OKay I know this is one of those subjects that always start something. But I need help and opions. My husband just realized that I don't want our unborn son to be circed when he is born. He did not like that idea, he is circed and wants his son to look like him. "how am I supose to explain why daddy looks different?" I tried to come up with some good points, but I guess they were not enough. No matter what my son will not be ciecumsized, but I want my hubby to be on my side too. so I need facts opions, etc. All help is greatly apreseated...
I'll assume Daddy will always look different either way so will brothers & uncles. Guys are either tall, short, fat, skinny, white, black, blonde, brunette, bald, or whatever...who says guys have to look alike. Did Daddy's high school gym class all look the same? Probably not, mine didn't. I have 4 sons...Daddy and the 3 oldest are cut, the youngest is 100% natural....nothing added & nothing taken away!
he needs to realize the important thing is the child. circumsion removes a great deal of a mans sexual sensation, why harm your child's future for a look.
My ex felt the same way...But it has to be done before the babay is three weeks old or some hospitals won't do it after that unless it becomes a medical necessity. So I laid out the rules knowing that he wouldn't follow through. He had to make the appintment, get the baby there, and be in the room watching while they did it. Shortly after ds was born he had to have a heel stick for themetabolic tests they do. My midwife came to do the heel stick ex was like "is it going to hurt him?" I looked at him and said, "you know the appointment to cut off a third of his penis has to be made within a week or so." He looked at me sheepishly and said "We can let him keep it." End of problem. H
That argument always baffles me. Do men sit around with their sons admiring and comparing each other's penises? I know they don't where I come from. Maybe it's an American thing? Ask him if he's ever seen his father's penis, and if he did, does he remember what it looked like. Ask him if his son ended up with different colour hair or eyes, if he would be willing to dye his hair or put contacts in, so he'll "look like Daddy". Even if a little boy sees his Daddy's penis, he's going to be far more impressed with the size and hairiness to notice if it's circ'd or not. And if he grows up and questions why his is different, you can tell him; "When Daddy was a baby, everyone thought little boy's penises had to be cut. When you were born, we knew better and decided not to let anyone cut your penis"
Your husband's position on the subject is just as valid as yours; keep talking about it--if you tell him it's your way and that's the end of it, it will just be a source of conflict, like, forever. If you aren't careful, it can cause more than one issue to pop up (namely, respecting and valuing one another's opinions).
http://www.circumstitions.com/Restric/Circ.html You show your husband that and ask him how he would like it if that was his penis.
I was totally against my son being circumsised at first but caved in anyways. After being around cut and uncut babies since my son was born, I have to say that I'm glad his mom was so persistant about it. Lot less complications and after a few days of healing, it's much easier on the boy...As for the person that said something about loss of sexual feeling, I'm saying that's not the case. It's never been proven and well, I'm cut and have no complaints.
Over here (in the UK) circumsision is only preformed for health reasons and/or as religious practise (by Jews, Muslims etc) and is by no means common practise. So I really can't understand this compulsion for it. No guys I know have had it done and are all perfectly fine. Totally ditto Brighid
haha.........how would you know what your missing, of coarse you can't complain. your sex is b/w when you should have full color. http://www.circumcision.org/adults.htm http://www.norm-uk.org/circumcision_lost.html http://www.mothering.com/articles/new_baby/circumcision/protect-uncircson.html http://www.noharmm.org/advantage.htm http://www.cirp.org/library/anatomy/ohara/
No, it DOES deminish sex drive! If you've been cut since birth, how would you know any different? They HAVE done studies involving ADULT men who have been cut and have been sexually active both before and after the procedure. They all report a decrease in sensitivity.
