Alright, I have a bit of an issue: I just finished my first year of university, and my boyfriend is about to enter his first year this coming fall. The issue is that he would like to go to a better school with a better name. I have a full scholarship at the school we are currently attending, and switching would mean giving that up and paying for 3 more years of school (because I didn't take mandatory courses first year for my chosen major). So my question is: do we pack up and move away from home for the first time to go to this better school? but also leave behind my scholarship, family, be forced to take out a loan, get a new job and start all over again... We're living in our own place right now, just purchased new furniture and moved in. We're also painting the place. It seems like such a waste to leave it after going through all the trouble to paint and move in after one year. I don't know what to do, because my boyfriend is adamant that we go to this better school. Another thing to consider: we both intend on pursueing a master's: me in psychology, and him in English. What do you think?
You are about 19 or 20 then right? You should not ruin the good thing you have going just for some boy. No matter how much you love him now, you may not in a few years. I’m only a few years older then you, but I had many female friends who planned their collage around what their boyfriend wanted to do. And many of them ended up getting burned, because when you break up all of the sudden you are the one worse off. He still is exactly where he wants to be with or without you. But you are the one who all of the sudden has no scholarship or any of that good stuff you had before. It sounds to me like you have allow invested in where you are at now. And if you two are interested in a masters degree, you could always look into taking those classes at this other university in a few years. And by that time you two would have been living together for a few more years, and you would have a better idea of the potential of the relationship. Employers just care that you got that collage degree, not so much where you got it from, as long as it’s a credible collage. People get too caught up in the name.
That is something that I will consider. I would be inclined to agree that the name isn't a massive deal. Not something worth giving up a scholarship for. I mean, we could get that good name from the school we get our Master's in. I just feel awful, because in order to do this, we need to live in a small, boring hick city for 4 more years, and that's a long time. Especially when my boyfriend hates it.
Does no one else have an opinion? What is worth more: A degree from a decent school, or a free degree?
honestly, for a bachelors degree.. i'd stick with the free option. no employer is going to look at your university to decide if they're going to hire you or not. for a masters, i'd move. but for a bachelors, i'd stick it out and get my education for free. congrats on that btw, thats awesome
break up with himm and enjoy your scholarship--unless hes paying---you dont needstudent loans following u around for years fucking up your credit
Well, I'm not going to break up with him If I decide to stay (which I probably will) he has told me that he will stay with me. I just know that he wishes he could leave the city we're currently in and go to a (slightly) better school. I think sticking it out for my bachelors is the best idea and probably is what I will do.
