked her in the ass, but I didn't. Instead I hit the wall in anger and bloodied my hand.

Trouble is, her dad was a police seargent.

Some women are wack, and would turn it into a rape case.

That's why it's all about trust, and control. You're basically playing with the boundary between pain and pleasure. Step over the line and look out. Some women can't be trusted with things like that. They're crazy. No one wants to end up in jail with a rape charge.

 

he has to slowly get used to doing it more rough.
guys have it imprinted in their brains not to hurt woman. cause its bad right.
u have to really scream it and tell him, pull harder, do this do that... and slowly he'll do it harder and rougher.

 

I got the clue from a former gf when she started treating me rough. She'd pull my hair, slap me across the face and even draw blood when we kissed. Finally, the lightbulb went on and I returned the treatment. I'd tie her down to the bed and tell her to spread her legs. When she refused, I rolled her on her belly and gave her ass a good smacking. Then I roll her on her back, straddle her, and shove my cock in her mouth. I'd give her armpit hair a few, hard tugs if I felt her teeth against my cock. Finally, she'd spread her legs and I'd give her a good, hard fucking.

 

lolol

 

thats true...but im not crazy enough to lie n say it was rape

sumtimes not everyday
this lover is about 8 n a half
and i still wanted for him to be rougher with me lol

wow that sounds hot

im jelous lol

 

Bottom line, SG Girl, just tell him what you want.

 

yeah but i dont wanna freak him out

 

Wouldn't most guys be into this??? I'm sure you can get into a little slow first.

 

I find this very bizarre and ultimately pretty unhealthy as well
You like this guy enough and trust him enough to allow him access to your most intimate parts yet you feel unable to articulate your own wants and desires
Wow
I mean really now, come on
Either you have a very unhealthy relationship with your own sexual proclivities
Or you are sleeping with someone who u honestly have no real intimacy with
Either way somethings not right
In my experience men love it when women are comfortable expressing what they want
The guy just wants to satisfy you
Am I right fellas?

 

But does HE know you well enough to know that? The point is, how much is HE willing to trust YOU.

Also, is it a deal-breaker if he isn't willing? Does this mean that the relationship is off?

There may be things, judging from your hesitation to fully communicate with him over the details, that he is also unwilling to bring out into the open, for fear of either losing you, or some other fear. Without adequate communication, the risk factor may be too great to initiate roughness, without spelling out the parameters. You may be using this "test" as a means of finding out just how much he trusts YOU, without saying it. This is unfair to him.

 

ok so next time were intimate im gonna ease it on him