i need some advice on this one....theres this girl that i;ve known for about 12 years and we are the best of friends...and im in love with her, she knows this and everyone else keeps saying that sooner or later we;re gonna hook up but it doesnt look that way from how she is with her new boyfriend, whom might i add is a complete DICK to her..everytime i see him i wanna kick his ass...what should i do?
Let he do her own thing and learn from her mistakes but dont lie to her when she asks you what you think.
wait it out... the right time will come. when it does, based on what you said, i think you could end up having a great relationship with her. potentially, anyway. but don't kick her current boyfriend's ass.. she might think you're disrespecting her. rather, when you see him, put a smug grin on your face. because all three of you know that when those two break up, she's going to go running to you -- her best friend -- for comfort and support.
Unscrew her head and shit down her neck! lol No, I'm kidding, ofcourse. If she comes running to you after him, that means you're a comfort blanket, and if a relationship forms while she's on that swing rebound, that relationship is doomed to swift failure, my friend. Don't ever start dating a girl who needs you for comfort. What do I say? I say you should wait it out, let her come to you with any problems she may have, and while you're waiting it out, keep your eye out for other women. Relying on one woman isn't always the best of ideas, man. In fact, it never is.
yeah, i'm definitely not saying that you should take advantage of her when she's looking to you for comfort. if you start a relationship off by exploiting her weakness, it will definitely be doomed like musicman said. by running to you for comfort and support, it shows that you are the one she is closest to. you are the one she trusts more. essentially, you are the one that matters. but yeah, if you want a relationship with her, don't try and jump her while she's crying on your shoulder on the rebound. whether you always remain best friends, or if you end up dating at some point in the future, you have a much higher level of friendship and trust with her. her boyfriend probably sees that on some level, and it might intimidate him. no matter what happens, because of your friendship, you and her will remain friends much longer than she and her current boyfriend will. as long as you don't kick his ass (unless he really deserves it).
i just dont want to show her how i fully feel right or even after she breaks up with her boyfriend because idont want her to go out with me because of sympathy...thats my only fear...
yeah, dude, definitely wait a little while after the two of them break up. wait until it no longer affects her and she's completely over him. like musicman said, wait till she's not on the rebound. until you're able to be with her, just enjoy the time you get to spend together, as friends. wow, that sounds kind of trite... but whether she's your girlfriend or your best friend, you can still have a great time together (although the latter implies no sex). even if she has a boyfriend, you still get to enjoy her company and spend time with her. no matter what you label her, she's still the same person. it's understandable to have worries about talking to her about this. it's totally natural... just don't let it take over your thoughts. try not to worry too much (MUCH easier said than done) and just wait until you know it's the right time. i really hope she doesn't date you out of pity, as well. if she's as close of a friend as you say, i think she would be honest with you.
thats the kind of person she is she is completely honest with her feelings and thats why she always gets these dick head guys that like to take advantage of her and it is MUCH MUCH easier said than done because that has been the dominant thought in my head lately and i almost dont want it to stop because i love thinking about her and spending time with her thanx for the advice
