What's it like to be attractive?

It's weird. Well, when you were the ugly dorky kid with the big glasses and the funny haircut, and then the awkward newly pubescent acne ridden middle school kid, it's really weird when you throw out the glasses and grow out your bangs, you suddenly become "hot" when guys are talking to you. But I agree with zilla, it does make life a little harder, because I'm constantly trying to stay attractive, and I get really insecure and I care a little more than I did when I was an ugly duckling. My parents were really sad when I went from the self-confident outgoing little kid who didn't care about looks at all to a sad little insecure pre-teen, and then a crazy self-image obsessed teenager. I think they're a lot happier now that I don't obsess over my weight or appearance as much.

 

You are so full of yourself.

 

theres not a set definition for beautiful, or pretty, or gorgeous, or any of those other descriptions. everyone sees them differently. i bet someone saw you as beautiful

 

I wish I was "pretty" - I wish I was rich - but I'm neither. Happy is more important -- I suspect that just as many pretty people and rich people take their own lives as those who are not - probably more - think about it.

 

there is a statistical drift toward it though.

a set of ratios mostly.

 

i've heard that beauty comes from symmetry, but in my opinion the most imperfect people are the most beautiful.

 

I think I was pretty attractive.... before I gained weight.

 

Everyone is attracted to something different.

Older, drunk men at work tell me I'm attractive. What a compliment.

I don't think life is easier for the beautiful. We're all human, we've got needs, wants, dreams, hopes and insecurities.

The key in life, in my opinion, is accepting who you are. Accepting the way you look, accepting your mindset, your values and morals.

I think that makes you more happy than having perfect bone structure.

 

happy and attractive are not always the same thing

some people are drawn

attracted in fact

to black holes of insecure self destruction.

 

I didn't say they were. They're two totally different things.

People usually group them together, though, and I don't think they're very related.

Most of my family are the sort of people you just described.

 

most people I know are BHOISD, and or drawn into BHOISD

I think it's a new world thing.

 

I'm not sure if you were replying to me.

If you were, BHOISD?

 

Attraction isn't a choice. Everyone has S&R(Survival and Replication) value judgment and their attraction is based on that. It varies from person to person but, their are a few fundamental "attraction switches" that can be turned on and off. You can literally make yourself more attractive to the opposite sex by learning what these are and adapting accordingly. It's actually very interesting human psychology.

 

I was

Black
Holes
of
Insecure
Self
Destruction

honestly it's probably BHoISD, which is even slightly more aesthetic.

 

Oh, and it's nice being attractive thank you very much

 

It could even be BHISD.

I know.

I know from my personal experience that my father is "happier" thinking the world owes him everything. And he is attracted to insecure, unhappy people because it's easier for him to live with himself with someone like that.

 

some ladies say i have a great smile...

i don't believe them - they just want to get into my pants

 

:cheers2: and this attitude is why we are 10's

 

yeah make them laugh--keep in touch as friends and sooner or later u score--it really helps if your friends (first)