It's the summer... and I'm horny

Im allowed to get mad.. really Id like to bend over Stellas boyfriend and turn him into my bitch since the faggot cant take care of his women.. :toetap05:

 

hey buddy, how ya doin (thread jacking in progress)?

spent much time on the computer lately?

 

.. Just what the lady needs, a finger..

 

We are just super out of sync it seems.
I have expressed my needs and his answer was basically "It'll get better come September". Which made NO FUCKING sense to me, seeing as come september he's moving back to school 2 hours away and I'll be seeing him every 2 weeks.

We both like being the dominant one. But he only tolerates my dominance when it's in the form of me pretending to fight back whilst he's throwing me around like a rag doll.
And I enjoy submission, but, like anything else, if that's ALL we do, it gets real old real quick. Any time I try to get on him and take charge, he's very much opposed. I can literally only think of one time where I was "allowed" to take charge. I like BALANCED sexual encounters. One person takes to lead, then the other person, power play, back and forth.

All the other girls he's been with had major self esteem issues and all the sex was humiliating and involved a lot of force and restraining and violence. And I'm down for a crazy romp like that, but not all the time. We've yet to really just have good, slow, romantic sex. It always turned really rough really fast.

Is it wrong that in these times, I just really want to bed another lady like the old days ?

 

dude again, i'd express everything to him and hear it from him. if you're not in sync you're not in sync and then why bother?

try respecting yourself and taking care of yourself/your needs, and if you're interested in a romantic and/or sexual relationship then don't settle for incompatibility. you don't need to suffer through a relationship. this is just my 2c.

 

Do you love him?

 

incompatible relationships are the worst... especially when you have a false hope that maybe it can be worked out.. because it just gets worse and worse and worse until it finally explodes.. and then you have dug yourself into an even deeper hole of depression

 

yah it's no good. you have to question why you remain together if you're incompatible. especially if it's not being discussed. big issues there

 

I third this. remember honey good enough sex isn't good enough. Why settle for a relationship you aren't feeling satisfied with? especially if its about to get long distance.

 

If your gonna be a dick why don't you just stay gone.

 

bigger issue here is, a Fine piece of pussy going to waste..

 

Ugh, this reminds me of the last two weeks of my relationship.We had sex for the last time on Saturday and it seemed so passionate and he told be he loved me a few times....then he gets really tired and falls asleep with his body faced the other way for a good half hour or so.I got so upset and felt used.If I found out my ex was cheating on me I don't even know what I'd do....A part of me wouldn't be too surprised with the way he had been acting.Obviously something has to be wrong if your bf's just randomly acting that way.Hopefully he's not lying to you or anything.I don't think you or anyone needs this.You're better than that mama.

 

So we talked it out yesterday.
And I expressed my need for intimacy and that after a few days without it I start thinking there is something wrong with me and/or our relationship.
I also expressed my need to be dominant more and be able to initiate the sex when I'm horny.
I also admitted that because I have been down in the dumps recently, I have been in need of reassurance and extra intimacy, so my perception was a bit off.

He reassured me that the lack of sex is really because the amount of stress he is under and has nothing to do with me or the relationship.
He was upset that after a few days like this, I start saying things like "What, you don't like to kiss me anymore?" and I recognized this. He said when I say things like this, he feels that all the love he DOES show was in vain and then he kind of shuts off.

I apologized for nearly raping him. I vowed to respect his space more in the future if he really is not in the mood and talk to him before grabbing his dick.

He apologized for being physically stand offish and vowed in the future to clearly assure me that the distance is purely related to work/stress, not me.

Then we had mega healing marathon sex from 9pm till 1 am.
Success.

 

Congo-rats Stella, hope there is more sex to cum

 

Still sounds like a relationship that's held together by sex.. might as well just be fuck buddies.. and drop the emotional complications of the "relationship"

 

Nah, I don't think it's held together by sex seeing as we already did the long distance relationship last semester so our relationship was built on long phone conversations.

But whatevs, whatever will be, will be.

 

ooh la la

 

sounds like some great things have happened, hopefully more progress will come from this cheers

 

:biggrin::rofl: my thoughts exactly

 

Tell your man "You're MY bitch NOW. *with a whip in your hand* "do you want this the easy or the hard way??" WAIT dont give him a choice! Just go at it. he'll give in.