i seem to be able to talk to random people (or at work) about music or sports and some stuff but other then that my conversation stop( and does feel deep connection) and i feel as if social relationships become more like a feel of acquaintances.......any pointers? of just connecting better with people?? like i notice that sharing experiences helps.....
Yeah man I have the same problem. I feel like everyone is riding a specific wave length and I'm riding my own. Every now and again I connect with someone, but most of the time I just try and share experiences, but once I share that experience, I'm out of conversation. So I guess I'm still wandering the earth trying to find like minded people, so far southern Ontario is full idiot new age, follow the latest trends assholes. Hopefully when I move to northern Ontario I'll meet like minded people!
I've noticed all my life I've attracted a weird crowd. And I'm not even that weird or anything! It's just that I'm boring to super normal people, and super normal people are boring to me. I guess I'm not really that outgoing either... but somehow, people who are a little 'out there' have always gravitated toward me.
well am abit weird I have to admit to at least my own ways like I NEVER get ketchup on my burger for the simple fact that ketchup takes away from the favor of the meat! so my friends think am weird! what would you consider a super normal person? Yeah I guess I too get connect with poeple who are out there but I guess its because I've been very much anti social at least for people who follow trends. But yeah I do attract weird people but whatever those seem to be the most real people.
I've always been a bit shy. Maybe that's part of it... lol. But yeah, people who are really 'different' or strange tend to fascinate me more than the kids my age who do nothing but go clubbing and pop acid I guess. People who are strange are always really genuine I feel like... I never really knew why.
LA fitness is awesome too bad I havent been their in 8 months....... I guess since I got a bench press......
Yeah I have been a very shy person at least towards beautiful women. I guess strange people are just more interesting then normal MTV trend followers. Yeah I can agree that weird people keep it REAL.
Yeah if you eat nutrition and excersize, then it doesn't matter how you act, because people will wish that they know you if your attractive. You can still act how you want then you will be unique. Then you can give those same people the bs that you got when you were average. Its all mental karma.
Yeah man. It's never like that with guys, but I am scared to death of attractive ladies. It's like I'm doomed to a life of... unattractive ladies or something. Fuck.
you should check out NLP its very interesting...its the study of thinking while thinking......... reason why i bring up NLP is becuz i found this dating guru ross jeffery.very funny guy and his partner mr.mark and talk about how why should you be worried about being nervous towards females? when in reality your the only one thinking like that! ( they put it in a better perspective though!)
I've definitely heard of NLP but never really paid much attention to it. I think I have some sort of audiobook on it, too. I'll have to google this.
Connecting more/better with people... Well, it's always nice to be able to ask them harmless questions that would keep the conversation going. This also tends to give the other party the impression that you're just as willing to be on the receiving end as you are to be on the projecting end, if you will. People are interesting(well, some aren't, but you gotta approach 'em all without pre-judging them, right?) beings, so ask them reasonable questions and tell them what you think about their answers, and always with respect. Don't actually overdo the asking, but I'm sure you'll be fine. If you can get this going back and forth for a while, then you're having a really good conversation. Good luck!
Sometimes at parties and in groups I have a hard time communicating and being funny with the other people. It's like I just can't get on their wave length of things. It's weird and really dampers things sometimes. And I will be honest, sometimes I do think that the people are just too boring and not highly sociable themselves but put on their fake smiles... I'm not sure though, I'm not all knowing like my man G-O-D. ha.
