The Classic Question: Could I Be Bisexual?

I realize this kind of question has been posted many times, but here I go...

Firstly, I'm female. I'm only 15, so maybe my sexual feelings are still developing. For as long as I can remember, I've always masturbated to pictures of women, and have gotten turned on by the sounds of female orgasms. Sorry if this is too much information, but while masturbating, I'd think about a man and a woman going at it, but NEVER was that woman me, and NEVER was the man someone I found attractive. It was never some dead-ugly guy either, just a guy. Anyways, I don't usually find male orgasm sounds to turn me on. And it's nearly impossible for me to masturbate to a picture of any man, no matter how attractive he is.

Recently, I've started thinking about kissing this one woman. I've even begun thinking about going further, though I don't know how much it turns me on, it just sounds "nice to do." The more I think about it, the more erotic it feels. However, I get much more turned on thinking about having sex with men. Again, one man in particular. But the feelings of being with a woman are growing.

In the past, there have been four girls in particular that I felt I really wanted to get closer to, and have even felt almost possessive of, like I would get jealous if they were talking to another girl. If they were talking to a guy, I wouldn't mind for some reason. Maybe this is just me being a possessive friend, I don't know. At the same time, with three of these four girls, I found myself caring about them a lot, and wanting to be closer to them. I may have even thought about kissing them at times, and thinking "that sounds nice." But this may just be me wanting to feel cared about by another person because, and I'm not trying to get a pity party, but I haven't gotten a lot of that romantically.

Another thing - there have been lesbians in our family recently, so in case it is something that can be passed down through families, I might have a bigger chance at getting it.

One last thing (I think), I know it might just be a phase, but keep in mind that every since I was little (way before puberty), I had always gotten turned on by pictures of women. Still, I haven't heavily fantasized about being with one, though. It feels really confusing to me.

So still, I think I prefer men, but women are sounding more and more attractive to me. I should also add that I actually thinking being bisexual would be nice for some reason. I realize the emotional rejection I might receive from some people, but I still wouldn't mind being bi.

And I apologize that this is so long, but I hope it helps someone to help me understand myself better. I've talked to my therapist about this, and she really didn't give me any answer in particular.
Please feel free to ask more questions, and apologize that I haven't posted anywhere else on the forum, but I wanted to go to a place where I know I'll be accepted either way, and where there are some people with perhaps similar experiences.
Thanks!

 

What makes you think you are sexually attracted to men?

 

I've had sex dreams with men before, I get plenty wet when I see a man I like. (Though, I don't know what this means, but I can only get wet when I see the man I currently like - it doesn't matter how attractive you are, if I don't like you emotionally, I can't get wet.)

Just, trust me, I do find men extremely attractive. However, I'm not afraid to be a lesbian, it's just that I have always found men to be more appealing to me. It's just that, for some reason, I can only masturbate to pictures of women. Confusing, huh? Sounds like I'm lying to myself? Well, I'm not. I can guarantee you that. I'm still sorta confused though, because I fantasize about being with men, yet I can't masturbate to pictures of men.

 

Well, I don't know. But I'm a bit surprised and impressed with your honesty and direct expression. That's unusual for someone your age.

I'm also impressed with the intensity of your introspection-- also unusual. I am convinced that you will be fine. Try not to over-think attraction. It seems that you are emotionally attracted to males and physically attracted to females right now. This may change over time, too.

I would advise you to let your attractions and feelings be, and enjoy them for what they are. There's certainly nothing wrong with you as far as I can tell.

 

You could have sex with a dude and see if you like it.
Then have sex with a chick and see if you like it.
If you like em both, you could very well be bisexual.

 

Thank you very much for you input. Sorry, I don't have much else to say!

Other opinions would still be appreciated! (But I am thankful for this opinion, too!)

 

Well thats a rather optomistic way to tell someone to fuck off.

 

LMAO!

It would take a 16 year old to advise a 15 year old to "fuck it and see!"

But, shit...yeah, that would be one way to resolve the issue, at least for the time being.

 

Was she talking to you or me?

Maybe both of us...

 

I think maybe both haha.

Hey, my idea was brilliant. She should take that advice and run.

 

sydney i kinda had similar thoughts when i was 13. (im a guy). i wasnt really sure if i was gonna be straight at all. i am straight and am confident about my sexuality. it sounds like u kinda fear being attracted to women by the way u said "I might have a bigger chance at getting it." you make it sound like a disease. whether or not you turn out to be straight gay or bisexual u should be confident about ur sexuality. it doesnt really matter what other people think as long as ur happy. a lot of the things ur saying did relate to me when i was 13 though i hadnt started masturbating yet. i didnt start that until i was 14. ignore didy and go with what standingseated said. just let ur attractions and feelings be. ull know what u r when the time comes.

 

Fuck you, my advice was priceless.

Lmfao you didn't start masturbating until you were 14? Talk about a late bloomer

 

ya i know i was a late bloomer. who cares. ive probly had more action then u had by the time i was 15 though. but thats not what this thread is for so it doesnt really matter.

 

Sorry, I was dumb and didn't realize earlier two people were talking to me. I should've known, but instead I just looked at the pictures that were the same and assumed.

As far as "fucking and seeing," nah, I'll pass on that for now, haha.

I thank everyone for actually taking the time to read my post and reply.

However, I do want to say that, at least I think, I'm not afraid of being bisexual. It doesn't really matter to me. But wow, I'd love to ask how you went so long without masturbating, but, like you said, I guess this really isn't the place to talk about that.

 

If you feel we've answered your question, this can be a place to talk about anything now.

Or, are you asking Shadow to make a thread about his masturbation history?

 

Yeah, you nailed it right there.

 

Well, I'd still like to hear others' opinions, too. But, again, I thank everyone that has said something here.

 

Oh yeah, you've definitely had more action than me, you're a sexy beast.

 

im a little concerned that u find me sexy. like i said im not gay. as in not into u. didy just because u have a small penis doesnt give u the right to be immature. someday ur penis might be more than 3 inches... maybe when u hit puberty

 

Hey--I know this is a bit late and the thread is a few days old, but I figure I'll answer anyway. You sound like you're in a similar situation to me, maybe not the details but the general picture. (I'm 16 by the way.) I don't think anyone can give you a straight answer as to what it all means, because only you can figure out what you're feeling. But my advice is, if you're unsure, there's nothing wrong with experimenting both ways (I'm not saying go have sex with a bunch of people and see what you like, but just don't be afraid to try relationships and the like with anyone you think you might like). That's where I'm headed. Good luck, and if you want to chat more feel free to message me