Girlfriend never goes out with me....read what I mean.

Okay, so after being engaged for almost a year I got back to dating in March.

So I've seen several women but there is one I've maintained more contact with, I do not refer to her as my girlfriend, I just thought the topic title would draw more interest, I refer to her as a girl I've been seeing.

But the bottom line is it's not an open relationship, she is busy with her family work and we do see each other for dates at least once a week.

The only thing that bothers me is once in a while she goes out to a party and then to a club, this happens like once every 3 weeks, I'd say once a month but it seems like 3 times in a two month period.

Whenever I propose going to a party she always refuses saying she's not a drinker and she has work in the morning, which she does 3-4 days of the week.

Honestly if she " cheated " on me I wouldn't care for the reason that we're just not attached all that strongly, it's like a friends with benefits relationship essentially, but I am bothered how she never wants to go to a party or club with me, our dates are always one on one going to a park, or a movie, etc.

Meh, I go some weekends to my buddy's 2 hours away and we hit some clubs where I see how far I can pick up a woman, but I never go as far as sex because I feel some kind of obligation to this girl.

 

A paper bag with holes cut out for the eyes maybe?

 

LOL, it would make the situation so much simpler if I knew I was fat or unattractive and she only liked me for my personality.

But it's more the opposite, she calls me an arrogant ass but still has sex with me.

 

To the OP i have been married for 4 years together with my husband 7 . I rarely ever go out with him , i'm not a big drinker nor do i do drugs. I'm not in the club scene and pub scene. The only time i ever go to the bar is when he plays his gigs and i take pictures for him. i have a few drinks and dance. Other than that we go for walks along the river path take the kids to the beach or park and hang out at the house. I am totally against cheating i think its lower than low and i would never ever think of doing that to my husband

 

Might be the other way then, she doesnt want to go out in public with you, cos you get checked out more than she does

 

as long as you dont live with her.. ..

 

Perhaps she's just not that interested in a relationship, and you shouldn't feel guilty about hooking up with other girls. Seems pretty cut-and-dry to me.

 

See she's brought this up before.

The conversation went something like this:

Her: " I don't want to be tied down, but I still want to keep seeing you "

Me: " As a friend? "

Her: " No, not really "

Me: " SO what do you want from me? "

Her: " I don't know, like, we should still see each other but not get to serious "

Me: " So you want to see other guys? "

Her: " No, I want you, but I don't want to only spend my time with you "

Me: " Can I see other women? "

Her: " Sure "

Me: " Can I sleep with other women? "

Her: " So you don't care about me? "

Me: " Well you said you don't want to get emotionally serious, you're not going to see other guys romantically and you don't want me to sleep with other women, that's called a relationship "

Her: " Okay yeah, but it's not like we call each other every day "

Me: " I never do that "

Her: " Well I do if I'm in a relationship with a guy "

Me: " I'm more a face to face person than on the phone "


Then the convo kinda drifts off somewhere else.

 

You seem like you'd have no problems finding someone more compatible with you. Cut this one loose and go live your life!