If your refering to my last post then you can be 100% sure. You simply embrace the illusion of total monogamy. It's kind of fucked up isn't it? Considering the facts
People have a past, so what? There are things people just dont want to discuss because they want to forget about it. now if it was affecting the relationship before marriage or sex, then it'll be okay to talk about, but if not, why discuss? Im scared to tell the men i want to date who i had sex with, because I was a bit sexual but i was safe at the same time but how are they going to think about it? Its not harming anyone or myself. I'll just tell them 3 men for a while but i wont tell him about the 2 others. they were just mistakes and one time deals. but again why would they need to know that? Im clean, its not affecting me, it might cause a conflict but thats something i dont want to deal with
I think honesty , trust and openness with each other is an important part of our relationship. I couldn't trust someone that started the relationship on a lie.(in my case it would be a lie , because he said he had x amt of partners - but in a dif case it might not be ,like if you told your partner you had a lot of sexual partners and regrts but just left out the details) It would harm my relationship- I would have a really hard time trusting that person.
well I just told the guy i wanted to date if he wanted to know and he said "it doesnt really matter" now that i look back. i been with a lot of assholes... ah well. at least he doesnt know how many
I agree with naed, if I didn't find out until AFTER that particular guy and I were in a relationship, sexual or not, for a long period of time, I would be pissed. I have trust issues as it is, and I've been with some BIG liars, so it wouldn't surprise me, it would just hurt me. I wouldn't want to be with someone that keeps something from me because it might 'hurt my feelings'....
I completely disagree. It may be something most people would never do, and yes, is a huge taboo, but I don't see the problem with consenting adults making this exchange. I would love to see a red light district created in downtown Toronto. I fully support women who actively and with health of mind choose to work in the sex industry, and think their livelihoods should be protected with regular checkups....its safer for everyone.
Cheating ? - Lets do the math Lets say the average brothel has 10 girls, each doing 10 guys a night, 7 days a week 364 days = 254800 jiggy jigs a year Lets use a city like Boston as an example 12,500 people per sq mile lets be conservative, say there is a brothel every 5 square miles. In that area there is 62500 people, lets say 30,000 are guys over 18 So its somewhere between 100% of those guys 8 times a year, or 1% of those guys 850 times a year. Even low end: average brothel has 6 girls each 4 guys a night x 7 days x 364 =61152 per annum, one every 10 square miles, 60000 guys in that area Somewhere between 100% once a year or 1% 102 times a year And yet you've got every dude in public saying Pfft, I dont need to pay for it, thats skanky, yada yada. Sorry, didnt mean to scare you all, and my math might be out but hey....
I don't have a problem with prostitution, but I'd be extremely pissed he didn't tell me. But I don't have to worry about stuff like that because my bf is amazing.
no. it would not affect me in any way. this is his own buissnes, he did it before we hooked up so wahtever
I'll never understand the need to know everything about your partner's past. No good ever comes from it, and it's got nothing to do with honesty or trust until someone asks and the other lies. As for prostitution, I don't think it's inherently dirty or sleazy or whatever. Sex is a basic human right, and as long as everyone is consenting there's no reason to deprive those who are unable to get laid of sex. Prostitutes also enable people with fetishes or desires of which they are embarrassed or don't want to ask their partner for, to get off.
I know I'm not technically supposed to participate in this thread, but I'm kinda like a girl. I don't think I'd care honestly. As long as he had used a condom. It might actually amuse me. Btw prositution is legal in a bunch of countries.