How can I help my boyfriend?

I have a sort of unusual problem. A couple of weeks ago, my boyfriend and I had sex. It was his first time, but not mine. We've had sex a few times since then. We've discovered he has INCREDIBLE stamina. In the few times we've had sex, he's never once orgasmed. And each time we went at it for at least an hour. Now, while I can't complain about the mind-blowing sex and multiple orgasms, I feel bad that he hasn't cum. He says he doesn't mind, and that it's still extremely pleasurable for him, but I want him to get to that next step. What are some things I can do to help him out?

Additional details - As I said before, he was a virgin the first time. We've tried oral, and mutual masturbation (hand jobs), and a number of different positions. I appreciate any suggestions/tips/advice.

 

I had the same problem when I first started. It will happen with time. He's got to get more comfortable with the whole act and with himself as a sexual being and then with you as a sexual being. It's just a matter of getting used to it and accepting it all.

Maybe he was raised in a religious home. I know I was. That's probably what screwed me up.

 

Thanks. I'm sure that's part of it, I was just wondering if there was anything I could do to help him.

And definitely not. In addition to not being religious at all, his parents are really chill with everything.

 

I'd say the best you can do is keep on him about it.

 

Let him be how he is - believe me, I'd rather bang my old lady for a few hours than blow off in a few minutes. Guy's orgasms aren't all that great - quick little rush, blah blah blah... I'd rather have the wife squealing uncle.

 

No I disagree, just let him cum in his own time it will happen. When he does he will have given his all to you and he will be yours, hes a special guy you will see.

 

Um...I meant it as a double entendre. I should have put a after it.

 

Relax. Enjoy. Don't make his sex life any more your business than that he is happy with it. You have no business interfering any farther. Why worry if he is happy? Why? You're sounding as though you think you know better what's good for him than he does. That is intrusive thinking. It is wrong. Cannot you just be happy with what you have? It sounds great to me. BTW, it sounds as if he is on prescription drugs for depression. Maybe he doesn't want to tell you. Honor his wish. The sexual side effects of those drugs are exactly what you describe.

 

I agree with the poster who asked about his masturbation. If he can make himself cum through his own manual stimulation, and in relatively short time (I can probably go from stop to finish in 2 minutes or less without much trouble) then it is probably more of a mental block. He needs to get comfortable with you.
Maybe talk to him about what he likes and what he wants to do and what he wants you to do. Give him some control and see if that helps!

 

i used to be like that too when i started lol i think its probably mostly being relaxed and comfortable like others have said. Maybe not give him total control, but dont take it all either. Lots of foreplay, maybe even a little teasing as long as u dont make it seem like u dont want it. let him know you do, with actions mostly but some words too. but dont make the focus all about him either... cos that might feel like pressure. So i dont think making a point of it would be a good think, just maybe gentle touches and kisses, neck, ears...

and when u cum, let him know it!!!

maybe if when your ready for it while having sex u could kneel and ask him to cum on you all cute and naughty... just when we cums u can move into whatever position to get it where you dont mind it lol

or theres trying porn maybe

i think its all about him being comfortable, at ease, and getting into his mind so that all he can think of it that you want him and his cum and no room for any pressure or worry or thoughts.

 

I had the same problem with one of my boyfriends. We eventually found out, that he could only come when he strongly dominated me. Since I was ok with submitting myself anyway, we finally got him to cum.

 

ive been thru the sam exact thing u just said
word for word same thing
im not kidding u
i would get literally tered of all the positions we would do
and he wouldnt orgasim
until i read sumtin sumwhere that helped me figure out were his trigger points r
so he just has to get more comfortable
and practice makes perfect
the more the practice
the better the sex might get

 

Well, the problem is that he's a woman.......in all seriousness however, he is most likely still just a little nervous about it so give it a little time.

 

Yeah not to disparage the OP but it's a bit like killing the goose that laid the golden egg. Relax and enjoy. He's one in a million.