How to Stay Faithful in a Relationship

Cheatin' ways are almost guaranteed to not only stress a relationship but kill it. Dealing with temptation is hard but what could be even worse is the knowledge that we will all have to face it at some point in our relationships.Turning down an affair is easy to do when the loving is good. However, when things are rocky with our sweetie, it's then that miss or mister wrong seem so right!However, forewarned is forearmed. With the following steps you can fend off infidelity and keep that greener grass where it belongs.

Instructions:

Step 1: Keep a realistic outlook. Relationships can seem like the dimmest and darkest when you're stressed at home, at work and tired. When you get to this zone, back off, take a breath and get some rest. This will let you get a clearer picture of how things are and keep you from making any bad decisions.

Step 2: Build your foundation. Temptations test the foundation of a relationship. Build it by spending quality time together, communicating, tending to one another's sexual needs and relying on each other. If your foundation is weak, temptation will find its way in.

Step 3: Realize it takes work. Realizing that relationships take work will keep you from the "sticker shock" when things get tough and you have to put in extra effort. It's the moments that things get difficult that we're at our lowest resistance to other people and the possibility of cheating. Realize it takes work and there will be bad days.

Step 4: Explore together. Exploring together does two things: it helps you build a life together and it keeps you spend time together. Infidelity finds its hooks in weak foundations and too much solitary time. As you explore together, you'll start to create traditions, find common likes and develop activities that are both of yours. This will leave little room for the creeping vines of another person.

Step 5: Avoid temptation. The old saying says "The best way to avoid temptation is to avoid it." While the cutey at the coffee shop or the ex suddenly in town or the old friend from school may all seem harmless now, when things get rough in the relationship, they can seem like really good bad ideas. You know who causes butterflies in you so keep that person at bay. Especially if they know their effect on you.

Step 6: Tend to all aspects of the relationship. Infidelity often looks for the weak areas of your relationship. Whether its financial stress, lack of quality time, sexual differences, make sure that you find the trouble areas and address them. Communicate with your partner to mutually work together to build up your relationship defenses.

 

Good hints. All couples should follow those rules...

 

The important thing is you love eachother enough to do these things

 

If you "love each other a lot" would there be a need to do those things?

 

I'd say only partly, if you have real love and not this teenage crush type rubbish (in which case it wont work long term no matter what you do)

Work is always needed. It's never going to stay completely a big colourful fantasy for very long (although it can remain wonderful) You have to invest a huge amount of energy into learning to communicate with eachother in the best way, help eachother learn from your mistakes, be honest enough to point out these mistakes without being horrible about it, learn when to tolerate, and come to compromises. None of this is a game and it never just slots into place without the effort, or love, from both ends
Lets face it, everyone has their issues and troubles, and living in eachother pockets it's right in your face every day, you're going to have to face it with the person and allow them to help you too
You don't resent the work though (at least not for more than a few seconds!) Because you LOVE that person. You love them and the relationship means everything. It just becomes part of your life, not a heavy burden but just part of your love together, you dont even notice it after a while

The whole "temptation" side I don't understand, unless times really are hard and a relationship is sinking. At the point one partner is feeling real "temptation" to cheat serious work needs to be done to salvage, if it's not already too late. Honesty is the key on this one

I certainly think if a person needs to avoid the "cutey in the coffee shop" to "maintain" their relationship, theyre already sunk

Just what I recon

 

I do whitter on dont I:smilielol5:

 

No comment. :tongue:


Thanks for the response, it made sense to me. It was well thought out and to the point. Nothing I could really quibble about - and boy did I try .

 

I think the most important thing for some is just to find the right person, with the right chemistry and libido, that will keep them happy.
However, I think the list is very good, and that doing those things should be the norm for relationships.