Well, I spose this will be a pretty generic thread. Oh well. Here goes. So, I started going out with this girl about a year ago, and we had a really good relationship until we broke because because of this issue with her dad in December ('08). After that she got this boyfriend who up until now she still hasn't broken up with. (It probably goes without saying that I hate this guy.) Anyway, since then she's been cheating on him with me, telling me she still loves me, but at the same time refuses to break up with him. She claims she has feelings for him and all that bullshit. It's worth saying that I'm pretty sure I'm love with her. But down to the point, I'd really love to know what I should do about this situation. (Typo; I meant "advice" in the heading.)
Sounds to me like she's just playing the field, friend. Give her an ultimatum and then back off and let things sort out.
I'm going to use tough love. Even though I don't know or love you. Take a little bit of time, find your balls wherever they went, and here is how your conversation with her should go verbatim: You: "Alright listen (feel free to use the word bitch here), you're fuckin me around and it ends now!" Her: "Well, I don't know, I just need some time to think and...." You: "No, fuck it, we settle this now." Her: "You can't just put me on the spot like this (insert your name here)" (This is where she'll start to fake crying.) You: "Well I am so, whats it gonna be?" Her: "I can't though..." You: "Fuck it then, we're done." Then walk away and I guarantee you're balls will swell with pride and you'll leave her looking at you like a man and not the little pushover she see's you as now. Then I suggest you promtly go home, shower, then go out and fuck a tighter pussy with your new and improved big man balls. Peace and good luck
I agree with everything, but the bitch part. I'm sure if you call her a bitch she will slap you or atleast I would lol. Just tell her how it is, you'll feel better about sticking up for yourself and in the end thats what matters is yourself. Don't worry about her, if she want to be with you she will be with you. If not then you can give your love to someone who deserves it.
I really see little in my OP to indicate that I'm a ball-less pushover. My attitude is not, "Well, you go whatever you want." I've told her what to do. The issue is slightly more intricate than you seem to think it is. I'll elaborate, but I need questions. Although, if an ultimatum is what it takes, that's what's been gradually creeping into my thoughts.
Hi,I think its time that you talk to her about the relationship.Girls are like monkeys,swinging from tree to tree.She must be geting something from that guy that you are lacking.Take it easy,find new girls to date and see if she misses u when you are apart.Its how much she values you that matters.At the end of he day she's gotta be making a choice.As for yourself,I dont think you would care much if you had more women wanting to date you.So show her your alpha male side by not being needy with her.You're the man.We hold the ball the whole time.
She's cheating on him, she'll cheat on you. If you think being the deceived boyfriend is more desirable than being the man on the side then I guess just keep waiting and maybe you'll eventually move up a spot in the line. Just remember there's going to be another guy taking over your old position eventually. She's already proven her willingness to be dishonest in her relationships. I'm not real sure why you'd want a part of that, it won't end well. I'd be bailing out right about now if I were you.
